The "Am I gay" again..

[Alexithymia]

Yep. Here it is. I'll try and make it short and so you don't have to go through the tedious feelings and decide.

I've classified myself as gay for a while now, but haven't come out. I'm emotionally and physically attracted to guys, and I'm fine with that. Most of the time. I have no romantic or erotic feelings towards girls, but I do for guys. Yep. Pretty gay there.

The only thing that makes me curious is when I fantasize about kissing a girl, it doesn't seem repulsive. It doesn't turn me on either, but it doesn't make me not want to be with that girl. In fifth grade, I had a huge crush on this girl, but it wasn't a real crush. It was just the longing for her to understand/want me. I didn't see the future of myself with her, just I guess I wanted her as a friend. Badly. Does this make me straight? I've got a huge crush on this one gay now, and it's a bit bigger than the one with the girl. Well, a lot bigger. (I wrote a few paragraphs on Yahoo! Answers about him because I was curious if he was gay.)

Sorry, didn't realize it would be this long. I'm pretty assured that I'm gay, I'm just curious if I'm a bit bi or not.

[Tristin.]

hey there

i think you are probably gay still lol (can you change?)
what it is is a fantasy or your just curious, heck i get curious about girls sometimes lol iv kissed a girl and well i didnt like it that much (katy perry XP) but i was still curious.

if you want to talk, just ask :)
x

[nick]

Well for a start I dont accept that sexuality is a 3-point scale, so worrying too much whether you are gay or bi is pointless, you are just you.

I can relate to what you say, I class myself as gay but I dont find girls repulsive, in fact I've had straight sex a number of times and I can assure you it was enjoyable. But at the same time, for me, thats kind of mechanical, the parts all function as they should, but its kind of without meaning.

Now I'm not saying your the same as that, but just as an example, things arent black and white, there are many shades of grey. Be yourself, dont lie or deceive anyone about love if its just sex, but dont get bogged down with putting yourself into someone else's category.

Happy to talk one-to-one if it would help.

[coleman8r 77]

i think you are probably gay