Always On My Mind!

[Punk_Kid]

There's this girl at school I really like but hate. I like her because of her personality and her healthy lifestyle, and I think she's attractive. But whenever I text/chat with her I feel miserable afterwords. Idk why, I just do. I'm also thinking that she just wants to empty my wallet every 8th period for snacks, not that I have that much money anyways lol

Any suggestions on how to stop thinking about her? She's in my homeroom and at least 1 other class a day, sometimes 3.

I know she's a semi-major factor in my cutting so I'm hoping that if I can quit thinking about her I can reduce on how often I cut.:yes:

[Mattasaur94]

Hi Lee,
Well... There's a few things you can do about your issue with the girl,
You really like her, but you also hate her?
Understanding this, I can safely assure you that hormones most likely play a large factor in this situation; thus the attration to her personality and appearance, and as for the life style, most of us envy a healthy lifestyle and admire it to some extent.
Try explaining to her that you don't have the money to waste of food, pack something else instead? See how that goes.
You can do a couple of small things to quietly test out if she's just pocket-pinching. (:

How does anyone stop thinking about anything?
You need a distraction.
If you feel depressed after talking to her, then it's probably best you don't go out of your way to talk to her; at the same time, it's not always nice to just stop talking to her in general, but if she's making you unhappy, find something else to do, or try and figure out what it is that makes you unhappy.

Chances are that your gut-instinct will be relatively correct or accurate.
Just a leap of faith, that's all.

As for the issue of self harm, I understand it's hard to quit, it takes alot of determination and focus, first hand account for this one.
What you need to do is find something else to occupy your time, instead of cutting, try... cleaning, or reading, exercise, anything, really, a placebo.
If she's a semi-major factor in your self harm, then... well... to put it bluntly that's silly.
You should never cut because of someone else, it's your body, not theirs.

Try and find a substitute for thoughts and time.
Thinking things through and talking about it is perhaps the best way to accomplish change in these situations. (:

[Fiction]

Cutting and Self harm :arrow: Relationships and dating

[Punk_Kid]

I know it is kind of stupid lol. And what I mean by love and hate is that when I talk to her she makes you feel better. but then when we stop, I have to stop talking to her so the happy type of feeling stops. Thanks Matt:D

[Mattasaur94]

Don't just lose the happy feeling.
If she makes you happy then she makes you happy.
Find a balance, get yourself settled and just talk to her casually, try not to become consumed by it.
If she makes you happy then there's really no point in shutting her out because you become sad when you don't speak to her.

Find ways that you can stay happy, think about things you spoke to her about.
Simple things which can keep a smile on your face.
Give her a little present or memento, such as a necklace or a bracelet, nothing fancy. And then you'll always know that she'll think about you when she sees it. (:

No problems,
If you need any advice, you can always Visitor Message or Private Message me.

Peace.

[Punk_Kid]

Thanks Matt:D

Btw, she has a low self-esteem about her body and I was thinking... Would it help her if I bought her some lingerie? I mean like nothing revealing but maybe something she might like to wear? I've never been good at gift-giving:P

[Mattasaur94]

Sorry for the super late reply; things got momentarily chaotic in life.

Well, nothing fixes low body-self-esteem like appreciation. A gift in general would be nice; I'm not sure how girls respond to wearing lingerie and whether or not it would benefit her.
But definitely something pretty / nice.
Something which can flatter her appearance, even something that she can just wear in public that will look nice on her. (:

Hehe, don't worry, me neither, to avoid that hurdle I just do sentimental things; things which are pointless but can contain meaning in 50 years time. ;)