DaMaGe
November 16th, 2010, 03:14 AM
I have a friend that has lived his whole life in depression due to his parents. I just want tips on anything I can do to help him, but it's a tricky job to figure out by myself. So please read this "description" of him and help me figure out things that will help him.
His name is Sam, and he's my age (17). He probably has some kind of mental illness, as his mind is years younger than his real age. However, he doesn't sit in a wheelchair or anything. He is sane and you can't really tell he's different from anybody else by his looks. You can tell that he has some sort of problem as he is very straight-forward, by which I mean he speaks his mind and doesn't care for anyone's feelings (he calls the girls bitches when they do anything he doesn't like and he calls people childish names like "poop", "penis", "asshole" and "whore"). Of course this causes him to lie on the unpopular side of the line, however, he is still known everywhere at school because of, what I described as being straight-forward. Everyone makes fun of him, but he's not directly "mobbed" as nobody makes any physical actions against him, but he's called "retard" and "braindead" all the time. He also has a gaming addiction into Pokemon, Digimon and some Chinese games. Not like dolls and toys, but online free video games. Whenever at school, he plays nonstop and doesn't do any work. At home his father has blocked his Internet access, and he is never allowed to leave the home except for birthdays and special events.
His parents is the cause. They are foreign, poor and the father seems violent. By poor, I mean close to the poverty line. Even though they have a 2-floor house, there is very little food in the house, there is a car without gas, (and I honestly haven't seen Sam wear a different T-shirt or sweater in years).
Sam constantly says he wants to take suicide but doesn't have the strength. He is afraid of the pain of cutting, but he has actually asked online places for advice on "painless methods".
I have repeatedly told him that once he gets out of school and becomes an adult, he will get a better life. However, I am getting a bit concerned as his father won't even let him out of the house in the weekends, how is Sam going to get out of the house forever?
Childcare has been considered several times, however, Sam strongly believes his father will kill him if he calls for help. And calling for help is kinda hard anyway, as the only phone in the house is in the basement, and Sam is forced to be in his room. Since Internet is offline for him, and his computer gets taken away the minute he gets home, he usually spends his time watching TV and sleeping.
He's on the very grasp of the suicide line. If anything, I'm betting it will be just months until he actually takes suicide, cutting or not. So, urgent case here...
From my standing, it's sad to see a friend like this. I have learned all these things just by asking "How is it at home?". Sam talks to pretty much anyone about everything, so just by asking that, he revealed all of this (just like I said earlier, he is VERY straight-forward). However, there is a point when trying to say "what can I do to help?" becomes a repetitive, annoying question. That's why I'm asking here. What can I physically do to help him? Any business to talk to for assistance, any ideas for what to do at all? I am out of ideas...
Help is appreciated :) And yes, I know this is a lot of info to throw in my first post.
His name is Sam, and he's my age (17). He probably has some kind of mental illness, as his mind is years younger than his real age. However, he doesn't sit in a wheelchair or anything. He is sane and you can't really tell he's different from anybody else by his looks. You can tell that he has some sort of problem as he is very straight-forward, by which I mean he speaks his mind and doesn't care for anyone's feelings (he calls the girls bitches when they do anything he doesn't like and he calls people childish names like "poop", "penis", "asshole" and "whore"). Of course this causes him to lie on the unpopular side of the line, however, he is still known everywhere at school because of, what I described as being straight-forward. Everyone makes fun of him, but he's not directly "mobbed" as nobody makes any physical actions against him, but he's called "retard" and "braindead" all the time. He also has a gaming addiction into Pokemon, Digimon and some Chinese games. Not like dolls and toys, but online free video games. Whenever at school, he plays nonstop and doesn't do any work. At home his father has blocked his Internet access, and he is never allowed to leave the home except for birthdays and special events.
His parents is the cause. They are foreign, poor and the father seems violent. By poor, I mean close to the poverty line. Even though they have a 2-floor house, there is very little food in the house, there is a car without gas, (and I honestly haven't seen Sam wear a different T-shirt or sweater in years).
Sam constantly says he wants to take suicide but doesn't have the strength. He is afraid of the pain of cutting, but he has actually asked online places for advice on "painless methods".
I have repeatedly told him that once he gets out of school and becomes an adult, he will get a better life. However, I am getting a bit concerned as his father won't even let him out of the house in the weekends, how is Sam going to get out of the house forever?
Childcare has been considered several times, however, Sam strongly believes his father will kill him if he calls for help. And calling for help is kinda hard anyway, as the only phone in the house is in the basement, and Sam is forced to be in his room. Since Internet is offline for him, and his computer gets taken away the minute he gets home, he usually spends his time watching TV and sleeping.
He's on the very grasp of the suicide line. If anything, I'm betting it will be just months until he actually takes suicide, cutting or not. So, urgent case here...
From my standing, it's sad to see a friend like this. I have learned all these things just by asking "How is it at home?". Sam talks to pretty much anyone about everything, so just by asking that, he revealed all of this (just like I said earlier, he is VERY straight-forward). However, there is a point when trying to say "what can I do to help?" becomes a repetitive, annoying question. That's why I'm asking here. What can I physically do to help him? Any business to talk to for assistance, any ideas for what to do at all? I am out of ideas...
Help is appreciated :) And yes, I know this is a lot of info to throw in my first post.