Afraid To Cry Around Mom

[Bath]

I'm very emotional, and a lot of the time I cry. Pretty much every day or every other day. Whenever I do, usually in an argument, she'll be like STOP CRYING, YOU JUST WANT ATTENTION. No, bitch, I want you to understand what I'm saying. I can't hold back the tears a lot, and recently it hurts me when she says that so much that I'll have to hurt myself physically but that's a whole another thing. What can I do? This has to stop, I need her to understand I'm not crying for attention, I just get really emotional..

[Fiction]

If you cry at every arguement, she may think this so maybe you should try only crying when you are really upset? I know this may be hard since crying is a natural reaction. maybe you should try sitting down and talking to her, tell her it's not attention and that you just want her to see what you are saying because when you are arguing she is more likely to say things to try and hurt you, or that she doesn't mean.

Of course ideally, you would avoid arguing with her although I know from personal experience this is almost impossible.

[closed]

She is not right. Try to explain her your position but really gently. It;s important for you to know, that expressing your emotions is positive. Everyone has them in different ways, and in different strenghts. Don't hold it in, because it will hurt you. If she still doesn't understand, try not to cry in from of her.
Good Luck

Aidan

[Art_dude]

As Kathy and Arches pointed out, everyone has a different way of expressing their emotions.

Just as you express your desperation by crying, your mother expresses it by controlling others. As awful as it is that she can't understand the pain you're going through, I think it would help your frustration to realize that she has her own set of issues and insecurities that makes her feel uncomfortable around others crying. Sit her down and explain this is your physical manifestation of being upset, and that if she can't deal with it, you're both going to need to figure out a way to have an argument constructively.