Am I going to be ok?

[lightkun]

On 10/1/10, I lost a brother to the war in Afghanistan. Ever sense then, I stopped caring about everything and have constant thoughts of suicide. Now I'm addicted to prescription pain pills and cigarettes. My grades are shit and I have constant depression. Do you think I am going to come out of this? Or am I just going to be a loser the rest of my life?

[closed]

I'm certain you will, it's just a matter of time. But you need to take minimum care of your life, so when you land back on earth you wouldn't be in jail for 50 years... Try to avoid any possible addiction, and keep your grades at least on a minimum level. Time will heal the pain. And also, think about getting professional help. It will be easier that way.
Good luck, i hope it helped.
Aidan

[Bath]

No. You will not be this way for the rest of your life, if you get the help you need. Therapy can help a little bit, sort of, it depends on the person, but if you have not looked into therapy yet, it's worth a try. But more importantly, you need to pull yourself out of it with the support of other people, but mostly you have to want to get better.

And we're all here for you. (:

[Wings of Despair]

Well the situation really sucks.I am sorry for your brother and we all know that war is a piece of shit.Your not a loser for caring about your brother but if he was still alive he would want you not to smoke or be depressed because of him :).Cheer up,don`t think of your brother`s death as something that tragic.Im sure he is in a much better place away from the cold war.Hope that helped.

[lightkun]

I'm currently seeing a therapist. I guess I have to move through "stages of grief" I guess I'm out of denial and in depression. I just decided that I'm going to stop with the pills and smoking btw. I don't want to end up in prison or something like you ^ said. Things are getting better I guess. It's just really hard.

[nick]

Sorry to hear about your brother. As you're American I'm reading 10/1/10 as October 1st in which case that's still very recent, its bound to take a lot longer for you to get over your loss, that's only normal and to be expected. Dont give up though, your brother wouldnt want that. He would want you to go on and live a full and happy life and do all the things that he now wont be able to. Do them for both of you.

[HeroesAndCons]

Loosing someone is hard especially if u were really close to them
But you gotta look on the bright side He died a hero
He wouldnt want to see u die he wants to see u happy and strong and grow up
u will get outta this u wont be or ur not a loser

[Tristin.]

Iam sooooo sorry for your loss. i know that if i ever lost my brother my world would end :(

time will heal part of the wound, but there will always be a little niggle at the back of your mind, reminding you of the person you have lost, sometimes it will make you smile, other times it weill get you so down that you think life is pointless, but always remember it will make you smile.

if you need ANYTHING just PM me

again, im soo sorry :(
X

[xgeekyrocksx]

you will be okay, it will just take time... im so sorry about your brother- im sure he was brave and loyal... its sad that he had to die that way... You will be okay, getting over a death is hard and your not going to stop missing him. but you will feel alot better about him, i hope you'll be okay xx from Polina

[whereismymind]

I'm sorry for your loss I'm sure he died honourably and may he rest in peace. Your gonna be fine, try to give up the ciggarettes and pills, and your grades are gonna get better your just going through a bad time. Your not a loser and you never will be I swear. If you need to talk about the slightest thing message me whenever you need to :)

[Fiction]

Getting over a death just takes time. it's ok to be upset, to cry about it. Your brother would not want you to ruin your life over this though. He'd want you to be ok. As his death was recent of course your still going to be upset but the pain will ease over time. He died doing what he loved and you can't ask for anything more than that :)
Feel free to contact me if you ever want to talk.

[Mike321]

I'm really sorry for your loss
Its really hard when you loose someone that close to you
It will take alot of time to come to terms with whats happened, which is completley understandable
You will be okay, you wont feel like this forever, try and give up the cigarettes and the pills as they are only going to make things worse
We're all here to help and support you
Once again sorry for your loss

[lightkun]

Well today I lost it :) this kid in my class was talking about the military and how "stupid it is to enlist" so I punched him in the nose. He felt really bad when he realized why I did that.

I'm done with pills. They only let me down. Thanks guys for all the support. Even though you didn't know him, and you don't know me, it's nice to see that people care.

My best friends cousin just died about a month after my brother's death. So we are in the same boat right now. I owe it to her to stay sober and be there as she is there for me.