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November 21st, 2010, 11:43 PM
It's about me and my father, go figure.
So anyway, my grandpa bought a house for my aunt who lived in another state. My dad, the a** he is, decided to move into the house grandpa bought. So my aunt, two cousins and my dad live under the same roof.
My dad goes out to arcades at all times of the day. He gets angry quickly. He creeps me out sometimes.
I stopped going over there in late August, I couldn't take all the drama in that house, and was kinda creepy.
We had to go over to the house for dinner sometime in September. It was about 8 or 9 people. I guess dad was pissed that day, and started pounding on stuff and yelling because my cousins and friend were playing. Dad finishes his childish crap and storms down the street. At this time, mom was pretty much ready to go, I was too. We didn't even eat before this happened.
After that point, I pretty much cut all contact with him. I don't answer his phone calls, I blocked him on Facebook. After maybe eight years of this crap of him leaving to go play poker and his behavior, I had enough. I told him on numerous occasions he needs to reform himself, stop smoking, and his other crap. Everyone else has tried to talk to him. He WON'T LISTEN. It's pissing everyone off.
We've been going to have dinner there at least one or two times a month. Each time we go other, dad always tries to talk to me or drag me outside to have a private conversation. He says, "If we're ever going to make up, you need to talk." and then he always says he loves me. What if I don't have any intent on seeing him anymore?
Seriously, I really don't have intent on repairing bonds with him. We don't share anything. He isn't a good father figure. He thinks the reason to keep us happy is showering us with things that cost big money. He owes everyone money. He owes ME almost $100. Everyone else combined, its probably over $1000.
On the other side, he'd take us to theme parks on the weekend (we had annual passes), he took us to NASCAR races, he did things mom isn't real interested in. I need the money back from him, plus extra money for school. He says child support should support it. That furiated me.
Here is where I need advice: Should I try to make up with him, or is there no hope and try to find another father figure? I think I need to find someone I can actually call a dad. Tell me what you think, I'm hating having to choose, because he keeps bugging me each time I go over for dinner.
I'm thinking about telling him to use the money to buy me a ticket for one or two NASCAR races, and leftover money for gifts, and I'll consider spending a few weekends. That won't mean I will have to, but it will motivate him. How does that sound?
So anyway, my grandpa bought a house for my aunt who lived in another state. My dad, the a** he is, decided to move into the house grandpa bought. So my aunt, two cousins and my dad live under the same roof.
My dad goes out to arcades at all times of the day. He gets angry quickly. He creeps me out sometimes.
I stopped going over there in late August, I couldn't take all the drama in that house, and was kinda creepy.
We had to go over to the house for dinner sometime in September. It was about 8 or 9 people. I guess dad was pissed that day, and started pounding on stuff and yelling because my cousins and friend were playing. Dad finishes his childish crap and storms down the street. At this time, mom was pretty much ready to go, I was too. We didn't even eat before this happened.
After that point, I pretty much cut all contact with him. I don't answer his phone calls, I blocked him on Facebook. After maybe eight years of this crap of him leaving to go play poker and his behavior, I had enough. I told him on numerous occasions he needs to reform himself, stop smoking, and his other crap. Everyone else has tried to talk to him. He WON'T LISTEN. It's pissing everyone off.
We've been going to have dinner there at least one or two times a month. Each time we go other, dad always tries to talk to me or drag me outside to have a private conversation. He says, "If we're ever going to make up, you need to talk." and then he always says he loves me. What if I don't have any intent on seeing him anymore?
Seriously, I really don't have intent on repairing bonds with him. We don't share anything. He isn't a good father figure. He thinks the reason to keep us happy is showering us with things that cost big money. He owes everyone money. He owes ME almost $100. Everyone else combined, its probably over $1000.
On the other side, he'd take us to theme parks on the weekend (we had annual passes), he took us to NASCAR races, he did things mom isn't real interested in. I need the money back from him, plus extra money for school. He says child support should support it. That furiated me.
Here is where I need advice: Should I try to make up with him, or is there no hope and try to find another father figure? I think I need to find someone I can actually call a dad. Tell me what you think, I'm hating having to choose, because he keeps bugging me each time I go over for dinner.
I'm thinking about telling him to use the money to buy me a ticket for one or two NASCAR races, and leftover money for gifts, and I'll consider spending a few weekends. That won't mean I will have to, but it will motivate him. How does that sound?