I'm lost

[jcfla9]

Right now I've got a lot on my mind, such as decisions...which erm I'd rather not discuss, but anyways. I'm really desperate to be in a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but every girl that I like either is with someone or doesn't want to be with me for "reasons" I'm gonna tell you about my attitude at school and maybe you guys can help me find out my errors?

I'm 14 and a freshman. I'm 6ft4inches tall. Dark brown hair.

At school I usually cuss ALOT in front of everyone, girls and boys. I'm a country type of person, when it comes to girls I'm usually really nice to them and I try to be funny and sweet. But sometimes I think that they think I'm weird. I'm pretty obnoxious around my guy friends. I have hearing aids (I don't know if that does anything, like any girls would that turn you off or would it not be a big deal?). I'm just trying to find someone, because I'll be honest I hate being single.

Sorry for such a long post :) Any advice would be great! :confused:

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Right now I've got a lot on my mind, such as decisions...which erm I'd rather not discuss, but anyways. I'm really desperate to be in a relationship. I don't know what I'm doing wrong, but every girl that I like either is with someone or doesn't want to be with me for "reasons" I'm gonna tell you about my attitude at school and maybe you guys can help me find out my errors?

I'm 14 and a freshman. I'm 6ft4inches tall. Dark brown hair.

At school I usually cuss ALOT in front of everyone, girls and boys. I'm a country type of person, when it comes to girls I'm usually really nice to them and I try to be funny and sweet. But sometimes I think that they think I'm weird. I'm pretty obnoxious around my guy friends. I have hearing aids (I don't know if that does anything, like any girls would that turn you off or would it not be a big deal?). I'm just trying to find someone, because I'll be honest I hate being single.

Sorry for such a long post :) Any advice would be great! :confused:


First of all, don't worry, this isn't a long post :P

The part in green is key here - no one wants to have a relationship with someone who's 'desperate'. Also, you're 14. It's likely that any relationship you have isn't going to go anywhere.

The part in purple isn't a good thing. Desperate + Cussing = Turn off (IMO).
Of course I'm not suggesting that you never cuss again in your life, but doing it excessively isn't a turn on for most people. In my experience, the people who don't mind it are not the kind of people you want a 'relationship' with.

The red part is another key issue. If girls see you being obnoxious around guys, they aren't going to want to be with you, even if you're 'sweet' to them directly, knowing that you're basically two completely different people around girls and guys isn't always a good thing.

Just some points for you to think about.

[Kakka123]

I agree with above - you can't be desperate, that's the biggest turn off ever. Get your head right first before dating. Because, what if you happen to get a gf and she leaves you?
You'll be fucked up.. I've seen it.

[jcfla9]

Thanks you two I'll work on it :)