Wanna Ask Him Out!

[cashman1112]

Alright i just transfered schools and theres this guy in my class that i really like and no one knows that im bi. i wanna come out and just ask him but i dont wanna be rejected by him!

[UnknownError]

Is he bi/gay also? If not I wouldn't ask him out.

[cashman1112]

the thing is im not sure if he is. like he acts like he is and we all joke around in out class and he dosent seem to mind and he has never had a girl friend so im not sure..

[UnknownError]

Just go for it then. :)

[Art_dude]

Um... NO. You dont' just go for it then...

Don't base something as important as coming out, on the convenience of wanting to date someone. Come out when YOU feel you're ready - it's such an important moment in your life you'll never be able to take back. Plan it in a responsible way you know you'll be satisfied doing.

As for the guy, you'll never know if you don't try. You're not really giving us much information on your relationship with him so it's hard to make judgements. Are you two close? Have you ever flirted with him? As with anyone you're interested in, make hints that show you're interest in him and gauge his response. If he responds well, then make a bit of a more flirtatious comment. If he doesn't respond well, you know he's not bi and/or interested.

[spfreak]

Yeah, I wouldn't just go for it either. Get to know the guy so you can find out if he is bi/gay or not, then if you find out that he is (from him!) then you can ask him out

[UnknownError]

Don't base something as important as coming out, on the convenience of wanting to date someone. Come out when YOU feel you're ready - it's such an important moment in your life you'll never be able to take back. Plan it in a responsible way you know you'll be satisfied doing.

As for the guy, you'll never know if you don't try. You're not really giving us much information on your relationship with him so it's hard to make judgements. Are you two close? Have you ever flirted with him? As with anyone you're interested in, make hints that show you're interest in him and gauge his response. If he responds well, then make a bit of a more flirtatious comment. If he doesn't respond well, you know he's not bi and/or interested.

I would have said something like this, but at the time I cba, so I pu the first thing that came to mind. :L

[Fruit_Tart.]

yeah. you don't want the embarrassment trust me! *rolls eyes* ask him first if he's gay/bi before you try anything. if he is then that's when you ask him out. but you gotta ask if he's gay/bi in a way that's not weird like: "hey i was jus wonderin' if your gay or bi cuz some people told me you were and i just wanted to get the real story." and add in that your okay with it and all. good luck:D and sorry if i'm just terrible/no help at all:(.

[Cristiann123]

*sigh* okay, this is what happens.

You start and try hanging out with him. Ask him over your house, and start hanging out. Try and sneak in a hug once in a while, and if he's fine with lets say, a 15 second hug, then he may be. Either that or he's real open minded..

Before opening up to him, make sure he's a good friend to you. So he can say, "I don't care if you are, im still your friend"

[cashman1112]

thanks for the help :P