NEVER try long distance dating.

[suicidenote.]

So me and my boyfriend broke up last night :'(
I live in southwest Georgia and he lives in northeast Florida.
It is about 4 hours away from eachother.
We have tried dating over the phone, texting, and the computer, for almost 2 months.
Of course it hurt us both, but I loved him SOO much and no matter the distance, I felt a way for him that I've never ever felt in my life.
He wants us to be best friends now. . .?!
He says I'm not losing him and that I shouldn't be taking this so hard?
But I am taking it like a hammer to the head.
I feel so sick to my stomach and I CANNOT stop crying.
I really don't want to feel this way, and I wish he would just try a little harder to get through this with me and stuff, because I'm his first love.
& I can't stand to picture him with anyone else but me. . .
WHAT DO I DO?!

[ShatteredWings]

Like any other break up, just try to move on. Maybe you have to break contact with him for awhile - like pulling off a bandage.

[kyle95]

It's very hard right now and it'll be that way for a very long time. Have you tried asking your mum or dad if they can take you down to see him or perhaps invite him and his mum over for Christmas? He could also be afraid of commitment, don't forget he's got friends who prolly place a lot of pressure on him to get it on with other girls. If he loves you, he'll correct things and make an effort to be more than friends. My advice: stay busy, keep your friends close and focus on yourself, you never know, there could be another decent chap right next to you

[Number02]

I know exactly what you're going through.. In fact I'm oging through the same atm.

Long distance is extremely difficult, and even the best relationships can succumb to it.

don't be to hard on yourself, or him. Give both of you some time away from each other, in terms of contact. Lay off the texting/facebook/msn/whatever else, and just take the time to really calm yourself down.

You're only 15, you have PLENTY of time to find someone else, I did when I lost my gf before the one I've just lost. It's a never ending cycle, and to experience love again, you have to be willing to take the risk.

Just stay strong, and be brave. You can do this, millions of people have before, and millions will do it after. You can do this.

[suicidenote.]

Thanks guys.
I mean, I have no problems being friends with him and stuff, but he wants to dive head-first into being BEST FRIENDS?!
& I really can't handle that right now.
I don't want to just block him out either.
I'm the kind of person who has a really hard time letting go of things and people like this.
He said over and over again "we can work through this together" "this is in our hands, and we make all of the decisions" "I love you way too much to hurt you Ashley"

Just all of that, and then this.
It's not fun. . .
I'm almost wishing we hadn't met, so I wouldn't have to go through another unnecessary heartbreak.

[Number02]

I know what you mean, and sometimes, someone will do something that is just completely unfathomable, and for the life of you, you just can't work out why they've done it.

It's the way things go, I'm afraid, and people do change, and at times they change with alarming rapidity.

Just remember, you are not alone. PM me if you want to talk further :)

[SlightlySane]

I had some bad run ins with long distance "relationships" (mine never really evolved into a relationship), but I basically told myself that I'm not the type of person for it.

I believe in the idea of being reasonable about yourself, and the types of things you can and can't handle. To me, long distance, felt like I was trying to fall in love with my cell phone, it just didn't work. I understand that you are not the one who broke up with him, but I think that this may be a sign to you that LDRs (long distance relationships) may not have been meant for you.

I hope it gets better, I promise you that I truthfully do. However, take this as your chance to move on and try new things and people while you are still as young as you are.