I am 14... HE IS 19! D;

[Emo_Boii]

I have been talking to this guy for a while, and we have started getting close... and we both like each other, we are not seeing each other yet, but we are defo getting close, but I am scared, I have only ever had one boy friend before and he was 14, but the fact he is 19 scares me.. I have never been out with someone that old, even with girls, and I am panicking cause he wants to meet up this Sat, what do I do???? x

[ShatteredWings]

Hm, he's a LOT older than you, won't lie. I see that as a bit of a large gap.

What do you mean "what do I do"?
Sexually = wrong forum for that
As a date = What do you want to do?

[Mr. Awesome]

Be very wary, i know it may seem like the world, but 14 and 19, it sounds like he could be using you, he is an adult first of all and could be done for child molestation. In my opinion you should find somone your own age because i cannot see your "relationship" working out well.

[josh93]

Just be carefull about him. Try to meet in a public or populated place where there are people around and talk to him in person till you get comfortable with him. But even when you do get comfortable with him just dont let your guard down but just take it slow and easy. You dont want to put your self in harms way.

[mranderson]

Deffinitly he is to old ide say, just stay away from him for a bit ide say, just so u dont get to close

[Fact]

Too old.
As Mr. Awesome said, he's an adult. Think about all the things he can legally do that you're not even near doing yet...
Sure you can still have a good friendship, but I personally don't think you should take it much further than that to avoid things becoming too complicated.

[brennaluvv]

There's nothing wrong with a large age gap, as long as you're not having sex. I was with a guy who was 20 and I'd never been happier in my life. Good luck. (:

[Fact]

There's nothing wrong with a large age gap, as long as you're not having sex. I was with a guy who was 20 and I'd never been happier in my life. Good luck. (:

I guess that's true about not having sex, but really, is the relationship going to be worth anything afterwards?
I was with a guy 4 years older than me and looking back on it, it caused me so much more trouble than the 'happiness' during it was worth, so perhaps I'm biased because of that...
Still, what was your experience Brenna? Sorry it's a little off topic with regards to the OP.

[TheFountainGoddess]

that's illegal...i think...or is it only illegal if you have sex with someone older that 18 when your a minor...anyway it doesn't matter my answer stays the same...DONT go out with the dude

[closed]

Well, First you have to know that this is illeagel (he can get in jail for it) and 2nd and most important: DON'T LET HIM HAVE ANY CONTROLL O NYOUR JUDGMENT!!!!!!!!!
I'm not from the people who tell you that you can't meet people from the net in real life, but he is older than you, so he either rapes you or ends up in jail. You feel scared for a good reason! Listen to your heart!
Be open with the dude, tell him that you feel scared, and you don't feel safe meeting him right now. If he starts cursing and being angry etc. then obviously he would hurt you if you met. If he is ok, then you on't have to meet him. i still recommend you not to meet him. or at least with a friend.
I went through something close to that, but only worse. (luckily i didn't meet the person at the end

[PJay]

I went through something close to that, but only worse. (luckily i didn't meet the person at the end

Wow me too. Difference for me was the guy lied about his age and was sending old pics. I think if hed been honest sooner i might even have given him a chance.

I don't think the age gap itself is a problem and i think most of the laws around sex are stupid anyway so I wouldn't prsnly let that make up my mind (so for me I'd figure we'd just have to be careful for a bit over a year then it would be legal anway). So i'd say if you can find out if the guy is genuine and kind somehow like arches5 said then you can decide if it is going to work. Trouble is with the net he could be even older, or not look like his pics and you need to make sure if you meet you do it in public and even if it goes well dont go away with him anywhere on the first date so you can think it over.

[SlightlySane]

Unlike what many people may say, age is not just a number. Age represents how long you have been alive, and the life experience you have faced. You and this guy live in two totally different worlds even if you are good friends. You are either just going into or not even in high school yet, and he's probably already out. He's facing a time in life where he will be looking for a place of his own. You are going to be more concerned about socializ ing, grades, etc... Whether you think you are or not, that's how we all are.

I honestly think it would be a very stupid idea to date him. While in the future it may not seem like a large age gap, it is right now. You're at a time where things in your life are changing rapidly and constantly. He is starting to form a consistent part of life. If you were say, 22, and he was 28 it could be a different story as you would both be looking for a more settling relationship. I have a feeling if you two began dating the relationship would not be totally based on feelings and emotions.

[Emo_Boii]

Thank you for everyone's comments, it has given A LOT to think about, I have known this guy for a while and I know him quite well, and I know he would not want to have a sexual relationship. He is very sweet and very good looking which is probs the thing that won me over. I never meet him and I am never with him by myself, I am always with friends.

[NVerson]

Be careful.... If he's a good guy and as far as he loves you i don't think age really matters :)

[closed]

I hope that you'll do the right thing :) But always be careful! Better safe than sorry.

[Emo_Boii]

Thnx guys :) x

[coleman8r 77]

Be careful!!!!
If he's a good guy and as far as he loves you i don't think age really matters

[DrkZ90]

As others have said, be careful.

But at the same time, don't let the age difference get in the way of you going out, or at least being very good friends. Letting a number get in the way of your feelings could be something to regret the rest of your life.

In the end, it isn't his fault being older, or yours being younger. If he loves you and you love him, does anything else really matter?

[Lifeguard18]

Like others had said, he's an adult and you're underage, so be careful. There's nothing wrong with ha ing a close relationship with him. My MomMom and poppop are 8 years apart. Im 18 and have friends who are in their 20s and almost thirty (they are from my job of course). And I have some friends who are 14 and 15, and a lot who are 16-17.

Make wise decisions if you two do end up going out. Don't let him pressure you into anything and if you do have any suspicion when you two are together, just keep your cell phone out and close to you if you have one. One phone call or txt can do alot and can be traced.

and make sure your in a populated place. If a 19 year old does anything to someone underage (as in sex, drinking, etc) is mostly illegal and he could get into trouble.

Over all, if you do end up together, just be happy. That's what everyone one wants is just happiness.

Good luck with him :)

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[brennaluvv]

I guess that's true about not having sex, but really, is the relationship going to be worth anything afterwards?
I was with a guy 4 years older than me and looking back on it, it caused me so much more trouble than the 'happiness' during it was worth, so perhaps I'm biased because of that...
Still, what was your experience Brenna? Sorry it's a little off topic with regards to the OP.

We'll we're still together, he's 21 now. I'm not worried about the age difference as much as the financial problems we'll have if we ever do decide to get married when I'm through with college. I'll put it bluntly, I love him but he's an idiot. ._.'

[The Joker]

Be careful! He might rape you.

[Skorupski]

All I have to say is that right now, it is illegal because if one is over 18 and one is under, there can only be an age difference of three years to make it legal. But if you go through with it just be careful. I know a lot of people have said it, but it's the truth. I advise you just to stay good friends and when it's legal, if there's still a chance, carry on with the relationship.

Hope that helps!

[swimfreak85]

alot of countrys hav laws about that because anyone ovr 18 going out with something under is not good, even if you guys both love each other and hav sex, he could get arrested for statury rape, even tho you gave consent so tht could be a problem