Asshole adults.

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I can't believe how fucked everything around me. On tuesday my teacher saw my cuts, so today i went with her to the counselor, she fucking called my parents! I actually really meant to stop, and their IDIOTIC AND UNNECESARY intervention makes it soooo harder. They should fucking stay out of my goddamn idiot and misreable LIFE! And i hope that at least my dad wouldn't be so hard on me because of it, but he still fucks with me... WHAT THE HELL????? Just leave me alone you assholes, i want to live my life and i don't need you to stick your fuckinh hairy noses in it!!! It's so unfairrrr. I tell you, if she ever documentises it in a way that can harm me i'm just going to actually scream and curse and everything possible at ther and the counselor. Why can't they let me live my life???
I'm so angry i could rip my head off. Or cut, why are they making it soooo difficult??? Just leave me alone... I want to hurt me so baddddddddd and it's just because of them. I will not SH anyway, but it would have been so much easier without them entering my life.
Sorry i cursed, and i'm sorry it's so long
*doubt if someone reads it*

[Azunite]

Hey Aidan, rip your head off and do us a favor :P

There is no escape. Teachers will always tell things to your parents, thats why they are paid

[IsabellaJane]

I'm sorry for what your going through,
They should not have called your parents though, they shouldn't have to do that unless your in a ALOT of danger

If you want to talk, i'm here, take care :)

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Thanks everyone.
My parents were angry at me, then happy, then dispaired, and now ina weird mood... It may be alright sometime :)

[xgeekyrocksx]

im glad they are okay now... teachers are annoying in that way, we have this thing called student support and they acctually ruin everything!!! goshh.. i dont think that they even care? x

[UnknownError]

Sorry to hear about the Aidan.
Maybe its a good thing though.
My parents don't know, only one person knows I cut.
I'd rather die than let my parents know.

[Tristin.]

hey, your parents and teachersmay be annoying you, but your strong enoguh to ignor them

tbh i envy you, you actualy see your parents AND they care enough to annoy you, your luckier than you think.

keep strong
X

[Syvelocin]

Oh lord, yep. Adults ruin eeeeeeverything. Wait... do I count? :P Nah, I've only been an adult for 6 months, doesn't count. :P

God, I understand exactly how that's like. Someone ratted me out the first time to the school counselor, and seeing that three kids knew and they all swore they didn't tell... I really do think a teacher just noticed or something (not too hard to see the patterns, really. Once they healed, I would take off my arm warmers, but after doing the cuts I would wear arm warmers religiously.)

Then because of my English teacher last year (though she's great, I don't blame her directly. She loves me and was only concerned, and she had known I cut prior to that) was ultimately the cause of my theatre director throwing me out of the musical because I needed to be focusing on my mental health (he also meant well though... but it was sort of my dream role... yeah, now it seems like not much of a deal, but then, it was "the end of the world"). It was my counselor who I actually blame for everything. I hate her guts.

Adults do ruin everything. They don't understand. They're scared, either because they're concerned for you or that they're thinking irrationally and don't understand that they're the cause of a lot of your unhappiness (usually). When I got kicked out of the school musical, I fell into this incredible depression that eventually landed me in the psych ward. Imagine what would happen if the adults DIDN'T but into my self-destructive behaviour? I wouldn't have wasted ten days of my life, a month away from graduation in the psych ward.

The point of this little story/rant of mine? Adults are going to continue to ruin your life until you yourself become an adult, then they STILL will ruin your life, but you have a little more control since you're able to just walk away from them. It's crap, I know. Sometimes you wish you could just blow their heads off. But you've gone 14 years being controlled by adults. You only have four more to go, you're nearly there.

It's great that you could let out steam here like that. I always find it very helpful, very freeing. And great that you could do this instead of SHing too. I rarely get that upset without hurting myself. It'll all be alright, trust me, and best wishes to you. :)

[georgiamay]

Yeah, my school councellor was the worst, she ruined it for me. She though it was best to tell all of my teachers about my self harm so they could keep an eye on me, and I kept getting wierd looks as well as sympathetic ones. I still don't know which one was worse.

Councellors outside of school aren't as bad. They don't tell anyone, and they actually know what they're doing. What people don't realise is that in most cases, telling the parents makes things worse. But I can see why they do it. I mean, if you were to cut too deep, don't you thing your parents would want to know so they could make sure that doesn't happen?

But, it does suck. For me, my cutting got a little worse, and I started getting better at hiding it when they found out. I stopped for a while, but when I started again, the cuts got deeper, and I knew how to hide it.

I honestly think that they should tell parents, but only if you seem to be suicidal, or your cuts are that bad, or they think they'll be too deep next time or something like that. For me, there was no need to my parents to know, because it wasn't that bad. But when I started again I knew how to lie, which really makes it all worse.

So yeah, I know how you feel. Just get yourself through it in some way. They might not be doing it well, but these adults want to help you.

[Syvelocin]

^ Yep, same as above too. Every time my counselor found out I had a new cut, she'd pull me into her office and call my parents. Of course, my mother understood and never gave me crap about it, just funded my therapy and was there when I needed a hug. But it was horrible when I'd walk home knowing that they knew every-single time I had a new cut, and it was really hard to hide it from my counselor since she would always check, and everytime I had to get something off my chest I was usually upset (that year with that counselor, I wasn't currently seeing anyone outside of school so I had no one else to talk to) so she would always ask if I had cut, and she'd make me show her my legs if I said no... I just got better at hiding it too.

Sure, you're slicing open your body. But really, unless the kid isn't tending to the wound and it gets infected or is deep enough to need stitches or hit an artery, I really don't see how much good will come from notifying the parents all the time. They should know eventually that you do self-harm, but just calling them so they know each time your relapse? It's not like you tried to hang yourself in the school bathroom...

It just allows the kid to get more creative. Cut in places that aren't noticeable, and then, like I did, I would go to the clinic or even the school nurse when my cuts were a little too deep instead of telling anyone, because with the counselor always telling my parents it pushed me to be even more secretive. I've had countless times where I would even do my own stitches (it's a very stupid idea, do not try it o.O)

Haha, I'm ranting again...

[Mike321]

Sorry to hear about it, but all they want to do is help you, they might not be going the right way about it though
Like Georgia said, I can see why they would tell your parents, but they should only really do it, if they think you are cutting too deep or are suicidal.
I dont really have much experience with councellors, so I dont know what to say to you
But try and stay positive about this, it will get better
And as for your parents, its a big thing for them to understand so they will react in different ways.
Hope this helps, and i'm here if you need to talk

[Fiction]

Things will get better Aidan. I don't know what it's like to have a parent finding out since... mine don't know. So i can't really give mucbh advice on this subject, but if you ever need to talk to anyone i'm always here.

[Love.Hate]

Well that sucks, i know what its like for your parents to find out when you dont
want them to! but maybe its for the best?

And its good you are getting counselling :)

And its ok to be angry i know when mum found out i was furious, but it will
pass. then you will see that the teacher did it for your own good, for you
health and safety :)

Im always here :)

[spfreak]

I hate teachers as well. They should just mind their own business. I hope everything turns out for the best though!

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Thanks everyone :)


My parents don't know, only one person knows I cut.
I'd rather die than let my parents know.
I thought the same for me. Now it's pure hell. If i wasn't talking to Rok i would be pretty rotten by now

[XxMurderedKissesxX]

That sux dude
But if it makes u feel any better, at least your parents found out threw a teacher. Last night my fam found out because of blood in the bathroom sink I forgot to get rid of. Needless to say I was screamed at. I hope your parents werent to hard on you. Im glad that your resisting SHing. I totally agree with you that teachers are noisy b*tches and that they shouldnt of called on you. Id be pissed to. But maybe in the end the counselor can help you with some things. And if not, at least you know there are people in your life that love & care for you. : )

[RAWWR]

i'm sorry they told your parents! you're right, adults do ruin everything, they dont seem to understand that actually doing something like that just makes it so much worse! on the upside, in the UK, once your 16 they can't tell your parents, so you havent got long to go! i hope that you will get help through this though, and will manage to beat your self harm.
One thing i wanna say though, because this is an important point for me, make sure when you are an adult, if you are faced with an teenager in this position, think about what they might want. dont just do like your teacher did and pass it on, its far too easy to forget about it when your in the other persons shoes. just remember.