Struggling..=(

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Hey guys, I'm going to give you the situation, simple as I can.
So, there is this girl. She has stayed at my house, few times. Slept in my bed with me, gone to movies,fairs,family things, on vacation with me. She has done it all. She says she likes me and such. And I do like her back, very much. I complement her, and tell her exactly how I feel. Here is the problem. She has a boyfriend.(She has not cheated on him physically. emotinally, i think so..)All she does is talk bad about him, but yet, she and him are always holding hands, hanging out, and kissing. More so then any other couple I know. I have really fell for this girl and just want her to choose. I have told her, but she says she still has feelings for him also, they have been going out for awhile. Now there is me, I don't know what to do, now that I have feelings for her, its extreamly hard to walk away. I have this horrible feeling I'm being played. :(:confused: I need any advice please, I can give anymore additinal info anyone needs, this is just getting sorta long. So, please help fellow VT'ers?

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Hey guys, I'm going to give you the situation, simple as I can.
So, there is this girl. She has stayed at my house, few times. Slept in my bed with me, gone to movies,fairs,family things, on vacation with me. She has done it all. She says she likes me and such. And I do like her back, very much. I complement her, and tell her exactly how I feel. Here is the problem. She has a boyfriend.(She has not cheated on him physically. emotinally, i think so..)All she does is talk bad about him, but yet, she and him are always holding hands, hanging out, and kissing. More so then any other couple I know. I have really fell for this girl and just want her to choose. I have told her, but she says she still has feelings for him also, they have been going out for awhile. Now there is me, I don't know what to do, now that I have feelings for her, its extreamly hard to walk away. I have this horrible feeling I'm being played. :(:confused: I need any advice please, I can give anymore additinal info anyone needs, this is just getting sorta long. So, please help fellow VT'ers?

After reading your story, I'm sorry to say that it sounds like you're being used. It may not be what you want to hear, but it certainly sounds like it.

The fact that she has had so many close experiences with you, whilst having a boyfriend, but still claims to love her boyfriend, means that she's most likely using you. Just because she says she likes you back, doesn't necessarily mean that's what she's really feeling - she could just be saying that to 'keep' you.

If I were you, I would give her an ultimatum. Either stop stringing you along, or do something about the fact that she is closely emotionally involved with two people. If she's as into her boyfriend as you say she says she is, then you'll find yourself without her.

It's a sad situation to be in, but I'm guessing it's not your fault, unless you got close to her knowing that she already had a boyfriend, in which case, maybe you should have thought twice.

Sorry that this is so blunt and factual, but you asked for advice. It would be pointless to try and cover it up. These things happen :(

Hope you manage to work through this okay.

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I know what you feel. I know you want to split them up. But it's not the right thing to do.
If she stays with him, it means she still has feeling for him, and spliting them is just evil.
If she really talks bad about him they will fall apart soon enough. I know it's hard, but you have to be patient.
If you really love her don't make her life harder by making her to choose between you.
The smartest thing to do is to wait patiently, but still continue your relationship with her. Soon enough she will move to you.
Good Luck :)

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I agree with both of you. and Fact, Thank you for being blunt. It is what I wanted. I didn't want it sugar-coated. So thank you. And Arches5, You are right, splitting them up would be wrong. If she really liked me enough. I wouldn't have to split them up, right? So Thank you guys. :)