Friendship issue: I'm a guy and I missed him.

[farkingdom]

First of all, this is not a relationship thread.
I had known a girl for almost 5 years now and we were really close. Up to the extend, I missed this girl at night and I wanted to call her really bad. But things changed, suddenly she showed no "like" interest at me. And she told me she had a boyfriend. Fine with me. But, I still hang out with this girl but we no longer text or call as often as ever. And FYI, I seldom quarrel or argue with this girl. In fact, I'm somehow scared to share some of my personal stories with her since we are members of the opposite sex.

So, I became really close to this guy whom I knew 3 years ago. Since the beginning of this year until now, my friendship bond with this guy has become really strong. In the beginning, I just treat him like a normal friend. But now, I feel like caring for this friend more than ever. I called him "my best friend." And this is the weird part, I'm really emotionally attached to this guy. We do stuff together such as visiting each other's houses, cinema, jogging...etc etc.

In these recent months, we kept quarreling for stuffs that doesn't really matter. And the funny part: We get back after 5 minutes after the quarrel.
Each time, I began to wonder if this is normal! :confused: Because I really love him!
Sometimes, I get upset when he talks to other people and ignores me for a while. I can't help my emotions. I'm beginning to feel jealous of him easily ......I feel like... the villain over here.

When I hang around with the girl I mentioned, I missed that guy alot. Am I gay or bi??? Please help me with my confused emotions. And I'm a guy. Is this even normal?

[Katrina]

It is completely normal. You can love your best friend without being gay. You can be attracted to your best friend and still not be gay. It depends on a few things.

First, when you say you love him, you said it was in a way you love a best friend or like a brother. It is normal for friends to love each other on that level. Ask a bunch of guys who serve together in Iraq or any other war. Also, guys can form close friendships with each other without wanting to be romantically involved.

When you say you miss him, that could also be a close freindship unless you think of him in a loving romantic way. If that is true and he is the only boy you feel that way about, you may just really love that one guy. It doesn't mean you are gay. If you were gay you would have dreams of being in love with boys or of having sex with them, (only boys) and of kissing them and feeling warm and happy when you are close to them. If you don't feel those things then you are not gay. Still, if you feel that with just this one boy, then it's like you have a special bond with him. I think you know the answer, yourself. Just be honest with yourself and you will be fine.