Immature friend

[jrl719]

Okay, so over the summer, I'm wicked busy because I have a pool, and an obnoxiously large family... With insanely obnoxious people in it. So with that, I never talk to my friends, or hang out with them, because I'm too busy.... I only recently got a phone to, so texting was out of the option over the summer.

~So I dated my best friend over the summer, she broke up with me, blah blah. But I don't talk to her as much, because I find her immature... I'm immature and I know it, but I know she has an immaturity level that I find extremely annoying... So I don't talk to her as much, and I hang out with the Upper Class Men, (I'm in 9th grade, my GOOD friends are in 10th 11th and 12th grade)

I don't hate her. I could never, she's like my sister. But she convinced herself that I hate her, which I tell her I don't and I don't. And I can't tell her that she's immature because she's emotional and I'll never hear the end of it...

So the point of this is, how can I get the point across that I don't hate her, WITHOUT telling her that she's immature...?

[Art_dude]

Not being a douche helps for starters.

Being emotional doesn't make someone immature. If she can't accept that you don't hate her, than that's her problem. If it really requires it, sit her down, tell her you're upset by the prospect of her thinking you hate her, and that you honestly and genuinely do NOT hate her. If she can't believe you than that's her loss. Be honest with her .

[jrl719]

Not being a douche helps for starters.

Being emotional doesn't make someone immature. If she can't accept that you don't hate her, than that's her problem. If it really requires it, sit her down, tell her you're upset by the prospect of her thinking you hate her, and that you honestly and genuinely do NOT hate her. If she can't believe you than that's her loss. Be honest with her .

Im not saying being emotional is immature, unless I did say that, then I didn't mean it... Because I'm emotional too, to a point.

[Kahn]

Okay, so over the summer, I'm wicked busy because I have a pool, and an obnoxiously large family... With insanely obnoxious people in it. So with that, I never talk to my friends, or hang out with them, because I'm too busy.... I only recently got a phone to, so texting was out of the option over the summer.

~So I dated my best friend over the summer, she broke up with me, blah blah. But I don't talk to her as much, because I find her immature... I'm immature and I know it, but I know she has an immaturity level that I find extremely annoying... So I don't talk to her as much, and I hang out with the Upper Class Men, (I'm in 9th grade, my GOOD friends are in 10th 11th and 12th grade)

I don't hate her. I could never, she's like my sister. But she convinced herself that I hate her, which I tell her I don't and I don't. And I can't tell her that she's immature because she's emotional and I'll never hear the end of it...

So the point of this is, how can I get the point across that I don't hate her, WITHOUT telling her that she's immature...?

Try talking to her more.

If it's even a simple text, it may mean more to her than you may ever know. You already consider her a sister, so if you think that about her why wouldn't you talk to her? It kind of contradicts the thought of you thinking treating her like a sister.

You just need to talk to her, and be truthful with her. If you really think that she is immature, tell her. If she loves you enough to get sad over you not talking to her that much, she might change. You have to try.

[Theatheist of doom]

Just talk to her and itll prolly work out