Why does this always happen to me?

[Alfred Pennyworth]

So there's this one girl at my school, and she's in 2 of my classes, we get along great, like a lot of the same things, and just get along great in general, and to top it all off, I think she's really cute and I have a crush on her. Well, I was sitting in front of her and a friend on the bus (mr "oh i'm so cool and popular, but I act nice and caring to get on people's good side"), and he asked her out, which confused me since I thought he was taken, she says no, i'm pretty sure she said she already had a bf. Well, today, I had asked her if she wanted to come with me to the Wendys down the street during lunch break, and she said yes. I was kind of hoping to ask her if she had a bf and if not, asking her out. Well, she brought aforementioned guy(there went any chances of asking her out), and after grabbing some food for lunch, we went back to campus and found a nice quiet place and sat down. Before I knew it, they were cuddling together like I wasn't even there, and it was perfectly obvious that they now were bf/gf. I can't explain how it felt when I saw them together like that. The only way I can describe it would be comparing it to my heart getting ripped out of my chest and run through a deli slicer as I watched. This isn't the first time something like this has happened either. A couple times it has happened that I thought me and a person go great together, and either when I ask her out, or after we've been together for a while, it goes completely to hell. I know I should move on, and there's even this one girl who I'm thinking of asking out, since girl no. 1 isn't gonna happen any time soon, but I have such a crushing fear of rejection, especially after the incident with girl no. 1, that I can't bring myself to even asking if she has a bf, let alone asking her out. I'm truly drowning in my own despair. I can't really talk to my other friends because of homework, and my 1 hour bus ride, and the only people I talk to are at school, who I wouldn't trust at all with anything like this. What the hell am I supposed to do, with all of these emotions and the only way that I can let them out is crying into my pillow at night. Without being able to confide in people my real feelings, all I'm left to do is wallow in my misery.

[whereismymind]

If you like this girl that much, keep being friends with her even if it hurts you to see her with someone else. If there's one thing I know about popular people who act good to look good is he'll mess up at some point or dump this girl for another, trust me it doesn't seem like it now but all is not lost.

[closed]

Well, i think that it's obviously really hard...
But i'm a little confused; if you like the first girl why do you try going out with the second one? Even though i think it's good you are getting over the 1st one, since she got a boyfriend.
I know this fear of getting rejected, but try to just be friends with her and go to the movies or something like this, and then ask her if she has a boyfriend. Try to say it casually... When you ask someone if they have a bf it implies gently that you are interested in that person, and so you hit two of your targets in the same time. In the worst scenario she'll say: "I have a boyfriend". Even though there is a high chance she doesn't have any... Don't worry it won't help :)
Good luck :)

[1_21Guns]

Growing up isn't easy, we're suddenly confused with all these overwhelming feelings of love and despair. Until you ask, you will never know. Although the idea of crawling away and never asking anyone in fear of rejection may seem like a good idea now, you'll hate yourself for it later.
It may take a while, but you will find someone in the end.
Frustrating and painful as it may be to that point.
Stay strong, and good luck hun.
PM me if you need to :hug3:

[Alfred Pennyworth]

if you like the first girl why do you try going out with the second one?

That's part of my problem, see, I really can't tell whether I should stay and wait to see if they break up, or move on and find somebody else...

[Fruit_Tart.]

very sad... very... and i know this cuz it's happened to me to. well all i gotta say is not to get too down in the dumps. keep your chin up and jus stay strong like Natalie said. best of luck bro. :]