messed up realationship

[Strength]

>get gf at 17 > first kiss
>sex with gf 3 months later > lose virginity
>gf cheats on me after 3.5 or 4months of going out
>i cheat on her shortly after
>we make up
>she cheats on me again
>we eventually make up and end up being very happy together
>i cheat on her with some hot girl
>feel bad
>tell gf
>gf forgives me and loves me more than ever
>i start to care less and less about her due to the past hurting so much
>i cheat on her one last time
>gf hates me and i lose all her respect, the free things she'd give me, the money she'd give me so i could go out and buy get drunk and high all the time while she worked hard just to see me happy.
>nothing left
>come to the realization ill always resent her for what she did and never have a stable realationship

>been going out for a year.


is it just me or am i a complete asshole and i cant hold a realationship and will always mess up good things?

[Number02]

No. You've just made some mistakes, all of which I hope you'll learn from.

In my experience, the moment someone in a relationship cheats, then it is doomed one way or another. It could take months or a minute, but it is doomed. Again, IMO/IME.

You dind't specify whether you're free of her now or not. I'll assume not.

Get rid of her. She's clearly poison. Neither of you can trust each other, and while you were no angel, she wasn't a good girlfriend.

Move on from this, learn from your mistakes.

When you meet a girl who's worth your love, treat her with respect. Consider everything you do, think about everything you say, always take her feelings into consideration.

Trust, especially that of a female, is a prized thing. It takes months and years to earn, but you only have to kiss someone else to lose it.

If you want to talk about this further drop me a PM and I'll get in touch.

Good luck with the future my friend.

[SoWhatsUp]

No. You've just made some mistakes, all of which I hope you'll learn from.

In my experience, the moment someone in a relationship cheats, then it is doomed one way or another. It could take months or a minute, but it is doomed. Again, IMO/IME.

You dind't specify whether you're free of her now or not. I'll assume not.

Get rid of her. She's clearly poison. Neither of you can trust each other, and while you were no angel, she wasn't a good girlfriend.

Move on from this, learn from your mistakes.

When you meet a girl who's worth your love, treat her with respect. Consider everything you do, think about everything you say, always take her feelings into consideration.

Trust, especially that of a female, is a prized thing. It takes months and years to earn, but you only have to kiss someone else to lose it.

If you want to talk about this further drop me a PM and I'll get in touch.

Good luck with the future my friend.

Man , you are god. I agree with everything you say. This helped me as well, thank you.

[Number02]

You're very welcome ^^

Drop me a VM or PM if you ever need to talk further :)

[Strength]

No. You've just made some mistakes, all of which I hope you'll learn from.

In my experience, the moment someone in a relationship cheats, then it is doomed one way or another. It could take months or a minute, but it is doomed. Again, IMO/IME.

You dind't specify whether you're free of her now or not. I'll assume not.

Get rid of her. She's clearly poison. Neither of you can trust each other, and while you were no angel, she wasn't a good girlfriend.

Move on from this, learn from your mistakes.

When you meet a girl who's worth your love, treat her with respect. Consider everything you do, think about everything you say, always take her feelings into consideration.

Trust, especially that of a female, is a prized thing. It takes months and years to earn, but you only have to kiss someone else to lose it.

If you want to talk about this further drop me a PM and I'll get in touch.

Good luck with the future my friend.



what you're saying does make perfect sense and i agree with. however i fear being alone :( and i know it sounds shallow and dickish but i cant go too long without sex i actually need it or i start getting pissed off and grumpy all the time.

[Number02]

Then that's where masturbation comes into it's own (no pun intended).

I also suggest you find ways of relaxing your body and mind. Meditation (http://zenhabits.net/meditation-for-beginners-20-practical-tips-for-quieting-the-mind/) is a good place to start. Be warned though, it does take effort and willpower to do it effectively.

You'll find another girl soon enough, just gotta have faith.

[Strength]

Then that's where masturbation comes into it's own (no pun intended).

I also suggest you find ways of relaxing your body and mind. Meditation (http://zenhabits.net/meditation-for-beginners-20-practical-tips-for-quieting-the-mind/) is a good place to start. Be warned though, it does take effort and willpower to do it effectively.

You'll find another girl soon enough, just gotta have faith.

i cant masturbate.

[Number02]

Okayyy, I won't ask you to go into why not.

Either way, look into the meditation thing, it does help and it does work, you just need to apply yourself. There is no miracle cure for these problems, you need to work at them.

[Errr]

No, you started fine, then turned into a complete Douchbag. try not to repeat,eh?

[Strength]

No, you started fine, then turned into a complete Douchbag. try not to repeat,eh?

wow really? she didnt do anything wrong at all? i was the first one to cheat 3 times in a row? u sound like the douche bag to me.

[Kaius]

You're not an asshole no but you definitely haven't helped the matter. I think in all honestly the relationship lost its meaning when she cheated first, you lost that trust and really that was that, you may have trusted her again but it wouldn't have been the same as before. As Jay said, learn from your mistakes and make sure you keep your eyes on the prize, cause once you do that you'll find your relationships will be a lot easier. Fear of being alone is normal in people that have been in a long term relationship and then suddenly..its completely over and you're back where you started. But it won't take long for you to find someone, and if it does, then hey, it'll give you that independence you need in the mean time. It'll happen at some point, don't worry!