My friend as well...

[Aceso]

Okay...Oh god, I feel sick right now.
I had one of my closest friends over for a sleepover. I had not seen her in months. We were watching films on my laptop and she rolled up her sleeves. I didn't have my glasses on so i only saw one or two of the slightly larger ones. I was silently praying under my breath it was something else. But I knew that if it was Self Harm I needed to help her. :(
So I asked her how old they were. She said a week. I looked at closer at them and oh god, they were not deep like mine but there were literally hundreds all over her arms. I feel sick with pain. I never knew, oh shit she had told me she did it in the past but not recently. :cry:
I dont know what to do. She's gone back home now but if her parents are not aware I want them to be able to help her, but I dont want her to be upset. I want to tell my mom who can then get in touch with her parents, but I'm sacred. Oh god, I dont know what to do. She didn't ask me to keep it a secret.
I cant let her go the way I went, its too painful. What should I do guys, make my mom get in touch with her parents or keep it quiet for her sake? :(

[nick]

I dont think you should go behind her back.
Share your own experiences with her, encourage her to speak to her parents or seek other help, but dont sneak on her or you will lose a friend and lose your chance to help her in the future.

[Punk_Kid]

I agree with Nick. If my best friend found out about my scars I wouldn't want them to go telling my family about it. I would much rather have that person be understanding and lend an open ear to what I have to say. I would want them to help distract me from cutting, talk with me about why I cut and just be there for me when I need them.

I hope you, her and everyone else on VT can quit cutting or at least make some progression on quitting:D

[Aceso]

I dont think you should go behind her back.
Share your own experiences with her, encourage her to speak to her parents or seek other help, but dont sneak on her or you will lose a friend and lose your chance to help her in the future.

I agree. She never said that I needed to keep it quiet, In fact I think a few of her other friends know, she gave a babbled explanation to them...I just dont know what to do, I feel so selfish because people have helped me but I dont know how to help them...I would ask my parents to tell her parents not to tell her I told them.(Sorry about the crazy explanation)
I just think I will make it worse, and I never get to see her or talk to her much because we live so far away. I'm so worried about her and I want her to stop but I have no way of communicating...and I think she needs professional help. :(

[Punk_Kid]

Do you have a phone at home or a parent's cell phone? If you both do then you can talk everyday if there aren't limits on call time.

[whereismymind]

If your that worried try talking her round to getting help, or just get her to ring you if she feels like doing it. It doesn't sound like much but it helps.

[Aceso]

Do you have a phone at home or a parent's cell phone? If you both do then you can talk everyday if there aren't limits on call time.

I have a phone, but I wouldn't want my parents to hear, neither would her. :(

[Mike321]

If your worried about her and think she needs professional help, try and talk her round to the idea, or just let her know you will be there for her.
Try and help her any way you can, even if its just as someone she can come and talk to.
Has she not got an email address or mobile number you can have so you can stay in contact with her

[Aceso]

If your worried about her and think she needs professional help, try and talk her round to the idea, or just let her know you will be there for her.
Try and help her any way you can, even if its just as someone she can come and talk to.
Has she not got an email address or mobile number you can have so you can stay in contact with her

Yes. I tried talking to her tonight but she didn't want to talk about it. She either tried to shrug it off or change the subject. I can tell she is still doing it though...:(