I really wanna be with him...

[LovelyMalice]

I am a 16 year old boy, and me and my boyfriend have been dating for about 9 months, since February. It was all going good, until one of his friends decided to tell his parents about us. They are extremely religious, and very much against homosexuality. Because of this, I have only seen him two times since the month of May. I love him more than anything, and I want to be with him and only him. He tells me he feels exactly the same way. He is the only person I have ever met that really understands me. I want to be able to see him as much as I can. I want to be able to hold his hand while we walk through the store. I want to be able to change my relationship status on facebook to say that I am in a relationship with him. But I can do none of this, because of his parents. The two of us can not even truly be together until we both graduate, which is not until the June of 2013. That is a really long time to wait to be with someone you love. This is so hard on both of us, we are both depressed. I even resorted to cutting myself, but only once and I regretted it. I just want to be with him.... What should I do? Should we just wait another 2 and a half years, and be forced to have all this pain of waiting? .... Help...

[Philleeep]

if you truly love him and he loves you, you should be able to wait if not then why dont you see if you can like stop it for 2 years and then meet up and catch up? just an idea

[LovelyMalice]

Yeah, I know that we should be able to wait, it's just so painful. )=
And I don't WANT to break up with him... gah, I am a mess of confusion.

[Punk_Kid]

I know what you mean. I'm a heterosexual but I know what if feels like to not be with someone you love.

I would try to talk to his and your parents together, if you're that sort of person. If that approach doesn't suit you then I would recommend just waiting and if you get some time here and there to hang out then take it:D

[LovelyMalice]

I know what you mean. I'm a heterosexual but I know what if feels like to not be with someone you love.

I would try to talk to his and your parents together, if you're that sort of person. If that approach doesn't suit you then I would recommend just waiting and if you get some time here and there to hang out then take it:D

Yeah... his parents would NEVER budge. And every single time we would hang out, he would risk getting in serious trouble...

He hates living there. He would move out... but he is relying on them for college funds, and I don't want him to risk that.

[LovelyMalice]

Someone reccomended to me that I ask my boyfriend about an Open Relationship... I think it's an okay idea. It's something to keep our minds off the hurt, but yet we would not be breaking up. We would still be together.

Can I get some peoples opinions on this?

[Quick_Sylver]

Open Relationships can be trouble. Jealousy is a strong factor. Some would consider it that one partner wasnt enough for them, and that they werent "good" enough for their partner. Insecurities can show up pretty strongly. If you think he'll be okay with that, ask him. If you dont, then dont do it. Trust yourself.

[Scarface]

Monogamy. If you really love him, you won't have an open relationship, as Tootsiepop said it's asking for trouble...Seriously. As it would be "Well who are you 'going' out with now?" Personally I really don't think I could do that at all. It would hurt too much knowing he still loves me and either me seeing other people or him. It would just cause more grief and I believe would make a bad situation worse. I would tough it out until you both graduate. Even though this is a really tough situation, truly love always prospers.

[xgeekyrocksx]

i think you should talk to his parents maybe. tell them clearly its not your fault, or his. maybe that way they might let you see each other :) no doubt they love their son and want the best for him, so if you let them know how much your really love him, and maybe mention being ready to wait for him, then they might understand you a bit more. good luck!!!!!

[Kelsey123]

He needs to stand up to his parents. how do your parents feel about it? can he move in with you? get a job and pay for college himself?

either way. he is gay and will always be gay. they will either accept it or not but you both deserve happiness.

[itsthat0n3kid]

if your love is really that strong then you two have the power to wait. im straight but i know what it feels like to be away from someone you love.

[Scarface]

if your love is really that strong then you two have the power to wait. im straight but i know what it feels like to be away from someone you love.

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