How did you come out to the world as being gay/bi

[lenny774]

My plan is to wait till 10th grade (when i wont have to fear getting beat up in the locker rooms for being bi) but thats all ive got figured out and im in the 8th grade right now. how did you get it out to evereyone? ive been thinking about doing it kinda discreetly just like setting my dating preferences on fb to men and women then going from there but idk what to do after that. help please!:eek::(

[Lifeguard18]

I first came out to my best friend in the whole world when I was a freshman in highschool. I told her over a note. My teacher was teaching us something on the projector and he wasn't looking, and it was dark so it was the perfect time. The notes we passed back and forth was almost a page. Lol. She didn't care at all. If it wasn't for her and her advice, I probably woudnt have told any body yet. Im so glad I did. It was like a huge weight was lifted off me. She is like a sister to me.

Im bi, but I labeled my self as gay cause Im not physically, or emotionally attracted to girls. I still say im bi cause im not ready to say im just gay.

And doing that facebook thing may and may not work. If you have like 260 friends for ex, than 260 people are going to see it. But your true friends will respond to it and say they don't care if you're bi or gay. And some people wont even notice cause they just want a huge friends list and wont pay attention to what you post. And people who do care, will probably delete you as a friend and tell every single soul they know. But overall, that is a HUGE start and risk too. But just be comfortable with it.

Im not fully out. In out to maybe 45 people. And only six guys know that I am. 39 are girls. Girls are ten times more accepting than guys are.

You wont know what will happen when you come out fully. Some men and women don't even come out and live their life with a person they wont like, but say they do cause they don't want anyone to know about their sexuality. Once you do fully come out, there's really nothing you can do cause everyone will know. And 260 as an example friends on facebook, will see that. And if you don't have a private profile, more and more people will see it.

Good luck and hoped this helped you out.

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[lenny774]

omg thank you so much for the advice.

[Lifeguard18]

omg thank you so much for the advice.

You're welcome :)

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[nick]

Each person has to decide for themself.

There is no rule that says you have to come out, or that you have to wear a badge or go on "gay pride" marches. Its a personal thing, not something for public declaration.

I'm not really out, I just dont see that its any one else's business. If I was straight I wouldnt feel the need to make some public declaration, well I'm not straight, but what's the difference? Just be yourself and dont make a drama out of it.

[lenny774]

Like i need to be out to find a bf.

[Dunce]

If you really want to come out to the world you could become a fan of a gay rights page on facebook or something. :)

But if youre not sure
Dont feel like you need to tell the world youre bi just to get a boyfriend. A boy isnt going to hear youre bi and then walk up to you and ask you out, it rarely works like that. If you find someone you really like then casually tell him that youre bi, and perhaps he'll be too. Or if you reeeeally want a boyfriend then hang around someone you know is out of the closet and maybe you'll have stuff in common.
I'm questioning, but as far as I know all of my friends are straight and they dont go around saying 'Im straight and youre a guy, we belong together'. They just wait to fall for someone.

[lenny774]

Like what i was trying to say (and failed at wording) was that i need to be out to be public with a boy as well as figure out who likes me. Im too chicken to make the first move with a guy.

[Fourth Dimension]

I found that telling your female friends first is easier they are more understanding and I first told my friend amber my freshman year and basically told all my friends freshman year not I'm working up the courage to tell my family so I wish you luck with you situation and remember if the are your true friends they will still love you for who you are

[lenny774]

ive told my direct family and 5 of my friends that are girls.

[Haru Taki]

i waited until the guy I like told me he was (it was a risk taker otherwise I never would've said) Then I started opening up to everyone except my family....

[hotandgay]

well first i told my friend in a note....then i verbally told other friends then i POSTED ON MYSPACE (btw myspace is going down and fast (sorry tom))

[Nobody]

Nick, you're probably the first person ever that has the same - or at least similar - opinion on this. I've never made any "official announcement" of being a lesbian, everyone knows though. I mean, straight people don't have to declare their sexuality anyhow so why should I? It's natural for me to be this way. So what? I'm just... being me. You know, I act like anyone straight, just in a gay way. When all the girls are discussing who's the most handsome actor ever, I vote for actress. When we go places and they see a nice guy and they're like "wow, he's hot", I might say "his girlfriend's cute", etc. And just from this behavior everyone can tell I'm gay. And yes, sometimes people who has got to know me recently and didn't know yet, say something like "that sounds so gay", but I always answer "I've never said I was straight". That's how I came out to the world.

I think it might even be easier this way, at least for some people. Maybe it takes less effort, to be yourself than to say "I'm gay" right away. It depends on every single person though. It depends on you, what you want your coming out to be like. What you feel more comfortable with.

[Captor K]

I came out to mostly guys at first, then some girls, then some guys....and, well, you get the picture. At some point, it spread enough where I don't have to come out as often, and that's fine with me. Coming out gets tiring, but when we're born in a world where it's automatically assumed everyone is heterosexual (until otherwise declared), sometimes you gotta set the record straight. Otherwise, it can make for uncomfortable situations.