Should I be upset?

[MhWrestler152]

Well, my great grandma passed away this morning at the age of 100. My cousin told me and I was really upset because we were really close. Then after a few hours I though about it and I wasn't so upset anymore. She lived a full life and been through a lot of pain recently so its not that I'm happy for her I'm just happy she doesn't have to suffer anymore. Should I be feeling like this? You know, not that upset?

[Sith Lord 13]

It's natural, especially when someone's been suffering, to feel relief that they're free. Between her extremely long lifespan and her pain and suffering, it's perfectly alright to be not upset. It's actually what most people want. "Don't mourn the death, celebrate the life."

[Fact]

Perfectly normal to feel that way.
It sounds as though your Grandmother lived a full life!
There's no need to be sad about her death - it's not obligatory to grieving for her.
Everyone behaves differently towards losing someone you're close to and personally I think your way is best.
Keep in mind that other people may be outwardly upset, though. Try to keep sensitive to their feelings too - I'm sure you will.

Sorry for the loss of your Grandmother, but glad that you're taking it so well :)

[nick]

My great grandmother died last year, she was 100 too. She'd had a good life and obviously a very long one, but she'd become very frail and was no longer able to look after herself and really had no quality of life. Sometimes you have to accept that their time really had come. Still grief is unpredictable and sometimes you will probably feel upset and at other times you will feel happy that she had a good life and is now at peace.

[Fiction]

When my Grandad died about 2 months ago i was a mess for about the first evening (I found out when i got home from school) And then after that I just realised it had been coming for a long time. He had had a good life and there was no point in being upset about it. So i'd say this was pretty normal :)

[ShatteredWings]

there's no proper way to grieve.

[Philleeep]

Its ok. I was rather selfish when my grandad died. I now realise my mistake but how your feeling is normal.

[Alexithymia]

It's pretty normal. I, luckily, haven't had any deaths in my family or friends recently, but I can imagine the feeling. If they were suffering, then I would be a bit relieved. I know it sounds sick, but I hate it when people suffer unnecessarily. It makes me happy that they're suffering is over. So, no, I don't find it odd at all.

[Theatheist of doom]

Naw, I think its a bit of a reverse if you spend an hour or so trying to feel better about it and then feeling better when you realize it's ended her suffering and then feel bad for feeling better FOR her. Sorry for your loss

[Dark_Hellfire]

I think what it comes down too is a strong and deep love for your grandma. You love her enough that it pained you to know she was in pain and although you are sad she is gone, you are comforted by the fact you know she is now peaceful and pain free.

"Say not in grief 'she is no more' but live in thankfulness that she was"

And also I am sorry for you loss :(