girl at school...

[bmxkid313]

so theirs this girl at school ,Samantha. i like her and its... ill just tell the story.so the face book app "Friend Facts" is an app that you answer random questions about random people you are friends with. She answered a question about me that was "Do you think Ryan is cute?" she answered yes but i never met her and i had no idea who she was so after that i went to her profile and looked at her pics and noticed she was very pretty, then because i didn't know her i kept my eyes open just in case i seen her i would know who she was, so after a few weeks i didn't see her. then there was a fire drill and i seen her when i was walking back to my class. she was going the same direction i was and i seen she was in the room next to me, the whole time,on the other side of a wall. now when the bell rings i go the other way so i can see her, even though we don't talk. i don't fallow her or stalk her in anyway. than i was on the app friend facts ad a question came up "Do you or have you ever had a crush on Samantha?" i answered yes. than after the bell rang we would walk past each other and she would kind of 'glare' at me in a cute kind of way that i liked and i would look back and not really do much of anything. so today i was walking to my locker after class and she walked at a faster than normal pace and went directly next to me and in front of me then slowed to a normal speed like she wanted me to notice her or say something but being the shy person i am i didn't say anything. i would like to talk to her but im not a good talker and like i said i am shy. another thing is i never had a girlfriend so i would be understandably nervous. also she has a lot of friends and i have close to none, and if somebody asked who my best friend was i don't know what i would say. im 14 a freshman in high school and so is she.
what should i do or say?

[Bmatlman]

im 13 and in 7th grade but the same exact thing is happening to me. I'd see if you could if some way "acidentaly" bump run into her at some point. make it seem as acidental as possible though. just say sorry if you say anything and then pay atention to what she does. that is crucial. like if she seems happy at first then that might mean something. make sure you watch her every movement and signal she gives from the the first moment she relizes its you. if you have any qeustions about what she does and what it means just ask me or ask a girl.

p.s. if your wondering how i know this its beacause i have gotten alot of friends who are girls who dicided to help me with these kind of things since i used to be completely ignorint in this department.

[bmxkid313]

im 13 and in 7th grade but the same exact thing is happening to me. I'd see if you could if some way "acidentaly" bump run into her at some point. make it seem as acidental as possible though. just say sorry if you say anything and then pay atention to what she does. that is crucial. like if she seems happy at first then that might mean something. make sure you watch her every movement and signal she gives from the the first moment she relizes its you. if you have any qeustions about what she does and what it means just ask me or ask a girl.

p.s. if your wondering how i know this its beacause i have gotten alot of friends who are girls who dicided to help me with these kind of things since i used to be completely ignorint in this department.

thats exacly what i was thinking, if maybe we bumped into each other or somthing than we would most likley end up talking. also after school i seen her status was ''He'll never be my friend :( that kid'' and it makes want to do something so next time she walkes by me like that i want to casuly move over about an inch or two so we bump into each other and start talking

[Bmatlman]

ok but still dont make it seem too purposeful cause that seems a little weird. it should go just fine for you though since she seems to like you. to bad you dont have any classes together though. owell tell me how it goes

[wyatt]

Hey, I'm 15 and a sophomore, I have a ton of friends that are girls, we've talked about this stuff before. I had done the EXACT same thing, and I totally missed the opportunity to have her, and all bc I was too shy to talk to her, and I agree Bmatlman it's a start, but it's best to actually just come and talk to her. Yes I know that your shy, so was I, but its not worth missing something special. I missed it, don't make the same mistake that I did. It helps having a LOT of girls as friends to talk about it with too. Hope I helped you. Good Luck!!

[Bmatlman]

yeah i missed it the first time. it really sucked. now im trying again and i am not going to miss my chance. luckly ive been getting better at talking to people i barely know so i think i might be able to pull it off. im mostly nervos about it since some of my friends arnt to nice about this stuff. thats mainly why i missed out first time. if you get any better chances than bumping in to her in the hall then take them. i had passed up all those chances since the friends i had were around and they would just bug me. but dont make it to aqward (im a horrible speeller) for her. if you do pass up any chances you will regret them for a LONG time. Im going to follow my own advise tomarrow i think. well still good luck and tell me how it goes.

[bmxkid313]

so toady i was late to school and so was we were getting passes she and she was about 5 feet away and i wish i said something to her but here were a lot of people and teachers that probably would have told me to stop talking and go to class but i wish i took a chance but it didn't seem like the right time to just start talking to her. now i have to wait till Monday because i have no school due to thanksgiving

should i talk to her in person for the first time or should i i.m. her on face book because im sure it wouldn't be as hard and then i would be more confident going up to her if i have talked to her before, or should i talk to her in person because then she might think i am more confident?

[Bmatlman]

well im in the same situation right now. im really want to talk to the person i like in person but when im in person i get really nervous and stuff. but if i type i type it i will proububly niss comunicate what im trying to say. one thing i dont want to do though is be left wondering "what if". I say that if your are completely sure she likes you then you should wait and talk to her in person. cause it does hurt alot more to be rejected in person cause then you cant really show what your felling like. basicaly if you are completely sure she lies you ask in person if your not sure use facebook. atleast then if she says no you dont have to hide hoe you fell about the rejection. good luck.

[bmxkid313]

well i don't plan on asking her out yet i only herd her voice once and it was telling a teacher her name and i could barley hear her say it. i want to talk to her on facebook then ask her out in person after i know a little more about her

[Bmatlman]

thats a good idea. then you wont have to worry that much about messing up will talking to her and then you guys can build something up. then when you do ask her out you can be confident in your self. so go for it

[bmxkid313]

ill talk to her next time shes online. any ideas what i should say?

[Bmatlman]

well i geuss you could try and comment on a post she makes. try to make a conversation out of it. then try to relate to her about what you guys say. this will make it seem esaier to talk about other stuff that you want to talk about.

[Perseus]

ill talk to her next time shes online. any ideas what i should say?

Since you don't know her at all, don't say "hey" cause that'd just make the conversation all awkward, and you wouldn't want that. So, just be like, "Hey, I want to get to you know you better." Hell, you could even go balls to the wall and say you that and after better, you could straight say you like her. That'd get a conversation going. :P

[bmxkid313]

Since you don't know her at all, don't say "hey" cause that'd just make the conversation all awkward, and you wouldn't want that. So, just be like, "Hey, I want to get to you know you better." Hell, you could even go balls to the wall and say you that and after better, you could straight say you like her. That'd get a conversation going. :P

i cant help but think that telling her i like her on her wall wouldn't be awkward but saying hey would more awkward than just saying hey

[bmxkid313]

well i geuss you could try and comment on a post she makes. try to make a conversation out of it. then try to relate to her about what you guys say. this will make it seem esaier to talk about other stuff that you want to talk about.

what if i like one of those ''like dislike rate'' things and made a conversation out of that?

[Bmatlman]

well i geuss that could work. it really doesnt matter as long as she is some how part of that thing.

[Perseus]

i cant help but think that telling her i like her on her wall wouldn't be awkward but saying hey would more awkward than just saying hey

Do whatever you want. I would juts chat her and try have a friendly conversation with her. Just saying straight out "hey" would make it awkward since you don't know her. She wouldn't know how to respond to that without making the conversation awkward.

[bmxkid313]

i think thats what ill do if she doesnt do one then ill just talk to her

[bmxkid313]

so i tried talking to her i said hey then a few seconds later i said i wanted to get to know her better she didn't reply then about 3 minutes later she went offline and now i fell stupid because i thought she might have liked me:(

[Perseus]

so i tried talking to her i said hey then a few seconds later i said i wanted to get to know her better she didn't reply then about 3 minutes later she went offline and now i fell stupid because i thought she might have liked me:(

I don't know what to say. You could try again, but they may come off as annoying. Just try and talk to her next week.

[EverlostPoet]

She might just not have noticed as when I log off of facebook, it doesn't take me out of chat for a good 10 minutes.

[bmxkid313]

i honastly have no idea why she didnt reply she seems like the kind of person why would say something back not just not reply. do you have any ideas why she didnt reply other than the posibility that she dosent like me?

[bmxkid313]

She might just not have noticed as when I log off of facebook, it doesn't take me out of chat for a good 10 minutes.

i totaly forgot abou that and it makes me feel so much better before i wanted to crawl in a hole and not come out but now i feel so much better. THANKS

[EverlostPoet]

i totaly forgot abou that and it makes me feel so much better before i wanted to crawl in a hole and not come out but now i feel so much better. THANKS

No problem! Let us know what happens! :D

[bmxkid313]

well i went on abou an hour after seeing your post and she was on, i went to her profile and her status was ''feelings can grow, but they also fade'' what this means to me is ''i used to like you, and you shouldent have waited to talk to me, because i dont anymore'' i think im going to go back to my hole

[EverlostPoet]

Considering you never talked, 9/10 chance that she isn't talking about you. This could also be a good sign that she has gotten over her ex or other boy she liked. You could very well make this your chance! :)



-Sent From my iPad.

[bmxkid313]

maybe i think it was abot me

[EverlostPoet]

Highly doubtful.


-Sent from my iPad.

[bmxkid313]

well even if it was just a quincedince i still dont think she is interested in me

[Perseus]

Just talk to her on Monday, dude. Chill.

[bmxkid313]

well for some reason i lost most of my interest in her since then i tried talking to her. i didn't want to i just did for some unknown reason

[Bmatlman]

oh the irony. thats what a crush is. luckly you were able to be let down at the point were you think you tried as much as you could. thats why you did. its your subconsice deciding that its usely to try any more so it just looses its intreast thus you loose consice atraction. most likely anyways

[bmxkid313]

oh the irony

whats ironic about that?

[Bmatlman]

well she said that feelings fade and now you say your feelings are fade. now do you get it?

[bmxkid313]

well she said that feelings fade and now you say your feelings are fade. now do you get it?

yes but they faded for different reasons

[Perseus]

well for some reason i lost most of my interest in her since then i tried talking to her. i didn't want to i just did for some unknown reason

If you say so. You could still try and be her friend, if you want.

[bmxkid313]

i geuss i could but like i said i lost all interest in her

[Bmatlman]

you might have also just temporairaly lost intrest in her. happened to me over summer with this one girl. (i know i have alot of girls in my life.)

[bmxkid313]

maybe ill see what happens on monday

[Bmatlman]

yep thats the best thing. mostly once you see her again and think about it you will start to like her again.

[bmxkid313]

or maybe she will start to like me again because i think its obvious to her i like her now and when girls like me in the past i started to like them (not much though only a minimum amount)

[Bmatlman]

yep thats how it works when you find out someone likes you. if your lucky she either still likes you or she will like you again.

[bmxkid313]

yep thats how it works when you find out someone likes you. if your lucky she either still likes you or she will like you again.

i hope she will like me again when she sees me

[Bmatlman]

yeah just the site of someone youve liked in the past can make you like them again depending on how much you liked them.

[bmxkid313]

yeah just the site of someone youve liked in the past can make you like them again depending on how much you liked them.

in that case i hope she liked me a lot lol

[Bmatlman]

well what ever it comes to on monday just remember that atleast you tried. man i ned to remember that too.

[bmxkid313]

i fell better now that i put myself out there and didn't leave myself wondering what if and the best part is it didn't hurt my confidence, if any. what do you need to remember?

[Bmatlman]

never mind that. it was nothing. sometimes i hust type random stuff thats on my mind at that time. well glad your confident and every thing.

[bmxkid313]

never mind that. it was nothing. sometimes i hust type random stuff thats on my mind at that time. well glad your confident and every thing.

im glad to

[Bmatlman]

i find it interesting how we are giving each other advise on relation ships. just at different points in relationships.

[bmxkid313]

i was thinking the same exact thing

[Bmatlman]

so if we both get some where i wounder if we still will be stuck helping each other out?

[bmxkid313]

so if we both get some where i wounder if we still will be stuck helping each other out?

what do you mean?

[Bmatlman]

well i wounder if this same thing would end up happening. you giveing me advise and me giving you advise.

[bmxkid313]

i don't know if that would happen or not but i definitely wouldn't mind

[Bmatlman]

yeah it would be pretty interesting.

[bmxkid313]

yeah it would be pretty interesting.

indeed

[Bmatlman]

i dont know why but indeed seems like such a funny word to me. i dont know why it just does.

[bmxkid313]

i dont know why but indeed seems like such a funny word to me. i dont know why it just does.

me to

[Bmatlman]

well now what do we talk about here or should this thread just be left to die?

[bmxkid313]

i don't know i was thinking the same thing, but i will post here Monday after school to tell you what happened

[Bmatlman]

ok. i geuss ill post on mine if any thing new happens too.

[bmxkid313]

ok

P.S. we got to 4 pages:yes::yes::):):yes::yes::):)

[Bmatlman]

i know right. and 2 and a half is just back and forth between us. man we talk alot.

[bmxkid313]

yea i think the whole thread is us two then like 3-4 of them is someone else

[The Cali Kidd]

The best thing 4 u 2 do is tell her how u feel

[Bmatlman]

yeah. in all that we soled you problum and then we slowly started to drift off topic.

[Bmatlman]

The best thing 4 u 2 do is tell her how u feel

lol he's a little late

[bmxkid313]

lmao apparently he only read the first post and not the other 48696891 posts

P.S. i gave you some reputation

[Bmatlman]

i know. there are tons of people who do that not relising that its all over.

[bmxkid313]

i wonder if hes going to post on here after he reads a few of them

[Bmatlman]

who knows, he might just say "ow im a little late now arent i" alot of threads that ive seen people that only read the question and the whole conversation thats going on stops and every one from then on answers the quetion even though there is no piont to since the starter already has gotten their answer.

[bmxkid313]

well im really tired and im going to go to bed. from post 49 and on is offically us talking, other than that late post

[bmxkid313]

who knows, he might just say "ow im a little late now arent i" alot of threads that ive seen people that only read the question and the whole conversation thats going on stops and every one from then on answers the quetion even though there is no piont to since the starter already has gotten their answer.

yea another thing i noticed is that when i look at a thread you were one of the people that posted on it many times. lol

[Bmatlman]

yeah i post alot in the threads i post in. i geuss ill go to bed too. ttyl

[Bmatlman]

P.S. i gave you some reputation

thank you. i just noticeds that. how do you do that. i never really bothered to find out.

[bmxkid313]

thank you. i just noticeds that. how do you do that. i never really bothered to find out.

im going to give you one reputation every day

[Bmatlman]

im going to give you one reputation every day

thanks but why?

also how do you give rep?

[bmxkid313]

thanks but why?

also how do you give rep?

i dont know you didnt have any and on the bottom left corner of a post click the balance thing

[Bmatlman]

oh. i once wondered what that did but never actualy cheacked.

[bmxkid313]

so i thought that i lost intrest in samantha and that it would some what come back next time i seen her but her profine pic on facebook was one of her laying on her bed not smiling and today she changed it to a pic of her smiling with her christmas tree in the backround and when i seen that pic i couldn't help but smile to myself and now about 85% of the feelings i had for her came back from just seeing that pic and now i think about her just as much as i did before she didnt talk to me and i think they will all come back when i see her again. when i see her i want to talk to her because i think that we will have a chance to 'connect' more and i think it will go farther. i just want to know how i can causly start a conversation with her without it being awkward, any suggestions?

[Bmatlman]

conversations are hard but its really good that you got some of those feelings back.

[bmxkid313]

conversations are hard but its really good that you got some of those feelings back.

why would that be good? now i think about her all the time and i miss her. how can i start a conversation with her after class

[Bmatlman]

well if you get into a sitioation where there is something to talk about what is happening then do that. or just start saying hi to people. that can randomly start a conversation. and by saying hi to multiple people it wont seem to weird just saying hi to her.

[bmxkid313]

i guess i will see what happens monday

[Bmatlman]

ok..

[bmxkid313]

so i seen her in the hallway after school about 10-15 feet away and i looked at her she looked at me but not my face or eyes so i didnt talk to her because i dont have much intrest in her anyway

[Bmatlman]

really! after 5 pages of help and stuff thats all!?!

[bmxkid313]

well i dont have much intrest ANYMORE because even though she doesnt really know me she probably would have replyed to me when i tried talking to her if she liked me but i cant really think of why she wouldnt look at me. if she looked me in the eyes i would have talked to her. but i think i have moved on, i still dont think i will loose all of my feelings for her anytime soon

[Bmatlman]

yeah there are always those few left over feelings that never seem to go away.

[yankeefan7723]

well i dont have much intrest ANYMORE because even though she doesnt really know me she probably would have replyed to me when i tried talking to her if she liked me but i cant really think of why she wouldnt look at me. if she looked me in the eyes i would have talked to her. but i think i have moved on, i still dont think i will loose all of my feelings for her anytime soon

Sounds like you're talking yourself out of it because you're nervous. I've done it on occasion as well. You wanted her last week. What happened that made you all of a sudden not wanting her? I think it's just a case of cold feet.

[bmxkid313]

well i did try to talk to her on facebook and i got no answer and i lost most of my interest then