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Bath
November 17th, 2010, 06:36 AM
Okay, quick story;

I date this kid named William for 2 months. He dumps me because he said he couldn't see me the same way anymore after we ended up giving our virginity to each other.

In time, I got a boyfriend and he got a girlfriend. I told my boyfriend(whos miles away in England) that I'm in love with him which I'm having second thoughts about(but he definitely loves me..). William claims to love HIS girlfriend. We don't talk at school, we don't text. We're on good terms but we just pretend that the other doesn't exist.

Two problems;

1) It's been 6 months and I am still not over William. I see him everyday and my heart breaks. I see his facebook posts about his gf and I want to cry. I just can't get over him. I think about him lots.
2) I wish I could date other people other than my boyfriend.. people I know at school. I think it would help me get over William more, too. My bf's miles away and I just don't think it'll work out, but I've told him I love him, and he said he would die and be so upset without me... this is so tough on me it's one of the reasons I cut.

it's so complicated and so frustrating and so just ugh asdfhgjkl;'.
Help.

AutumnDae
November 17th, 2010, 07:36 AM
Well you shouldn't stay with your boyfriend if you aren't happy with him. As much as it is going to suck for him if you end things, it's going to suck for you staying in the relationship because you don't feel the same way.

As for William, been there, done that, still doing it now. It sucks, majorly. And I think that because you lost your virginity to him, there's that attachment. Now you are ALWAYS going to remember his name. And basically, that sucks, a big one too. I see my ex boyfriend and honestly I just want to curl up and cry. I don't really have any advice, because if I did, I would give it to you, and wouldn't be feeling the same way. But I can sympathize with you! :/

Wings of Despair
November 17th, 2010, 10:14 AM
Well all you can do is either forget about him or make up with him.If you don`t like the other guy don`t break his heart because you know how it is.I felt the same a while ago but after that we were friends again and i didn`t feel the urge to like her anymore,time is the best medicine.

IsabellaJane
November 17th, 2010, 12:35 PM
I think you need to break up with your English boyfriend, your leading him on by still dating him, and it'll be worse if you break it off in a few months rather than now

I hope it works out for you :)

Fact
November 17th, 2010, 01:56 PM
Break up with your current boyfriend - you're practically using him now because you've lied to him and he sounds like he has developed deeper feelings for you. Breaking up soon as is appropriate is advisable.

If William is happy with his new girlfriend, then you best leave them be. You suggested to yourself that maybe you could be with someone from school - do that if it's what you want and it will make you happier.

Paladino
November 17th, 2010, 04:54 PM
You should break up with your current bf if your not happy being with him, even though it is going to hurt for him, its better of for the both of you if you end things sooner.

Bath
November 17th, 2010, 05:50 PM
It's so difficult. He's grown so attached to me, and I'm so afraid I'm going to realize that I DO love him and then come running back but he won't be there. I just don't know :/