Do I like him...?

[ktmay96]

Wow. Interesting situation right here.
So there's this guy, J. He seems sooo amazing. But I just don't know what to do.
So long story short (well, shortER), he had this thing with my friend. They never actually "officially" went out. She didn't want a relationship, and so their "thing" just kinda fell apart. I was sorta kinda friends with him. Like, I'd met and talked to him before, on facebook and in person. On Sunday, I was talking to him, as always. He had to go, so he gave me his number and told me to text him. So I did, and we ended up texting for about 4 1/2 hours. It would've been more, but I actually had to sleep so I didn't crash at school the next day. Then Monday night, I texted him again, for several hours. And each of these conversations actually had meaning and point to them. It wasn't just Hi, Whats up? Nm, cool, ya. We talked about EVERYTHING. And we discovered we had so much in common. It was insane. Also, he was so funny and enjoyable to talk to. I felt so, at ease. I felt like I could talk with him like he was my best friend.
Then tuesday, the friend he had a thing with said "J says that we're just friends, and he likes other people." I was pretty sure he was talking about me... but I didn't say anything. Then later she said, "Someone likes you." I played dumb and was like, "Who?" She made me guess, and another guy hears J's name and "like" in the same sentance (I go to a school where girls and boys are seperated, and we see the guys at lunch) and goes to find J. My friend tells me I was right, that J likes me. (Also, she's okay with it, and she's actually kinda encouraging it, so thats not one of my problems. Cause it she wasn't I wouldn't go for him) Later it came up in me and J's conversation. I wasn't supposed to know, so I pretended my friend didn't tell me who it was. So, he tells me he likes me. We have a long conversation as always.
So, he likes me. And as a person, I know for sure I like him. He's sooo sweet, he calls me cute and pretty, not hot or sexy (which I really appreciate), he likes me as a PERSON and doesn't JUST think I'm attractive, we have a lot in common, he WANTS to get to know me better first before a relationship (which I appreciate so much), and he's just so... I don't know. He seems like... a really amazing guy. But I just don't know if I like him as more.
So what should I do? Get to know him more, and just go for it? Or... I don't even know what other options I have. Just go ahead and give me your input, what ever it is. Thanks so much!

[Katrina]

Personally, I would say get to know him more. There is much more to a relationship than just talking sweetly and having many things in common.

Other options you can try are -
1. He gives you a look that betrays his calm exterior. Even though he is across the room, "that look" he has says it all. It is sweeping, from your head to your toes, and then his eyes linger on yours.

2. He appears unexpectedly. He likes you a lot if he shows up out of nowhere. He can only do that if he has been asking people about your schedule, or he has been paying attention to where you are going and at what time. His face may turn red when he sees you. A sudden, "Oh, hi," is his way of saying, "I don't want to seem obvious, but I am interested in you." If you feel the same way, do not act shy. Stop and talk to him.

[ktmay96]

I am working on getting to know him better. I guess when you look back on my post it seems like thats all it is, is just having stuff in common and him being sweet. I guess its kinda hard when you guys don't know the whole story. I was friends with him before he started liking me and we started talking a bunch. Not super close, but I've talked to him and we're friends.

1- Well I don't know about that one. Its kinda hard to say because I don't see him anywhere but lunch, and when we're at lunch we talk so I can't tell if he's looking at me when I'm not looking at/ around him.
2- Thanks for that advice.

[IAMWILL]

Well there's two things I see here.
1) He seems like a really nice guy, and if you really like him you should get to know him better and see where things go.
I am worried though about #2.
2) He seems a little too nice. If he is this great, why wouldn't your friend like him. Has he ever mentioned previous girlfriends or relationships? I worry that he may be playing you a little - acting super nice towards you for awhile until you're together and then... Well using you for his own pleasure pretty much.
A healthy relationship needs to have some disagreements, because no two people are perfect.

[ktmay96]

1- He is a really nice guy.

2-No, my friend likes him. Do you mean the one he had a "thing" with? They're still friends. She just didn't wanna go out with him. So they both moved on. And, yeah, I completely understand where you're coming from. I've been really careful around guys. I've had a couple just say "Oh you're so pretty/hot" and stuff like that. I know they aren't options. And according to people, I'm pretty enough to be careful, because there are gonna be guys who just want something outta me and then they're gone. And I plan on taking it slow. This is actually my first "relationship". I went out with some guy in 7th grade but that doesn't really count. But ya, slow for sure. And he's also kinda shy, so he's not really the player type. But thank you, I know thats something to worry about.

[IAMWILL]

Okay well definitely take it slow then, and if he does make a move to soon and you are not okay with it don't be afraid to say no. If you're not enjoying it don't do it pretty much.

[IsabellaJane]

Does he know you like him?
Take all the time you need, if he really likes you he'll wait until your ready for a relationship
Good luck :)