I have a little crush

[Lifeguard18]

Ok so there's this one guy that I know and he is a grade below me. We talk to each other when we see each other in school, but not much on facebook. Im a junior and hes is a sophomore btw. Haha.
But ever since we met and all we would just say, hey I love you, when we see each other in the halls and just a hug. Me and other people do this too. Its kind of an inside joke too.

But now, im starting to get a little crush on him. Last friday we had a football game at school and it was freezing. So I was just there hanging with friends and he the guy im starting to get a crush on and a few other people I knew came over, did the I love you thing and we all just gave hugs.

So jokingly, I call over to the guy I have a crush on and I call his name and say, im so cold. Then he comes over and we start to just like hold each other but it lasted a lot longer than I thought it would. And he was like gently and slowly moving his hand up and down my back a little. I took it as part of our inside joke but now I think about it, he hasn't done that before.

And while that was going on, I started to get little butterflies. He claims that he isn't gay, and on facebook he says he is interested in women, but I can tell he might be or bi. I respect what he says and Im not going to assume he is cause then that's just disrespectful.

Now im starting to get a crush on him. And he is on the morning news at our school, so when he comes on, I try not to smile, so I make sure im talking to people or make it look like im just paying serious attention to the announcements, which I do and don't do. Lol. When I don't, im just focuesed on him.

And like I love how he is his own person. He dresses the way he wants, doesn't care what people think about him, he has his own style he likes to wear, etc. I don't see that in many people.

Any advice I would greatly appreciate.

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[nick]

It sounds like he likes you. Maybe next time he does the back rubbing you can do a little back, take it easy and see if it leads on from there. Otherwise go for a coffee somewhere and tell him how you feel.

[SlightlySane]

You have to decide whether or not you are willing to take a risk. The only way you will move any further with him is to explain your feelings and let him know that you trust him. By doing this things could go great, he could be a little freaked out, or you may just stay friends.

All I can tell you is that if you want to be with him, you have to take a chance.

[Lord_Cosby 13]

If you like him,I say just tell him the truth. If he's into you,it can go from there;if not,hopefully (if he's really a friend) he'll accept that,even though he doesn't feel the same about you and either way, at least your mind won't be clouded by this any longer

[Lifeguard18]

i dont want to rush things or tell him too quickly. if i tell him now, it could possibly ruin things.

[nick]

Yes, it could. But if you dont ask you will never know.

[Lifeguard18]

Yes, it could. But if you dont ask you will never know.

thats true. hes a really awesome guy. theres not 1 thing i dislike about him, and i love how he is so humorous too. AAAHHH! why cant there be something easier to tell someones sexuality then just asking? lol

[NitoJuanito]

well all i can say is , luckyyy, and just tell him your feelings, then tell him that to him that the back rubbing didnt feel like a inside joke
it felt real

[Lifeguard18]

well all i can say is , luckyyy, and just tell him your feelings, then tell him that to him that the back rubbing didnt feel like a inside joke
it felt real

im not that lucky yet. haha. and this inside joke all started randomly at a carnival. and we have been friends since. it felt a little real, but im not too sure just yet what im going to say, when im going to say it, or how im going to say it.

[counterpoint]

You have the right mind frame in not rushing things. Doing that could lead to awkwardness between the both of you. What I'd suggest is that when you two are around each other, hone into some little things he does while around you. If he starts acting differently, being a bit more social, or closed off/nervous. If the hugging thing starts taking things to new levels.

Don't necessarily be afraid to act back if he is. If he starts to rub your back, maybe rub his a bit too. Do other small things that you think would be all right to do that you feel wouldn't be something obvious. Mainly, just study him a bit more, and see if you notice anything different.

[Lifeguard18]

You have the right mind frame in not rushing things. Doing that could lead to awkwardness between the both of you. What I'd suggest is that when you two are around each other, hone into some little things he does while around you. If he starts acting differently, being a bit more social, or closed off/nervous. If the hugging thing starts taking things to new levels.

Don't necessarily be afraid to act back if he is. If he starts to rub your back, maybe rub his a bit too. Do other small things that you think would be all right to do that you feel wouldn't be something obvious. Mainly, just study him a bit more, and see if you notice anything different.

thanks. ill try some of this and see what happens. he hugs everyone lol. but just the thought of him rubbing my back like that just wants to make me wonder more. ill do some of those small things too. maybe it will form into something else. who knows

[Kahn]

Teen Sexuality :arrow: Relationships & Dating

[NitoJuanito]

im not that lucky yet. haha. and this inside joke all started randomly at a carnival. and we have been friends since. it felt a little real, but im not too sure just yet what im going to say, when im going to say it, or how im going to say it.

what i meant was tell him that the back rubbing thing felt real not a joke, and that you should ask him to tell the truth of his sexuality, it would be embarrassing to just tell him how you feeland if he asks you why, just tell him you want to know

[Lifeguard18]

what i meant was tell him that the back rubbing thing felt real not a joke, and that you should ask him to tell the truth of his sexuality, it would be embarrassing to just tell him how you feeland if he asks you why, just tell him you want to know

Aahh I see now. And I don't want to sound demanding for him to just tell me. anything that i say to him could end of being an argument or something.

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[Lights]

That's really cute. I wish boys were like that in my school! :P
If you're unsure, perhaps you should try to experiment a little further. Try and get one of those long-lasting hugs again and see if he acts in the same sort of intimate way. If he does... maybe you ought to have a private talk with him. You might just be in luck. :)

[Lifeguard18]

That's really cute. I wish boys were like that in my school! :P
If you're unsure, perhaps you should try to experiment a little further. Try and get one of those long-lasting hugs again and see if he acts in the same sort of intimate way. If he does... maybe you ought to have a private talk with him. You might just be in luck. :)

lol. and i may just do that but at a good time and not just randomly.

[Lifeguard18]

Yesterday I had to pefect opportunities to say hi and talk to him but I failed :( I couldn't even make eye contact with him.

The first tine was with a bunch of friends and that's where I didn't make eye contact and the second time was I was walking behind him and I couldn't do it :(

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[Lights]

It's gonna be difficult, yeah, but from the sounds of it this guy's pretty nice. Thus I don't think you'd have too much of a problem speaking to him.
Did you manage to get a long-lasting hug again? :)

[Lifeguard18]

It's gonna be difficult, yeah, but from the sounds of it this guy's pretty nice. Thus I don't think you'd have too much of a problem speaking to him.
Did you manage to get a long-lasting hug again? :)

He is an awesome guy. He was doing some crazy dance today. Lol. And I havnt gotten another one yet.

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