This sucks.

[AutumnDae]

The guy I spent my whole summer with broke my heart on the second day of school.

We don't even talk anymore, despite his promise to "Stay good friends."

He has a new girl.

My friends don't realize that I still care for him as much as I do. But the feelings are still there, and as much as I hate to admit it, it hurts me a lot that he has a new girl.

We were both at a party, and he ignored me the entire time. I tried to talk to him and he basically walked away, saying that he needed some air. I just wanted to talk, he seems to think I'm going to attack him or something. I thought friends did that.

I let him in, I believed him when he said that he wouldn't hurt me, and that even if we broke up, he would always be there for me. What a load of bullshit.

[ShatteredWings]

How long you guys been apart?

Might need a little time to let a friendship come back.

[DarkHorses]

Hey Autumn. :)

I'm really sorry to hear about this happening. It's never easy to lose someone like that. It's hard to trust someone only to find out that you shouldn't have, and to be screwed over like that. He shouldn't be treating you the way he is, and obviously he's not quite the guy you thought he was.

Is there anyway you could message him on Facebook, email him, or anything like that, and ask him what's going on and why he's treating you this way? You deserve an answer, and if I were you I'd try as hard as I could to get it. He at least owes you an explanation.

[Number02]

I'm in your position right now, Autumn. The girl I finally let in changed her mind about me and simply crushed me. Now, I'm lucky if I get a response on Facebook.


My personal tactic for getting over her is being a complete man-slag, and shamelessly so. I don't suggest you do this though, it doesn't look good. Ever.

Instead, ask him over Facebook/text what his problem is, and if you don't get a reply or anything coherent coming back, then you have to accept that he's a waste of blood and organs, and you can do so much better.

I believe in you, Autumn.

[AutumnDae]

How long you guys been apart?

Might need a little time to let a friendship come back.

2 months. Seems a lot longer though.

Hey Autumn. :)

I'm really sorry to hear about this happening. It's never easy to lose someone like that. It's hard to trust someone only to find out that you shouldn't have, and to be screwed over like that. He shouldn't be treating you the way he is, and obviously he's not quite the guy you thought he was.

Is there anyway you could message him on Facebook, email him, or anything like that, and ask him what's going on and why he's treating you this way? You deserve an answer, and if I were you I'd try as hard as I could to get it. He at least owes you an explanation.

I could, I could talk to him in person, or I could text him, or Facebook him. I could drive to his house if I really wanted to. But to be honest, I don't know if I want the truth. The truth might hurt worse than whatever I think his reasoning is on my own.

I'm in your position right now, Autumn. The girl I finally let in changed her mind about me and simply crushed me. Now, I'm lucky if I get a response on Facebook.


My personal tactic for getting over her is being a complete man-slag, and shamelessly so. I don't suggest you do this though, it doesn't look good. Ever.

Instead, ask him over Facebook/text what his problem is, and if you don't get a reply or anything coherent coming back, then you have to accept that he's a waste of blood and organs, and you can do so much better.

I believe in you, Autumn.

Lol, I'm not quite what slag means, but I'm assuming slut or whore, in which case, I think I will refrain from that. Not only is that not me at all, I don't want that reputation ever. :P He's changed, a lot. While we were together, he was this nice and amazing guy, always caring for me, you know, that picture perfect guy. However, apparently under the surface, was a not so nice guy, but I never saw that while we were together.

I might talk to him tomorrow. Just to catch up or whatever.

Even if he hates me (Although I cannot fathom any reason as to why he would hate me.) I wish him the best. I don't want him to be upset for whatever reason.

I would really like to punch his new girl in the face. She's a whore. And I'm not saying that out of jealousy.

[ShatteredWings]

2 months. Seems a lot longer though.

That might be it..
Things can take longer to heal sometimes.

[AutumnDae]

That might be it..
Things can take longer to heal sometimes.

His wounds apparently healed, he's all cuddly with this girl already.

There's really no point in me even talking to him. I don't want to be friends with him. I can't talk to him without my heart pounding and my face blushing. I don't want to be friends with him because I won't be able to control myself from grabbing him and kissing him like I have done so many times before.

I'm afraid that some day soon I'll be forced to spend time with him. His best friend is dating my best friend. My best friend and I are always together, and the guys are always together.

My friends and I broke in on bros night (The football team all hung out at someone's house every Saturday, no girls allowed, but my two friends and I snuck in.) Nolan was there, and he wouldn't even look at me. I don't understand what I did to make him hate me.

[ShatteredWings]

Or he's being like every other guy and putting up a face.

I'm not saying he IS, I'm saying it's a possibility. Especially since he can't seem to face you.

[AutumnDae]

Because apparently I did something so terrible to make him hate me, I just wish I knew what that was.

[Fact]

Because apparently I did something so terrible to make him hate me, I just wish I knew what that was.

You might want to try and talk to him about that?

It sounds like what you're experiencing is full of quite a lot of heartache though :(

I hope things get better for you..

[AutumnDae]

You might want to try and talk to him about that?

It sounds like what you're experiencing is full of quite a lot of heartache though :(

I hope things get better for you..

One of the very few times we talked, I did ask him why he wouldn't even look at me anymore. Instead of answering, he just avoids the question, and changes the subject. I hate fighting, so I'm not one to pressure him. And he knows that. He knows I hate fighting, and he knows exactly how to avoid a question so he doesn't have to answer it, just because I won't go back and bring it up.

One time, we did end up fighting, and it was in person, actually. It doesn't really matter what it was over, because, essentially, all fights just go back over the same things, don't they? He said some really hurtful things, and for a second, when I started crying, it almost looked like he cared. His eyes flashed a look of hurt that he hurt me, but then it was gone. And he was back to saying mean things and not caring that he was hurting me.

I can't keep going on, caring about him like this. It's not worth it. I'm a crazy ex-girlfriend. >.<

[Quick_Sylver]

I can't keep going on, caring about him like this. It's not worth it. I'm a crazy ex-girlfriend. >.<

You're right about the first bit. He's not worth caring about.

The second bit, No. You're a normal ex girlfriend. Feelings can take a long time to change for the second person. Feelings never die, they just changed into different ones. And that takes time. And a lot of it most of the time. Let things be. If you have to be around him, so be it, but make sure you've got your friends around you to back you up.

Stay strong hun, I know its hard, but you'll get through it.

[AutumnDae]

After what happened today during school, I'm finding it easier to deal with the fact that he doesn't care about me, because he was the biggest jerk ever.

I was in homeroom, with Camille, Adam, and Lindsay. We were discussing prom information (I'm class president, so any ideas have to be run by me.) and it turned to dresses and dates, and stuff.

Lindsay asked if I had asked anyone yet, and I said no, because there's no one suitable. I mentioned how I would totally ask my friend Beecher, except for the fact that he's like an inch shorter than I am...and if I wear heels, I just feel that would be very awkward. So I told Beecher to grow a few inches by April 9th. :P

Nolan also happened to be in my homeroom, for some reason I still don't know, but he was on the other half of the room. We were joking around, and Lindsay and Camille just took it upon themselves to ask all the guys in the room to prom for me. Nolan happened to be the last guy asked, so he obviously knew it was a joke, and Lindsay says, "Hey, Nolan!" "Yeah?" "Will you go to prom with Autumn?" "That's the dumbest idea I've ever heard. Does she need someone to go with?" "Yeah, you wanna go?" "Uh, no thanks, that's so stupid because she and I hate each other." *Mind you, I'm sitting right next to Lindsay while this is going on.*

Lindsay just stopped answering back, turned to me, and asked me when this whole hatred thing started.

I didn't realize this was war. But he's winning right now.

[Gumleaf]

i remember reading something months ago in a thread or a convo saying how happy you were with him so its totally understandable how heart broken you feel and why you want answers from him. autumn, when you're heart broken like this, it's going to take a while for the pain to go away. but i promise you, it will go away.

you will probably never know what's gone on in nolan's head. i'm not going to speculate on why he broke it off, but don't automatically think its something that you have done. when relationships end it is so easy to blame yourself, but it may not even have anything to do with you personally. it must be horrible to see him happy with another girl being seemingly over you just like that. being in that position twice myself, i have some idea how you are feeling.

i would suggest he is throwing the hate thing around as an excuse to not talk to you. if he can convince people you hate eachother then he has no reason to talk to you. but that's just a theory. but what i suggest you do autumn is to concentrate on the positive things in your life and try and block him out completely. enjoy the company of your friends. i know there is complications, best friends dating eachother etc, but even so, i think you should try and move on as much as possible and block things out. hopefully in the time ahead you will find a guy who will make you happy and keep his promise to you of not huting you. take care.

[AutumnDae]

I'm realizing that I really don't even need to bother thinking about him. He's not worth it. If he wants to prove that we can be friends and civil to one another, then he can approach me. I'm going to be the better person and not start shit with him. I don't talk bad about him, because before recently, there hasn't been anything bad to say. I wish him all the best with everything he does. :)

[Aves]

I'm sorry, Autumn. I know how it feels for someone to break up with you saying they want to still be friends, but they never hold up that end of it. It's not easy to get over that alone, and I know. But trust me the pain goes away. It's gonna be a lot harder for you, then it will be for him.

[Punk_Kid]

I have been in your situation(vice-versa though since im a guy) and it sucks.

I just let her go when she broke up with me. Hurts like hell but now I hardly think about her. Depending on how close you were to him emotionally, it may take a while(was a good year for me).