How to act straight

[fredg545]

So to start off, I'm straight, but have a lot of gay tendencies. A good deal of people think I'm gay at school And it bugs me. I have an older brother who is gay, and i think my tendencies may have sprouted from that, i mean younger brothers tend to emulate their older siblings to a point. My voice sounds pretty gay like my brothers, and i do have girl and guy friends, but mostly girls probably. I'm a cautious person who often doesn't make stupid choices.I do play a seasonal sport, and i like it, but i never watch pro-sports. I don't necessarily want to change who i am, but i want to break the habits that i have developed over the years that are "gay." I want to still be friends with my closest girl-friends, but i just don't want to act as "gay" anymore. I have a hard time making romantic connections with girls because of this, and also have a hard time becoming friends with other guys. It kinda suck because im stuck with a bunch of friends who are girls, and they either aren't my type, or think of me as a friend. Please tell me what i should do.

[Ryhanna]

I'm going to encourage not to "act straight." I don't believe in people changing themselves to be socially accepted, and it sounds like you're trying to do that. Don't be afraid to be YOU, and don't give a crap what people think of it. If you have "gay" qualities, own it.

I hope I've helped in some way... I just don't want people to have to "pretend" their lives. It's not fair on yourself.

[nick]

I agree with Ryan, trying to act out some behaviour patterns or mannerisms that dont come naturally for you would be difficult and probably not work. Just be yourself. Hopefully you will get a girlfriend sometime, that's the best way really.

[The Dark Lord]

what ryan and nick said. You can't act something, you either are or you aren't

[Death]

How can you have a gay voice? The only difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals is their sexual preference. Pretty simple really.

[spfreak]

How can you have a gay voice? The only difference between heterosexuals and homosexuals is their sexual preference. Pretty simple really.

yep. this is right. my voice use to be somewhat "feminine" just until this summer, and i hit puberty 4 years ago. Your voice might deepen more, or it may not. If you are comfortable with who you are then you will make lots of friends and find a girlfriend in no time.

[Kitty Purry]

Id recommend to just be yourself, its not good to change who you are to be what society thinks is "normal" for a guy. And besides anything that you try to change most liekly isnt going to work, because what you act like now is basically a "habit" and those are really hard to change.

[Apollo.]

Tbh honest i have a friend who acts really gay snd he has a smokin hot girlfriend. Be yourself

[aussiecasper]

well if you are straight then your straight. who cares what you act like. your shouldent be acting straight or gay you should just be yourself and who cares what people think of you. you are who you are! be proud of that.:)

[Kakka123]

Just pay attention to how other straight guys act and copy it. Focus on how the talk and their body language.

Don't listen to "be yourslef" advice if you want to improve and be more attractive!

"Be your best potential self" :P

[TheFame]

Yeah try to mimic the other guys

the be yourself advice is really not that helpfull in such an abusive world :P

[aussiecasper]

Just pay attention to how other straight guys act and copy it. Focus on how the talk and their body language.

Don't listen to "be yourslef" advice if you want to improve and be more attractive!

"Be your best potential self" :P

thats awful!!!! but i respect your opinon. you can do that if you want to be a fake, pretend person. you wont be who you are and that can and will probably lead to identity issues later on. whatevers though

[MoveAlong]

I'm gay but I used to be hung up on this. I really wanted to be accepted so I tried acting more "straight". But really what I noticed is that don't want to be a gay stereotype, because they're annoying and to me, that's not attractive. So, I just avoided doing stereotypical gay things like calling people honey, bitch, or dressing in tight, mesh things, or adapting an extremely gay-like voice.

I DID try to do some macho things, like get into sports, cars, and "country" things. But I just couldn't like those things.

I really learned that I was happiest when I acted like myself. Yes, I do have a feminine voice, but that's just who I am. How am I supposed to change my voice and feel comfortable? I enjoy people who dress well but I don't watch things like Project Runway. I freak out and say oh my god over some things but that's just what I like to do. I own one pink shirt because I like that shirt.

You have to understand that if girls are rejecting you because of the way you act, they don't really like you at all, and you don't need them. You need a woman who thinks the way you act and do things is beautiful.

Yes, you could tone it down, I did that, because I was falling into the crack of being stereotypical. But you don't have to completely change yourself. Take the voice of experience on that one.

[Rashard]

Just be who u are

[Tristin.]

being something your not is plain stupid

i think even trying to get someone to do so is stupid

be happy with yourself, screw what other people think :)