Attraction Physical or Personality

[ShaneK]

Due you think physical appearance or the person themselves is the most influencing factor in attraction?

[touchstone23]

yes honestly i do because its the only way to get your crush to love you

[ShaneK]

I agree with you in my own experience its the physical, not anything else

[Syvelocin]

I think it's a mixture. The physical appearance might not matter as much, but I've found I like the person in general. They might not be the most attractive person in the world, but how they look is a part of why I like them, along with the personality.

But there are different types of attraction still.

[Punk_Kid]

As far as preferences go, I prefer a skinny, decent-looking gal with a nice attitude. I hate stuck up women that think they're better than all the other girls and I prefer women that are like me personality-wise.

You can be the most beautiful girl in the entire county but if you've got a nasty ass attitude then no thanks hun. I KNOW I can find someone else, even if they ain't as drop-dead gorgeous ;D

[Theatheist of doom]

As far as preferences go, I prefer a skinny, decent-looking gal with a nice attitude. I hate stuck up women that think they're better than all the other girls and I prefer women that are like me personality-wise.

You can be the most beautiful girl in the entire county but if you've got a nasty ass attitude then no thanks hun. I KNOW I can find someone else, even if they ain't as drop-dead gorgeous ;D
I really liked that comment, I don't know why.. I guess It just kinda expressed that opinion so well.. And its also kind of what I agree with

[Philleeep]

Personality. Its much harder too find and therefore is true and will last

[MoveAlong]

I think that physical appearance is the strongest factor in attraction.

This is really difficult for me to explain because I'm tired and there are a bunch of Discovery Channel shows about this.

We as organisms are wired to continue our species and our physical traits. Basically, we want the best babies possible. So we seek attractive mates, so our children can have their characteristics, which come in handy. Example: if we have a muscular male mate, our babies will inherit that trait and be muscular so they can provide for their family and survive.

Physical attraction seems superficial but scientifically it's an evolutionary strategy.

[Fact]

Well, initially physical appearances can be very attractive to draw someone in and their personality can make them stay...
However, a gorgeous person with a horrible personality is useless.
If a person is average looking but has an amazing personality, then can easily become more physically attractive as their personality sort of influences how you view a person, so that you either overlook or grow to like their appearance.

That's my thoughts anyway :P

[Kaius]

a bit of both but to me personality has more of an impact. I have things that i find more attractive than other things but really as far as personality goes a kind and understanding person is enough for me.

[ShatteredWings]

Personality matters a lot more, but I'm not going to pretend like I'm completely going to be with someone I don't find remotely attractive.

[Alexithymia]

I personally think that the physical appearance is the first thing that draws us in. And it shows, you notice a super hot guy (or girl, if that's your thing) first instead of an average guy. You want to be close to him and you want to be with him.

The personality is what really matters in someone. I used to like this one guy, but then when I found out that he was a jerk, that feeling ended. Most people can't have a good relationship with someone when either one of them have a bad personality. Just my two cents!

[MoveAlong]

Personality matters a lot more, but I'm not going to pretend like I'm completely going to be with someone I don't find remotely attractive.

Exactly. I forgot who told me, but I got some advice from someone older than me. They said that you shouldn't stay with someone you don't find attractive, because it just won't work out.

I forgot to mention in my last post that a great personality makes a person a LOT of points hotter. I love to look for the person on the inside, and learn about who they are and what they do.

[yoda]

Physical means a lot to me but Personality does to. They may be hot but have to have a good personality for me.

[SlightlySane]

Quoting one of my most favorite friends ever "You can't stick a dick in personality."

I believe that physically attraction plays a HUGE factor in your attraction to someone. Personality is what keeps them attractive to you. You don't look at someone and think "Heyyyyyy look at the personality she's got on her... mhhhhmmmmmm.... ;D" you're probably focussed on many physical parts before even thinking about what they're even like.

[Bmatlman]

i say both

[The Dark Lord]

with girls its looks, with guys its personality, simple as that

[Clawhammer]

I know that for me, it's personality. You can hook up with a gorgeous woman and have her turn out to be a complete whore.

[Fact]

with girls its looks, with guys its personality, simple as that

Strongly disagree!
How sexist.

[The Dark Lord]

Strongly disagree!
How sexist.

we still live a sexist society and it is fair to say that guys are much concerned about looks than girls

[Kaius]

we still live a sexist society and it is fair to say that guys are much concerned about looks than girls

Not always. It depends on the person regardless of sex.

[DrkZ90]

The personality is what matters most.

[ShatteredWings]

Quoting one of my most favorite friends ever "You can't stick a dick in personality."

I believe that physically attraction plays a HUGE factor in your attraction to someone. Personality is what keeps them attractive to you. You don't look at someone and think "Heyyyyyy look at the personality she's got on her... mhhhhmmmmmm.... ;D" you're probably focussed on many physical parts before even thinking about what they're even like.
I'm odd then. I'm not going to date someone on looks alone.I want to know them first.

with girls its looks, with guys its personality, simple as that
we still live a sexist society and it is fair to say that guys are much concerned about looks than girls
Dude, what world are you on?
I've NEVER personally met a girl who'd date a guy who didn't qualify 100% in their little block of "attractive". *shrug* just my experiances?


Also, moving
teen sexuality -> r&d

[Minimoose]

For me...yeah good physical is nice but personality is certainly the biggest thing I go off...good looks is just an added bonus :)


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[ShaneK]

Peoples definitions of attractive vary, one girl wouldnt go out with me cos i didnt have a scar on my face. she said they add character

i have blonde hair and green eyes, some people prefer the quintessential blonde and blue eyes

[bmxkid313]

well at first physical then when you get to know them and its more personality
P.S. i have a scar on my face under my nose about a square inch and girls like it:D

[SlightlySane]

I'm odd then. I'm not going to date someone on looks alone.I want to know them first.


I'm not saying that you are going to date them only because of looks. I'm saying that looks are what make you take the second glance at someone you find attractive. Looks draw your interest. After you realize you are attractive to them though, personality is EXTREMELY key in dating. You can't get along with someone just because you think they're cute. What I'm saying is that attraction is what gets thing kicked off in the first place... After that it's personality to bring on the relationship and keep you in it.

[Charleigh]

boys boys ... so you would rather have this drop down dead SEXY chick, whos ignorant and has the personality of a pig?

[Ender]

Personality, looks are just a bonus.

[Harley Quinn]

boys boys ... so you would rather have this drop down dead SEXY chick, whos ignorant and has the personality of a pig?

You do realise that not all guys are like that, right?

[Andrew0017]

For me, it's personality all the way. I'm very picky when it comes to girls, there's only one "type" that I like and even then it's difficult for me to find one that I consider to be "perfect" in my eyes.
And "The Dark Lord," that is a very outrageous statement to make. I know of plenty of (...shallow) girls who care more about looks than guys do!

[Deathwingo0o]

boys boys ... so you would rather have this drop down dead SEXY chick, whos ignorant and has the personality of a pig?

Not me. I fell in love with a girl with normal looks(as they say) but cute to me. She's friendly but I did not succeed because I was not determined enough to deserve her.

[Teencuriosity]

Physical gets your attention and personality keeps you in.

[Jdawg91]

Physical because that's the first thing you see,however the character of the person is the key

[ImCoolBeans]

Please check the dates when you post, this is a bump :locked:

[Buranri]

It goes both ways. I'm not going to want to date someone I don't find attractive physically, but I also wouldn't date a hot girl who's a bitch.