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MattH
November 22nd, 2010, 01:21 AM
This is my first real post on here, so be gentle.
I'm still in love with my Ex. We we're together for about four years and everything was going fantastically, we never argued, we had fun together, and I began to think she may even be "the one". Unfortunately her ex boyfriend stepped back into the picture out of know where one day. I didn't want to seem over-bearing so I never really put much thought to them being friends, I mean I'm still friends with former girlfriends of mine. Time went past and things began to become different between us we saw each other less and less, she was less willing to have an ongoing conversation with me. I finally confronted her about the recent changes and she told me that she always saw herself with the ex boyfriend and not me.
This happened about 8 months ago. I figured like past relationships I would feel the hurt and feelings for a while and then be able to to let it go, but this has not happened. The time we have spent apart seems to make me only want to be back with her more. I have tried multiple times to get into contact with her thinking it would bring closer but her unwillingness to talk to me is only making it worse.

What can I do to get over this? Time just isn't helping.

Fact
November 22nd, 2010, 02:03 PM
NOTE: being gentle, but not sugar coating.

:( sounds like you're in a really crappy situation.
I think the girl your ex. has made it quite clear that she prefers her ex. over you, so for now, try and ignore her until the pain has gone away - once the pain has faded, you can treat each other like normal people again.

If time isn't helping by itself, maybe you need something to fill the time? Find yourself something to do, someone to be with? New friends or going out more or something, relaxing your brain into being single.

It's not an easy thing to do at all, but time will continue to drag on, the only thing you can do is make that time more enjoyable to help you forget the pain you're feeling now.

Hope this helps you ^^

Philleeep
November 22nd, 2010, 02:15 PM
u took the words away from my fingers!