Clashing situations causing confusion

[devilsheep]

Alright so im in my last year of highschool this year and in march my whole graduating class is going to montreal for the week for graduation trip. (I dont live in michigan or whatever I just put that when i made this account) Anyways, i've been told by everyone that you don't go to this trip with a girlfriend all it will do is cause problems and worry for yourself and you just dont do it because your there for a week drinking every day and you will get involved with a girl one way or another.

I understood this and wasn't planning on going with a girlfriend, but recently ive been getting to know this girl at work whos a year younger than me and also goes to a different school. I always had my eye on her but didn't have any real intent, but recently I added her onf acebook and we've been talking since and I think i've been saying abit too much and making things go abit too fast. I think i would like to date her but the thing is I just can't do it before march because I know montreal will be stressful if i have a girlfriend especially one that isn't even there so she would be calling or texting worrying what I am doing.

I'm just trying to think what I can do to extend the time of "getting to know eachother" so I can maybe ask her out after montreal. The only thing is I'm terrible for leading girls on that I talk to without the real intent of asking them out, then when things get too far im in too deep and I have to make a decision.

Whats the best way to approach this situation? I was thinking maybe telling her that im going to montreal for a week and it's just too much pressure and stress to go with a girlfriend but I like her and might wanna date her after. But I dunno what she'd think of that

Anyways thanks

[Fact]

Alright so im in my last year of highschool this year and in march my whole graduating class is going to montreal for the week for graduation trip. (I dont live in michigan or whatever I just put that when i made this account) Anyways, i've been told by everyone that you don't go to this trip with a girlfriend all it will do is cause problems and worry for yourself and you just dont do it because your there for a week drinking every day and you will get involved with a girl one way or another.

I understood this and wasn't planning on going with a girlfriend, but recently ive been getting to know this girl at work whos a year younger than me and also goes to a different school. I always had my eye on her but didn't have any real intent, but recently I added her onf acebook and we've been talking since and I think i've been saying abit too much and making things go abit too fast. I think i would like to date her but the thing is I just can't do it before march because I know montreal will be stressful if i have a girlfriend especially one that isn't even there so she would be calling or texting worrying what I am doing.

I'm just trying to think what I can do to extend the time of "getting to know eachother" so I can maybe ask her out after montreal. The only thing is I'm terrible for leading girls on that I talk to without the real intent of asking them out, then when things get too far im in too deep and I have to make a decision.

Whats the best way to approach this situation? I was thinking maybe telling her that im going to montreal for a week and it's just too much pressure and stress to go with a girlfriend but I like her and might wanna date her after. But I dunno what she'd think of that

Anyways thanks


As long as you like her for her and not because she appeals due to the pressure of having a girlfriend when you go to Montreal, then I don't see why you shouldn't pursue your friendship.

Don't talk about the 'pressure and stress' part, because that won't sound comforting. Just keep building your friendship, if that's what you want, then go to Montreal and resume your friendship when you get back? I don't see why that would be a problem.

Of course, only take your friendship further if you think that you are genuinely interested in HER as a person - don't just get close for the sake of getting close. Also, "absence makes the heart grow fonder", so maybe you'll realise when you come back from Montreal whether you are actually interested in her.

Hope this helps you out :)