Bi or Confused?

[Hewhohasnoriches]

I'm 16 years old.

I'm beginning to worry if I might have an attraction to other males. I can tell whether a guy looks handsome or not. However I ALSO have an attraction to females, and I've even been infatuated with some of the girls I've seen. Sometimes I wonder if this is because of my tendeny to hang with guys more than girls. Sometimes I also wonder if it's becuase of my random flashes of guys (images, sometimes just the names of some that I know) when I'm jacking off. I can appreciate a guy's looks, but I've been in a change room before and I don't go home and become obsessed with what I see in there.

I have been under the impression that I was straight until I had a similar but less-defined fear of being gay at the age of 14. However, I guess I used masturbation as a way of supressing the feelings with the thoughts of women during my sessions. Then I continued to believe that I was straight until recently.

It's annoying, because I find myself willingly looking at other girls just to check if I'm still attracted to them, and I can no longer look at them without worrying about having an attraction to them. This fear of being gay is also beginning to destroy how I look at other males.

As I've said, I've been attracted to females before, have enjoyed, have even fantasized about marrying some of the girls I think about. But I'm wondering if there was ever an attraction to guys that I've been supressing somehow as a younger kid. I have also had an erection when thinking of some gay fantasies, but it isn't as intense as with women.

I just need some help, some one to discuss this with. My friends and family are not going to be of any help with this issue.

EDIT: A question: Can you somehow become less and less/ more and more attracted to a gender?

[TopGear]

Hi there!

Well It really seems like your confused, and many teenagers at this point in there lives are confused. There is nothing wrong with being gay, bi, or straight. It is just who you are and thats that. Are you looking at guys and thinking that you would date them or have a relationship with them or emotion attachment to a guy? If so, then its possible that you could be gay. Now if these thoughts are out of just looks and appearances then you might just be curious about the same sex, and that is normal for teens.

Also, don't let this tear you apart. This is something that you shouldn't beat yourself up over, just be who you are!

If you need someone to talk to, just shoot me a visitor message.

~Drew

[LiveLife23]

i feel that same way, i look at guys and tend to see if their good looking but i also like girls too. there are a couple cute girls at my school but there are also some good looking guys too. im attracted to both maybe or im just confused/curious but i wont be sure until im older so maybe youll just grow out of it, maybe not.

[nick]

Being able to tell the difference between good looking and ugly does not make you gay, everyone can do that. In answer to your edited question, your sexuality can fluctuate or seem fluid, mine does at times, but you cant really choose to stop having an attraction.

You sound more worried about being gay/bi than actually gay or bi to me, but really only you can know that. Try to keep an open mind and accept who you are, however that turns out to be.

[closed]

If you are not sure that you are bi then you are confused. But those classifications are stupid. Just love whoever you want and don't thing about it.
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