Got beaten up for not wanting to eat my dinner

[Blaster]

So my dad called me for dinner. I went to the table and told my father that I am not hungry. He was like shouting and screaming at me, demanding me to eat my dinner. We argued alot on the table about me not wanting to have dinner. I told him several times that I'm not hungry but he wouldn't listen and said to me that if I don't start eating he will beat me up ( for the 3rd time this week... ) . I told him to stop getting me to do things against my will but then he punched me in the face. After that punch I almost started to cry. When he saw my face he asked me:
Why the f**k are you looking me like that?
I replied to him: What do you expect me to do... smile everytime you start physically abusing me?
After that sentence things got much worse... he started beating me up more.
In the end I ended up with bruises.
I'm afraid of the next time this is going to happen. This isn't the first time when he beats me for this reason.
What should I do? I can't take the beating anymore. I just don't know how to stop him. He just thinks that he can control me by physically abusing me :( .

[ShatteredWings]

You in school?
Go, talk to a teacher or guidence. Now. You have more than enough proof right there to get either out of that house or get him taken out.

[laurita_21]

You need to tell someone. School, police, anyone that can help you.

[Fact]

Like ShatteredWings said, you need to see someone about this to get it to stop. It's not normal for a father to behave this way towards their child and you may end up being more seriously injured if this continues.
It may be hard to go for help at first, but just try! Things may not get better if you don't.

Good luck with this... I hope you manage to make it stop.

[nick]

Try talking to a school counsellor or even the police. You shouldnt have to accept violence on that scale.

[georgiamay]

Try talking to a teacher or someone that can help. Anyone, police even. No one deserved to be treated like that.

[Blaster]

The police... they just wouldn't want to work on this ( The police in my country is lazy and they don't help most people ). I called them once on a similar problem but they didn't help out.
I might try to talk to the school counsellor but I am just afraid if my dad is going to get mad :( .

[Fact]

The police... they just wouldn't want to work on this ( The police in my country is lazy and they don't help most people ). I called them once on a similar problem but they didn't help out.
I might try to talk to the school counsellor but I am just afraid if my dad is going to get mad :( .

If you explain your situation fully, someone like a school councillor should be able to make sure that this doesn't happen again and that your father is dealt with accordingly for what he has done to you.
Try not to be scared, it will help you so much in the long run if you do this now.

[nick]

Does he beat you enough to cause bruises or visible signs? In the UK you could go to a casualty department, they would make sure the police got involved if you explained how the injuries had been caused.

[laurita_21]

The police... they just wouldn't want to work on this ( The police in my country is lazy and they don't help most people ). I called them once on a similar problem but they didn't help out.
I might try to talk to the school counsellor but I am just afraid if my dad is going to get mad :( .

Then you should keep telling them, this is very serious! The police would take you to foster parents, or thats what they do here. Or you could tell your school coincellor which does help because they definatly will do something about it and in they wouldn't let your dad hurt you. Doesn't your mum try and stop this?
I know it's very scary but it's better that you do it now before it gets worse. Just tell someone you trust.
Good luck! :)

[ShatteredWings]

The police... they just wouldn't want to work on this ( The police in my country is lazy and they don't help most people ). I called them once on a similar problem but they didn't help out.
I might try to talk to the school counsellor but I am just afraid if my dad is going to get mad :( .

Go to the school, then. But if you come in with visiable bruses they can't in any part of the law refuse to investigate.

Tell the school counceleor that you can't go home if he knows you've told, that you need to have somewhere ready IMMIDATELY after he knows you've gotten help.

[Blaster]

I'll try to tell the school counsellor. :)
Thank you guys.

[laurita_21]

I'll try to tell the school counsellor. :)
Thank you guys.

Anytime :) Hope it all goes swell! Tell us how it goes if you can. Good luck!

[Blaster]

I couldn't do it... :( I'm afraid of what my dad's reaction is going to be. I'm just a coward. :(
The only thing that is in my mind right now is running away from my home and country lol. Yeah, I know that isn't a good idea and I'm thinking of other ways to avoid the abuse.

[Fact]

I couldn't do it... :( I'm afraid of what my dad's reaction is going to be. I'm just a coward. :(
The only thing that is in my mind right now is running away from my home and country lol. Yeah, I know that isn't a good idea and I'm thinking of other ways to avoid the abuse.

Running away by yourself is a bad idea, your father is likely to find you and then punish you further for trying to get away.
Try to find the courage to tell someone about this and get it sorted out. The longer you wait, the worse it will get and the more scared you will be.
If your situation is as serious as you say it is, you won't even get to see your dad's reaction, because they'll be separating him from you.

[Blaster]

I just found an old friend that is willing to runaway with me. The abuse in home isn't the only reason that I want to runaway from my country... there are many. One of the reasons is that i'm bullied physically and psychically in school like all the time. I told my parents that i'm bullied in school and they didn't do anything about it.There are many other reasons.
Like I said before, I really don't have the courage to tell the police or the school counsellor that i'm being physically abused in home. :(

[ShatteredWings]

It takes just as much to run away as it does to tell. Really.

[Ender]

No dude, dont run away. That just lands shit on your record. You need to talk to someone.

Even if it's your best friend, it's a start and they can help you talk to the proper authorities. You can't just let your dad keep doing this to you.

[Cudder]

Call the police right now and get that jerk arrested. And don't worry about people not taking care of you. Someone will take care of you

[NVerson]

I think you should first talk to one of your closest family members and then the police and other people.
I hope everything goes well 4 you.

[Wings of Despair]

Well that shit happened to me to.I didn`t get beaten up but my father always screamed when i didn`t eat.The only way you can really stop it is by going to the police but think about your family and what can happen in the end.Try talking to him..

[Weeping]

You need to get help as soon as possible!
A friend, a counselor, whatever.
If you can't talk to them,
write them a note.

Or just do something to let them know, cause this can't continue.

And well, I know how you feel. If you ever need to talk, PM me or anything.

:hug:

[Blaster]

Things are better now. By better I mean that he is away from my country for 6-10 months... I think. So the situation is kinda under control, for now.

[Fact]

Things are better now. By better I mean that he is away from my country for 6-10 months... I think. So the situation is kinda under control, for now.

Why has he gone away, if you don't mind me asking?
Glad to hear that your situation has improved.

[babyhottie]

omg im sooo sorry :o
Hope things get better for you ;D

[Blaster]

Why has he gone away, if you don't mind me asking?
Glad to hear that your situation has improved.

Well, he got called from Italy (he works there) and should be staying there for 6-10 months (he will stay there mainly because of job issues.). I have enough time to think how to confront him when he gets back.

[Brandon.]

I would talk to whoever you think can help you, there is a lot of resources you just have to look.

[Myrnodin]

I just found an old friend that is willing to runaway with me. The abuse in home isn't the only reason that I want to runaway from my country... there are many. One of the reasons is that i'm bullied physically and psychically in school like all the time. I told my parents that i'm bullied in school and they didn't do anything about it.There are many other reasons.
Like I said before, I really don't have the courage to tell the police or the school counsellor that i'm being physically abused in home. :(

I personally dont support running way; but honestly, if your country is like mine (and im quite sure it is) its feasible. It is really hard, and really though, and frenkly i think you would be better off putting that effort into getting things solved in your "home". Authorities, may seem incompetent from affar (believe me, i hate authorities) but when it comes to face them (you) they do their thing. You can go to the police, or to a foundation or something like that, denounce your father, and refuse to leave unless hes taken out, or unless its to a foster home. Its your right, as teen, and as human being. Even more if you have bruises to prove the abuse. Bureucracy can be awful, but it works in the end. Dont call yourself a coward, YOU ARE NOT. You are telling us your problem right? Thats a big step forward.
Regards, -Josh

[Alaph]

Tell the police.

[Fiction]

This thread has been nearly bumped several times and the OP is long gone so :locked: