Still Not Over It?

[starbrite5]

I was bullied a lot in middle school, and for the most part, I've moved onwards. But there was this one particular chorus class where two boys sat on either side of me, whispering horrible things in my ears. And I sort of thought I was even over that, but then about a month ago I saw the two boys at Kmart.

How can you totally destroy someone and make them want to die, and then not even recognize them? Why am I not over it after almost 2 years? It was bad, but it wasn't really THAT bad.

[TakeToTheSkies.]

because certain things will always stick in our minds. no matter how much you say or think your over it, you won't be. especially stuff like that, that makes you feel like less of a person. it's normal to not ever get over things such as bullying or abuse, but if it really gets to you, I think you should talk to a friend or something.

[LiTTleBrok3nDolly]

bcs they weren't the ones who got hurt. They dont have the scar that you feel when you least want to, you just have to think that at the time they were hurting you their life probably wasnt so great back at home and so they let their anger out on you, someone who didnt fight back. Most of the time the harmer's dont remember their victims and if they do they most likely get drunk and high to forget about it.

Hope this helps, it does for me sometimes.

[Harley Quinn]

I was bullied a lot in middle school, and for the most part, I've moved onwards. But there was this one particular chorus class where two boys sat on either side of me, whispering horrible things in my ears. And I sort of thought I was even over that, but then about a month ago I saw the two boys at Kmart.

How can you totally destroy someone and make them want to die, and then not even recognize them? Why am I not over it after almost 2 years? It was bad, but it wasn't really THAT bad.

It depends on what things trigger you to remember what they did, and if it's words or actions, it can bring back painful memories. You may not think that it was that bad, but to yourself it can be as bad as it wants, it's all about how you react to things and how it made you feel feel in the past, and even in the present. You may be over it so to speak, but certain things make you think about it/remember it, and that's totally normal. You just have to keep positive, and keep on trying to move on, it's hard, i know but it's not impossible. It will take time, but in the end it's worth it.

[Theatheist of doom]

Heres my advice: Basically I think anyone who's been a victim of anything (who's alive, so your lucky that you are, could've been a lot worse) has been put in this victim mentality that this has to be something that ruins their lives. What I think you need to do is get up there and say, you know what It could've been worse. Now it's time for me to move on and not give these assholes the pleasure of ruining my life. And the fact they don't recognize you is even better cause' it means they won't come back and try to harass you again. Also I would note its time to go to a new K-mart ;D

Hope you can work through this, if you need somone to talk to you can PM meh :)