why ?

[paigey]

i know why i self harm but why do you guys .....
i just want to hear everyones reasons and everyones problems

[Fiction]

I don't really know why i do. I started off by accident. I felt down then accidentally burned myself with my straigtners then got curious about how much it would hurt to do it on my arm and how much it would mark. Then this kind of turned into an obsession and then into cutting...
I think it has alot to do with the fact that i feel ignored alot of the time and the fact that I kinda blame myself for the fact that alot of the stuff in my life isn't how it should be... but i don't really know :/

[Rick's_Rodeo_Girl]

I do becaus eI get to a point where i cannot feel emotion any more so i think the need of physical pain will help.....but it doesn't.


I wish i could stop and I'm doing a retty good job.

[whereismymind]

I do it because it calms me really, but I'm trying to stop now

[paigey]

ok well done how long have you stopped for and i get the that feeling too.

[Fiction]

I think most people get a calming feeling from it.

[paigey]

soorry you feel ignored, do you usaully feel you should be punished for everything. i found it helps to right a list of why you do it so you can try and stop :)
let me know how you get on x

[whereismymind]

Yeah a lot of the time with my dad I feel ignored, like I constantly get punished and then stuff at school kicks off. The only reason why I do it is because it calms me down.

[paigey]

im sorry to hear you guys feel so ignored ......

[Fiction]

soorry you feel ignored, do you usaully feel you should be punished for everything. i found it helps to right a list of why you do it so you can try and stop :)
let me know how you get on x

I suppose sometimes i do. I hate myself so want to destory myself, i know i've felt that before. But then it goes the opposite way with my ED (well kind of ED not sure if i actually have one), it's trying to improve myself and make myself perfect even though it's not my weight that's the problem. And thanks for the tip.
let me know how you get on too :) Feel free to VM, PM or email me (email adress in sig) if you want to talk :)

[Rick's_Rodeo_Girl]

So am I if any of you need some one to talk to VM/PM me anytime!

[paigey]

not everyones perfect, istead of trying to get there just be kind to yourself :)
ok thanks willl do

[Love.Hate]

I started because i was being ignored by my so called "friends" at the time. And i hated myself for putting up with there crap. I did it to feel in control of something for a change.

Now i dont know why i do it, i have just become obsessed, i love it (which is awful for me to say i know, but i do). i need to stop, but i cant. suppose if i tried really hard i could, but the truth is i dont want to stop, not now anyway. anyway sorry for the rant.

I can sympathise with everyones reasons above, and you guys are all so strong you dont need this. then again i need to take my own advice, thanks anyways x

[UnknownError]

I've kind of stopped, stopped cutting at least.

I started because I felt like it. It sounds so stupid but I was called a emo one day in like primary five, and me being young and dumb and stereotypical, went ome and cut because I thought "Thats what emos do". Then I had problems and arguememnts which lead me back to SH.

[AppealToReason]

I started because I was tired and just looking for a way to get rid of all the problems.

[closed]

just cuz i hate myself and i deserve to have scars and be in pain.

[UnknownError]

just cuz i hate myself and i deserve to have scars and be in pain.

You dont deserve scars and pain. Dont EVER say that. Your a great guy and you've helped quite a few people on here.

[Fiction]

You dont deserve scars and pain. Dont EVER say that. Your a great guy and you've helped quite a few people on here.

Second that.

[paigey]

none of you guys deserve any pain and you shouldnt have to suffer alone .... please feel free to talk to me . I Hate myself to and i understand where your coming from .... i used to think like that but things can only get better ... please remember that .! you may not feel it will but it does . hope this has helped :) x

[Fiction]

Same goes for you Paige. if you ever need to talk to someone as i've already said, feel free to contact me.

[unlucky-star]

I started cutting myself because I started getting really depressed about a lot of things going on, mostly issues with myself and how I felt or my mom constantly taking her anger out on me, I tried it one day after a really bad argument between me and my mom and kept doing it whenever I felt bad or like everything was my fault.

[closed]

You dont deserve scars and pain. Dont EVER say that. Your a great guy and you've helped quite a few people on here.

Second that.

Thanks guys, it actually means a lot for me :hug:

[Regularteen]

I cut becuase it helps when people at my school and my family depresses me :yes:

[spfreak]

I cut because I'm not good enough for anyone and I never will be. I stopped for such a long time. then ruined it this weekend :(. I feel terrible

[drac]

I do it because it is more of a mental relinquishment and release - It elevates my mood. Even my friends who know I cut recognise a difference in me. I have a bit more self esteem.

[unlucky-star]

@ spfreak. you're not horrible, there's gonna be time when you stop and end up going back to cutting even if for a moment, I went through it all the time and am still struggling with it now. You don't have to feel bad, sometimes you have to take a step back before going two steps forward.

[tombstone]

Now i dont know why i do it, i have just become obsessed, i love it (which is awful for me to say i know, but i do). i need to stop, but i cant. suppose if i tried really hard i could, but the truth is i dont want to stop, not now anyway. anyway sorry for the rant.

I have harmed myself for just about every reason you can think of. I've went through plenty of phases where i thought there was nothing wrong with self harm etc. I did realise that the scars on my arm are going to be there forever, hurting the people that get close to me.

I really hope you come to a similar realisation soon, something that will motivate you to stop.

[Syvelocin]

1. I like pain
2. To rid myself of that dissociative, numb feeling I get
3. I like blood
4. It cancels out emotional pain.

I know, I need therapy, and yes, I've been in constant therapy for nine years.

[spfreak]

@ spfreak. you're not horrible, there's gonna be time when you stop and end up going back to cutting even if for a moment, I went through it all the time and am still struggling with it now. You don't have to feel bad, sometimes you have to take a step back before going two steps forward.

aw :). thank you so much

[Punk_Kid]

Why do I cut?

Well my first actual gf broke up with me like 4 years ago and I felt really bad. It was only this summer that an old friend told me she used to cut so I tried seein if it would help me feel better and it did.

I'm pretty sure I have a mild/severe depression because of my first gf although now I hate her lol. My Mom suggested we move because she doesn't like living with her parents. So that was when I started cutting a few months ago.

Then the one girl in the entire school I like tells me we can't hang out cuz her Mom wouldn't let me over her house:P I mean like she ain't the sexiest girl at my school but she can make me smile and I don't mean the fake smile I put on everyday when I wake up.

So to sum it up kind of, I cut because:

It offers me a release for my emotional turmoil.

I've never been sexually abused or anything but I feel so sad. Cutting takes my focus away from that and focuses it on something material, that I can control.

I have no real self-esteem/ appreciation.

Almost everyone makes me angry, even the slightest comment can make me want to punch you.

Moat of this happens at school and home so thats why I'm itching to graduate, get a job and leave home lol

I only know like one other guy that cuts. I know 2 girls that cut or used to, not sure if they completely stopped yet.

If you need positive coping skills then check the forums, I've found some cool stuff in them. And if you need anyone to talk to, I'm always here.

[Fruit_Tart.]

the pain just masks all the other pain i feel when i'm home or at school. all the drama in my life just builds up that i have to cut... i thought i stopped but i guess not. and i hate myself for not being the better person i should be...

[RAWWR]

i started cutting when i was 12, i was sexually abused and my dad said i was lying, from then on it kinda became habit i suppose, and i used self harm whenever i felt low, a year later i realised i was addicted, and tried to get help from a teacher i trusted at my school, she screamed at me and called me an attention seeker and said that if i was gonna be that stupid then i need to keep it to myself and told me i wasnt allowed to talk about it in school, she also told my mum. this just made me cut even more, and now, 4 years after i started cutting, and 7 suicide attempts later, i am finally getting help, i am in therapy, and have left school and have gone on to college where the tutors are really supportive and help me with whatever i need, so i think i might finally be overcoming my battle with self harm, but i think my cutting was just a release, to feel that pain, and see the blood made me feel like i had some control in my life, i knew that i was ok because no-one could hurt me as much as i was hurting myself if that makes sense?

[tombstone]

i started cutting when i was 12, i was sexually abused and my dad said i was lying, from then on it kinda became habit i suppose, and i used self harm whenever i felt low, a year later i realised i was addicted, and tried to get help from a teacher i trusted at my school, she screamed at me and called me an attention seeker and said that if i was gonna be that stupid then i need to keep it to myself and told me i wasnt allowed to talk about it in school, she also told my mum. this just made me cut even more, and now, 4 years after i started cutting, and 7 suicide attempts later, i am finally getting help, i am in therapy, and have left school and have gone on to college where the tutors are really supportive and help me with whatever i need, so i think i might finally be overcoming my battle with self harm, but i think my cutting was just a release, to feel that pain, and see the blood made me feel like i had some control in my life, i knew that i was ok because no-one could hurt me as much as i was hurting myself if that makes sense?

im so sorry to hear all that :( I'm really glad your well on your way to recovery though :)

[RAWWR]

thanks :) its nice to be finally overcoming my self harm, and although i am still self harming quite a lot, its nowhere near as bad as it used to be, and next sunday will be 8 months since my last suicide attempt, which i am really proud of that acheivment :D i hope everyone else can get help the way i have, because beleive me, i feel so much better now!

[Blaster]

I cut mainly because:
-I want to get rid of the emotional pain out of my head ( at least for a while ).
- I'm depressed 24/7.
- I hate myself.
- I'm addicted to cutting.

[paigey]

Ok im really sorry to everyone , nobody should ever have to feel like they are good enough and nobody should ever be abused ! i hope the world gets better for all of you soon .... and dont feel too guilty with yourselves if you give in to temptation that makes you feel twice as bad ! just give quitting another try ... just keep that person that helps you through your days in your head before you cut and try not to do it . im really trying hard to give up but i keep giving in , i also have the feeling im addicted! but with the support i have now , lifes getting easier ! x

[RAWWR]

glad to hear that you're getting help and that you have support, self harm is a really hard thing to recover from, i know a guy who has been addicted to both self harm and heroin, and he actually found it easier to get over his herion addiction than his self harm, that shows just how much of an addiction self harm is, so well done to everyone that has given up, or is trying to give up, because it is hard, god knows i've wanted to quit and stay like this forever, but we've gotta keep fighting.x

[babyhottie]

that happens to me sometimes.

[Fiction]

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