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Keats
November 17th, 2010, 04:53 PM
i don't know where to start, so i'll start from the begining:

as a young child i was overweight, and as a result i was bullied at my old school. This resulted in my low self-esteem that has plagued me ever since.
Fast forward on until i'm 11, the age where your just starting to get into girls. theres me with my low self esteem, alone, and everyone else with they're respective girls or girlfriends. Now one girl, whom i liked, decides it would be funny to tell me that she liked me, when she clearly didn't. needless to say i was chuffed, until 10 seconds later when she laughed in my face. The next year i got a girlfriend, who i liked a lot. But i was 12ish and it was never going to last. i hated the school i was at and i could'nt wait to leave. So i left and went to my new school, i thought i could start again, rebuilt some confidence, needless to say i was wrong. I was bullied for the first year, until i stood up for myself and kind of knocked the bully out. This rebuilt my confidence a little bit. So a bit later i get a girlfriend, and it doesn't go well. I was too self-conscious and unconfident for her, and i'm the first to admit that i deserved it. Then fast forward another year or so, to last christmas. Feeling a little better. A couple months previous my dad had had a stroke, thats when the cutting started. My sister brings a friend on holiday (they're 18) and aparantly she 'liked' me, and we hung out quite a bit, and she made several hints but i didn't recognise them at the time. Then when i come back, she has a sister, and we get talking. i find myself telling her everything, and we start to have a thing. I can tell her everything, and she makes me feel perfect. It goes on for 2 months ish. cutting stops, i feel ontop of the world. Too good to be true right. She dumps me, over facebook chat, while at a party. haven't heard from her or seen anything of her since, until tonight when she signs in on msn. i deleted her and tried to forget about it, not going to work. I'd occasionally gone onto her facebook and tortured myself and deleted a couple pictures of my laptop.

So needless to say i have an armful of scars and i'm going to south africa at christmas again, and they;re not going. so i don't know what to do.
it feels good to get it out, but i dunno what it's going to do

IsabellaJane
November 17th, 2010, 05:32 PM
Hi there,
I sorry to hear that you was bullied, i was bullied when i was younger and its a horrible thing. I really does effect your confidence.

Don't worry, you will find the right girl, and she'll love you for who you really are.

If you want to get rid of your scars you can use bio-oil or cocoa butter.
They take a few weeks/months to fade the scars but there are great results at the end :D

Hope this helped, take care :)

Keats
November 17th, 2010, 06:27 PM
I don't know how to rebuild my confidence. No girls seem remotely inrerested in me despite me putting loads of effort into trying to talk to them.
So that doesn't really help.
I've tried bio oil, and it didn't really work for the money it costed. I can't realy afford it.
Thanks though.

IsabellaJane
November 18th, 2010, 03:04 AM
If you want to rebuild your confidence you should try going to out of school groups,
you'll get to know and talk to different people and if you end up going to a drama group, that will really boost your confidence.
I perform all the time now and i'm really confident, its really helped because i never used to have any confidence :D

Keats
November 18th, 2010, 03:10 PM
i'm not much of an actor.
i don't really have time for out of school groups either.
i have school and don't get home until six ish, i have saturday school, play rugby saturday afternoons and sunday.
thanks though.

Haha no-one cares.
Don't blame you

Love.Hate
November 19th, 2010, 05:08 PM
I got my confidence knocked when i was bullied for two years.
its a horrible thing, but after moving away from the people and hanging
around with new people my confidence has risen. Yes im still cutting
so its not exactly a sucess story. but i think to increase your confidence
dont worry about that particular girl anymore, she is now no longer in your
life so why bother getting upset over it. Concentrate on your friendships and
girls will come, these things take time, trust me i know! but you find that right one
in the end.

Hope this has helped xx

Keats
November 21st, 2010, 05:33 PM
I don't even have time to hang around with new people, school, rugby and music take up most of my time.
90 views and 5 replys.
Told you pretty much no-one cares

Fiction
November 21st, 2010, 07:31 PM
I don't even have time to hang around with new people, school, rugby and music take up most of my time.
90 views and 5 replys.
Told you pretty much no-one cares

A great deal of those views are people who are just visitors to this site, who can't actually post., Another load of them will be people who don't know anything about self harm but are just curious about this section of the forum. And even more will be people who have already posted checking your thread again because they DO care. And there will be the people who feel they can't help you. Look at all the other threads. They all have much higher viewing than they do replies, but having that attitude, people will begin to wonder why they bothered and stop caring. Tbh you've just totally disrespected all the people who bothered to reply.

Aceso
November 21st, 2010, 08:28 PM
Hey there
I have a similar situation to you, however I have never been in a relationship.
All I can say is you did the right thing cutting off connection. I recently added my 'friend' again, and it has been the worst mistake of my life.
Bullying is real shit, I wont deny it, having been there myself. I dont know how much confidence you have in yourself at the moment, but just do small things and build it up slowly, dont take big leaps just yet. Go out and have a coffee with friends, or do something you feel you can do that is constructive. I know, I know it sounds cheesy, however it works for me. To resist the urges I just have to keep myself busy.
It hurts like hell, I know. I care, I really do. I hope things get so much better for you xxx :hug:
I'm here any time you need me, if you want I can give you my E-mail or something so you can contact me, because you have not yet made enough posts to message me on here.