Is Watching Porn Okay?

[Katrina]

My boyfriend really likes to watch porn. I wouldn’t say he’s addicted or anything, and he wants us to watch together, but I’m not into it. We have a good sex life otherwise, and I want to figure out a way to make this okay, but some of my friends say that it’s not normal to watch porn when you’ve got a girlfriend/boyfriend, and even if it is, I don’t know how I can get into it.

[nick]

Its OK for either partner to watch porn when you cant be together and its OK to watch it together. But if it doesnt really do anything for you or you arent comfortable with it then you shouldnt have to do it, it should be your choice. So just tell him again that you dont want to.

[Andrew0017]

It depends. Not every guy feels the need to watch it at all, (me for example...I've never watched it and I turned out okay) but he shouldn't pressure you into watching something if you don't want to. Just sit him down and explain to him that it does nothing for you and he should understand.
Also, what your friends said varies on the relationship. Some partners view it as a form of cheating, others don't.

[Art_dude]

Nick nailed it.

It's perfectly healthy and normal for both partners to watch porn in a relationship, whether in their own private time or together. If you're not interested in porn, then lucky for you, you don't have to watch it. Also lucky for you, if he asks you to watch with him, you can say you're not interested. I don't see the problem here.

[Katrina]

Thank you guys for your useful answers.
I had a talk with him yesterday and he agreed to my wish of not seeing porn.
Sexuality is so complicated and it goes so deep, that it is unlikely we will ever share all our partners’ sexual interests. To some extent relationship is about compromise, and this may be a time when one or both of us will have to meet somewhere in the middle. And I am lucky in that part.

[coeur de lapin]

Lol everyone is different. I don't think it was right of your friends to tell you that it isn't 'normal' to watch porn when you're involved with someone. Your partner won't be with you 24/7 when they're in the mood so they might as well take care of themselves. Of course it's up to the couple/person with whatever they're comfortable with but I've watched porn with my boyfriend, it was great. I know even if the girl in it was a million times hotter than me, my boyfriend still thought I was the hottest thing in the world.

Just gotta work it.

[Jakeisamazing]

Watching porn is completely normal, most men and women have at least tried it before nothing to be worried about(:

[DerBear]

Watching porn is completely normal, most men and women have at least tried it before nothing to be worried about(:

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