Tough Questions

[lost1]

I've had some suspicions about my friend's sexuality. I'll come right out and say that I've got a crush on him, and have for awhile (I'm bi). Is there any way for me to ask him without revealing to him that I'm gay? I'm not doing it so much to like...get in his pants. I just want to know that he can trust me. And if he is, it'll give me the opportunity to come out to him.

Essentially, I just want to know which way he rolls without making a fool out of myself. Advice?

[brennaluvv]

Keep making remarks on how hot some girls are and if he just shrugs or mumbles or something then ask... Or you can ask just straight out, just say "Well, I'm really curious, what's your sexuality?"

[myskias]

just tell him about yourself.. dont say u like him or anything but say something like this..

"hey dude, i havent told anyone this before but i really really trust you and i need to get this off my chest.. im bi."

if u say that most people would be accepting of that. and im sure u can trust him enough even if he was straight to know that ur bi.. its not like ur friendship will change a whole lot from that.

when i told my best friend i was gay, he was totally chill and we still have sleepovers and everything (hes straight btw) haha so dont stress over it dude. its all a matter of if you trust him. and if he DOES have any feelings towards guys hell most likely tell you that after you told him about yourself. so just dont stress over it. if u trust him tell him. if you dont then dont tell him

[iamniokekun]

Sexuality can be a touchy subject, so don't come on too strong. Coming out is also a matter of trust as well; apparently you trust this guy a great deal if you want to come out to him and he may even return the favor and tell you about his. But we're getting ahead of ourselves.

The best way to ask your friend about something like this is to make it seem as casual as possible, but I'm not sure how close you are to him, but its obvious you guys don't talk about this often enough to just make it "casual". So I suggest you perhaps bring it up the subject of sex in a casual way and slowly move onto personal sexual preferences, if it gets to awkward or uncomfortable for you, its definitely uncomfortable for him. So take your time.