What should I do?!?

[pageplant77]

Ok so me and my girlfriend, Angela, have been dating for almost nine months now. And I honestly don't know if our relationship is even worth it anymore.. I don't see her very much because she lives 25 minutes away, and I don't have a car, or a license, and my family is poor so I feel bad asking my parents if they can bring me to see her. And every time I DO see her we can never be alone, so I can't do anything private with her. And I'm always trying to get her to have fun and go nuts whenever I'm hanging out with her, but she just sits there...
Anyways, theres this other girl, Peyton, who I met through my cousin. I've only known her for a little more than a month now. She's always very outgoing and fun. And I never liked her as more than a friend...until tonight. I'm starting to develop a crush on her. And I think she might like me back because she kept mentioning that she was single, and she was so happy to see me.
I'm really confused right now. This whole thing just seems so wrong..

What should I do?

[Sage]

Break up with her. There's no point in sticking with a relationship if you can't be happy.

[AllThatIsLeft]

You should do what your heart tells you to do, if you feel that your relationship is going nowhere, and ultimately you are not happy then it is honestly not worth it.
Talk to her, and don't make it seem her fault as it isn't, it will be better for both of you to find someone else that it doesn't feel like a mission to remain with.

[The Joker]

Uh, I don't get it. The person who you're currently with seems to be making your life miserable, and there's someone who seems fun, available AND interested in you. Seems like an easy problem to fix to me.

[Fact]

Uh, I don't get it. The person who you're currently with seems to be making your life miserable, and there's someone who seems fun, available AND interested in you. Seems like an easy problem to fix to me.

What he said ↑

If you're bored and miserable in your relationship, which it sounds like you are, your girlfriend probably is too, so it's best to end it now before you feel like you're trapped in this situation.

The other girl sounds more like your 'type', plus she's interested. Why not go for it? You've got little to lose in trying.

Make sure you break up with your current girlfriend first, though. There'd be no point in cheating on her.

[Kaius]

It'd be fairer on both you and your girlfriend to break up with her. Theres no point staying in an unhappy relationship, you never know she could feel the same. It just depends on whether it really is time to call it out or whether you can see yourself finding some way around it.

[Aves]

Like everyone else has said. It's better to break it off with Angela. Ask out Peyton. If she says yes, then you have a new girlfriend that makes you happy and is interested in you. If she does say no, then you can look for other girls. I know it sounds like a typical more fish in the sea idea, but it's better than being unhappy in a relationship.

[coeur de lapin]

Before you break up with your current girlfriend, think about it. You've been together for almost nine months, why have you been together for that long if all it's doing is making you unhappy? Surely you stuck around for a reason. Communicate, see if there's anything you two can work out and help your relationship. It's like people always take the easy way out nowadays without really accomplishing anything because the cycle continues. If both you and her agree that breaking up would be best then by all means, but if she's willing to work it out then maybe you should be too.

[Sage]

why have you been together for that long if all it's doing is making you unhappy?

Probably an unwillingness to acknowledge these negative feelings, prolonged hope that it'll get better on it's own, and/or an inability to talk to eachother about it. That's just my speculation however, no offense to the OP, I'm sure they can speak for themselves.

[coeur de lapin]

Probably an unwillingness to acknowledge these negative feelings, prolonged hope that it'll get better on it's own, and/or an inability to talk to eachother about it. That's just my speculation however, no offense to the OP, I'm sure they can speak for themselves.

But I feel like that's the problem. People ignore their problems and leave it until it's too late to fix. Communication is key for any relationship (or at least in my opinion). If they're unhappy about something, they should talk to each other about it.

Of course ultimately the decision is up to the OP (lol obviously), but if their current relationship is anything special then they should really try and fix it if it has a chance. Then again if they have to ask about what to do with a relationship on a message board then chances are low on the special.

[brennaluvv]

If she acts bored when you're with her (Angela) then dump her. Being uninterested in conversations proves loss of interest in most cases. I would personally try and work it out with that her before I left her, maybe something happened to her, she's sad or depressed. That might just be the issue. If she is, however, making your life miserable then I would recommend going for Peyton. (: Good luck. Break ups are always difficult, I'm so sorry. ]=

[Aves]

Probably an unwillingness to acknowledge these negative feelings, prolonged hope that it'll get better on it's own, and/or an inability to talk to eachother about it.

This is true. I know many situations where my friends have stayed together on a hope that the negative feelings towards each other would just fade away, but they never did. They just kept falling apart until it was beyond repair, and the relationship was over.

[Daniel_]

Do what will make you happy.

If you'd rather be with this new girl, break up with your current girlfriend, however don't be a dick about it. Do it nicely. Don't hurt her.

[pageplant77]

I also found out recently that Angela lied to me and I gave her conditions, but she is continuing to lie to me (she doesn't know that I know that though) And my cousin (who's Peytons friend) told me that Peyton told her that she feels like she could tell me anything and she could trust me with her life. And even though I haven't known her that long, that she feels completely comfortable around me.

Now comes the hard part. Breaking up with Angela.. I want to break up with her in person, but I dont know how I could do that and still be able to get home. She put together this plan for me hanging out in her town for this Saturday and her dad usually gives me a ride home. So if I break up with her, I don't know how I'd get home.

[whereismymind]

If it bothers you that much walk home...

[Number02]

I get the feeling that it might be a bit far.

This might be one time where it would be prudent for the OP to ask for a lift off his parents.

As for Angela/Peyton... Try and work it out. Like others have said, it may well be worth working out in the end, but if you do, you have to consider Peyton's feelings as well.

Tread carefully, man. Needless to say, if this goes wrong you could lose both girls, which isn't a pretty situation.

Good luck.

[pageplant77]

If it bothers you that much walk home...

It's 25 miles to walk. And I live in MN so its pretty cold right now.

[Sage]

It's 25 miles to walk. And I live in MN so its pretty cold right now.

Got any friends that could lend you a bicycle?

[pageplant77]

Ok, so last night I broke it off over the phone...I wavered my options carefully and decided that was the best thing to do. I told her that we can still talk and that we would probably be better off as just friends.

I think I'm going to stay single for a month or two, just take some time off, but also get to know Peyton better :) Wish me luck!!

[Number02]

You did well, man. I wish you good luck with Peyton :)