A friend of mine is being abused.

[The Joker]

I just found out her dad is physically and mentally abusing her.

She said on FB, "I'm not exactly sure... He just started freaking out when I got home, and he's all like "You stubborn, twisted,little fucking bitch.. you're lucky I let you live here" and he keeps saying he's gonna kick me out.."

She's been adding in "lols" and ":P"s everywhere, and said it wasn't a big deal because it didn't hurt any more. I'm trying to tell her to tell a counselor, she doesn't really seem to be listening. What do I do?

[Ender]

Matt, I personally would take the step of talking to an adult about it. I know it may seem right, but she's crying out for help by posting it on FB, go find an adult and tell them, preferably one of some authority, and let them take care of the situation. If she wont make the contact, yet is crying out for the help, help her get it.

Hope I helped.

[hotandgay]

NEVER SUGGEST A COUNCILOR...what you should do is just try to get her out of the house and when she is out have a heart to heart convo...but it will be hard...people usually dont want help because they think they dont need it what you really need to suggest is for her to talk to an adult or just a good friend of some type of superiority

[The Joker]

Uh, how can I get her out?

[hotandgay]

Uh, how can I get her out?

thats just the thing...what if she wants the attention if she really wanted out she would be...like me i put myself in foster care...if she wants out tell her to go to court or something and say that she is deprived...they will set her in a temp foster home for about two months then further evaluations will be considered in court...

[Kahn]

NEVER SUGGEST A COUNCILOR...what you should do is just try to get her out of the house and when she is out have a heart to heart convo...but it will be hard...people usually dont want help because they think they dont need it what you really need to suggest is for her to talk to an adult or just a good friend of some type of superiority

No. Don't listen to this.

Suggest a councelor, or some other adult figure. She needs to tell someone, and since you are not an adult you can't do much. You can't magically appear at her house and evacuate her, and you are endangering yourself by doing this. It's the wrong way to go about things.

If she doesn't listen to you, then take it into your own hands. It may be difficult telling someone else about another persons problem, but if you care enough for her you're willing to do it to get her to safety. It's a horrible crime, abuse, and it needs to be stopped whenever possible. You have the power to stop it Matt. You can help her, you just need to be willing enough to do it.

[Ender]

Suggest a councelor, or some other adult figure. She needs to tell someone, and since you are not an adult you can't do much. You can't magically appear at her house and evacuate her, and you are endangering yourself by doing this. It's the wrong way to go about things.

If she doesn't listen to you, then take it into your own hands. It may be difficult telling someone else about another persons problem, but if you care enough for her you're willing to do it to get her to safety. It's a horrible crime, abuse, and it needs to be stopped whenever possible. You have the power to stop it Matt. You can help her, you just need to be willing enough to do it.
This is what I meant, but worded better. Listen to this. Thank you Adamas.

[hotandgay]

No. Don't listen to this.

Suggest a councelor, or some other adult figure. She needs to tell someone, and since you are not an adult you can't do much. You can't magically appear at her house and evacuate her, and you are endangering yourself by doing this. It's the wrong way to go about things.

If she doesn't listen to you, then take it into your own hands. It may be difficult telling someone else about another persons problem, but if you care enough for her you're willing to do it to get her to safety. It's a horrible crime, abuse, and it needs to be stopped whenever possible. You have the power to stop it Matt. You can help her, you just need to be willing enough to do it.

Trust me dont do it it just makes it much worse...i did a counselor and i couldn't stay at home anymore because of fear...DONT DO IT...well you can suggest it but dont pressure it...ig suggesting it and she prolly wont do it

[Kahn]

Trust me dont do it it just makes it much worse...i did a counselor and i couldn't stay at home anymore because of fear...DONT DO IT...well you can suggest it but dont pressure it...ig suggesting it and she prolly wont do it

Do you realize how bad it could be without having another adult intervene? Not only would you endanger yourself, but you would be making her more susceptible to abuse. We're trying to help her, not hurt her. Without intervention from an adult, everything will become worse.

Sure, things will be hectic in the beginning, but no matter how he goes about this they are going to be. Telling an authority figure is the best choice.

[hotandgay]

Do you realize how bad it could be without having another adult intervene? Not only would you endanger yourself, but you would be making her more susceptible to abuse. We're trying to help her, not hurt her. Without intervention from an adult, everything will become worse.

Sure, things will be hectic in the beginning, but no matter how he goes about this they are going to be. Telling an authority figure is the best choice.

hey now i just said dont do a counselor if you read my first post you will see that i suggest some one who is more superior or and adult...but never do councilors

[Ender]

Telling an authority figure is the best choice.

Pretty much a good way to turn when your only way of helping is;

-One you are unsure of
-One that could land you in danger

These guys are trained professionals, so when worse come to worse, they are your best bet.

[Kahn]

hey now i just said dont do a counselor if you read my first post you will see that i suggest some one who is more superior or and adult...but never do councilors

Councillors are authority. They can contact the police, and it will make it more believable. Coming from a kid, to most officers, it may be unbelievable or it may not be as serious as it sounds.

[hotandgay]

Pretty much a good way to turn when your only way of helping is;

-One you are unsure of
-One that could land you in danger

These guys are trained professionals, so when worse come to worse, they are your best bet.

yeah at times...but when i called for help to them they wrote me a citation for curfew...all they want is the money and with each citation they get a bonus...its risky but i do have to admit after the 3rd time of me calling them i finally got help but things got way worse

[hotandgay]

Councillors are authority. They can contact the police, and it will make it more believable. Coming from a kid, to most officers, it may be unbelievable or it may not be as serious as it sounds.

why are you still on the councilors side...they suck all they do it make you talk then they tell your parents and "try to fix it" i like the popo idea better

[Ender]

yeah at times...but when i called for help to them they wrote me a citation for curfew...all they want is the money and with each citation they get a bonus...its risky but i do have to admit after the 3rd time of me calling them i finally got help but things got way worse

Lmfao, cops dont make commisions off of citations. They get their hourly wage and thats it. No quotas etc.

If you handle the situation properly, you should get it handled on the first one or two call outs.

[hotandgay]

Lmfao, cops dont make commisions off of citations. They get their hourly wage and thats it. No quotas etc.

If you handle the situation properly, you should get it handled on the first one or two call outs.

well i herd that they do make commission thats why around the time of getting a check they really crack down......sorry i kno its not good to make a joke but it was just set up perfectly

~ That was an uneccessary comment. Please refrain from using inappropriate jokes, even if it is about the "popo." This thread is for helping, not arguing. If you want to argue about this, PM me.

[Kahn]

why are you still on the councilors side...they suck all they do it make you talk then they tell your parents and "try to fix it" i like the popo idea better

You do realize, a situation this serious will not be resolved by "talking to the parents"? Councillors realize this, and not all are like the one that you have experienced. It takes more than one to base judgement, and judging all on the one is extremely naive.

Councillors will help more than you think ;)

[hotandgay]

You do realize, a situation this serious will not be resolved by "talking to the parents"? Councillors realize this, and not all are like the one that you have experienced. It takes more than one to base judgement, and judging all on the one is extremely naive.

Councillors will help more than you think ;)

there just a load of crock shit...i mean like really you still cant spell it right so they must not that great...i have been to many people for help and COUNCILORS are the worst then therapists then parents then popos then just going to court for being a deprived child (it took me a few times calling the cops for that last one) councilors are the lowest of the low...and i have been to many and all there all the same...like principals they say there going to make it better but in the end its worse than the start

[Ender]

there just a load of crock shit...i mean like really you still cant spell it right so they must not that great...i have been to many people for help and COUNCILORS are the worst then therapists then parents then popos then just going to court for being a deprived child (it took me a few times calling the cops for that last one) councilors are the lowest of the low...and i have been to many and all there all the same...like principals they say there going to make it better but in the end its worse than the start

1. what does spelling have to do with anything here?
2. I don't know where you got your "help", but even so. Sometimes different things work better for different people, and you just had a harder time with your situation.

[hotandgay]

1. what does spelling have to do with anything here?
2. I don't know where you got your "help", but even so. Sometimes different things work better for different people, and you just had a harder time with your situation.

ok i give up...im tiered of arguing with yall...what you should do for her is somthing that she agrees with if she dont agree with anything wait a few days and if she still dont agree follow your gut...its always the best thing to do...AND COUNCILORS SUCK btw...lol pce

[Kahn]

there just a load of crock shit...i mean like really you still cant spell it right so they must not that great...i have been to many people for help and COUNCILORS are the worst then therapists then parents then popos then just going to court for being a deprived child (it took me a few times calling the cops for that last one) councilors are the lowest of the low...and i have been to many and all there all the same...like principals they say there going to make it better but in the end its worse than the start

I'm finished arguing with you. I came in this thread with the intention to help Matt, and ended up arguing with you that councilors can be beneficial. I'm finished. If you want to continue this further, you can PM me.

A side note, please stop regarding towards Police Officers as "popo." It is extremely degrading considering their role in society. Councilors can benefit, and just because you can't spell their name doesn't mean their profession can mean something. If they had more common worse effects on their subjects than positive, than they wouldn't be in the profession. They do everything in their power to help someone. It just so happened your experience with a councilor was unfortunate. You cannot judge the whole profession on your one experience. It may just be who you are and what your problem was.

By the way, we moderators are like councilors. We're here to help and give people advice when needed. ;)

(If you want to continue to argue, PM me. This thread does not need anymore useless posts. Thanks.)

[Sith Lord 13]

Honestly, you need to get an adult who knows how to handle a situation like this. Best hierarchy: Therapist, doctor, school counselor, trusted teacher/administrator, cop.
First one in that list you can get to is your best option.