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IAMWILL
October 28th, 2010, 11:29 PM
Okay, I'm 15, a Sophmore in high school and I'm on the cross country team at my school.
Since homecoming, 5 (one senior, three sophmores, and a freshamn) teammates of mine who are usually good friends have been complete assholes at practice. It started off with the senior spreading a rumor that I was air freaking with girls at our homecoming dance, which never even happened and he doesn't have any evidence, yet the other guys just laugh at it. Then when we got out team photos the same guy started giving me shit because he thought I was extending my neck in our team photo (I'm pretty skinny so my neck looks pretty long). That caught on and now everytime those 5 guys see me they stretch out their necks like up and pretend to talk like me. Today, the freshman went on my facebook, found a photo of me and my ex girlfriend from a few years ago sitting down on a bench making funny faces and just having fun with each other (because that's what people that date do), and sent it to the senior via text, who proceeded to show the whole guy team (~20) and scoff at it. I almost fought the freshman today too trying to get him to stop sending the photo to everyone.
Anyway, i need a way to stop all of this quick. I refuse to go to adults and am not going to ask nicely because they will just laugh more at that. And I k ow this won't ware off because they've been laughing at the same thing for weeks now and it doesn't get old to them.
Help before I fucking explode and quit the team or worse.

artex
October 29th, 2010, 12:15 AM
these guys are assholes... id say they are jealous of you for some reason. i am not sure how to stop this other than ignore them... i think fighting would be a last resort..

Perseus
October 29th, 2010, 06:50 PM
In all honesty, Will, the only way to get them to stop is 1.), beat their asses, or 2.) tell your XC coach or counselor or something, even though it could compromise you in the end. I mean both would compromise you in the end. But the second option would probably help you, even though you don't want to it. But don't quit XC. It'd show that they won. Maybe they don't like you anymore. Did you do anything to piss them off?

IAMWILL
October 29th, 2010, 11:10 PM
I haven't done anything to piss them off, im like the nicest player on the team.

Perseus
October 30th, 2010, 07:44 AM
I haven't done anything to piss them off, im like the nicest player on the team.

You must have done something for them to start hating you.

Kaius
October 30th, 2010, 07:52 AM
You must have done something for them to start hating you.

Not always, guys can be dicks at times for no reason. When they do this sorta shit its because they're looking for a reaction. Tbh Will it sounds as though they've got nothing better to do, or they're jealous. If i were you i just wouldn't bother with them, silence is the loudest action when it comes to that sort of thing. I had some mates a few years ago that used to be the same, I always used to be the joke to them and they wouldn't listen if i asked or found it highly amusing when i got angry and just snapped. But the one thing they couldn't stand was the silence, because they're not getting the response they're so desperately looking for. It won't be an instant effect but sooner other than later they'll start to notice you're really not interested in them any more and they'll end up finding someone else to start on. As for the photo I'd come up with some sort of come back. Like for example "Well, i don't know why thats so funny, I should be the one laughing at you seeing as though you can't get any girls to date you if your life depended on it. At least I've had a girlfriend :)." Just smile and walk away.

Hockeyplayer1
October 30th, 2010, 10:07 AM
Hey man I can relate in some ways.
Here's how i see your situation.. Its a game of chess.. the idea is to get deeper and deeper into your head and up the level of the game till you break, or until its no longer fun to play the game. If somehow you can just put on the face that says hey whatever this dont bother me (harder than it sounds I know) the game wont be any fun anymore.
as long as they know it bothers you they will continue to do things to piss you off.

Sith Lord 13
October 30th, 2010, 11:37 AM
I haven't done anything to piss them off, im like the nicest player on the team.

It doesn't have to be intentional. It doesn't even have to be against them. But there's usually some trigger. What changed around the same time they started? Glasses? Braces? New girlfriend? Anything?

aussiecasper
October 30th, 2010, 05:47 PM
i know the feeling. i get picked on all the time. i get called a little faggot freshman all the time. it started with just freshman(im a sophmore, and even the freshman make fun of me) and now the whole school makes fun of me. even people i dont know make fun of me. it all starts with an upperclassman that picks on you and then they all want to side with him to look cooler and then it spreads like disease. you just have to shrug it off and not let it get to you.

IAMWILL
October 30th, 2010, 06:12 PM
I really haven't done anything that could have made them mad.
And I can't come back with the girlfriend thing because the senior and freshman both have girlfriends and I don't because I just broke up with her. It stopped today mostly because my coach saw a facebook status and he was going to talk to them about it but I told him not to and then told the guys about it and they stopped. Plus I blocked the freshman and partially blocked one of the sophomores and the senior.

Theatheist of doom
November 7th, 2010, 08:07 PM
Brush up on your argueing skills this is highschool you can get away with making fun of their weaknesses without seeming immature. You said you used to be friends with these guys so you could say something like "I might have a long neck, but atleast I can count past 10 "and then remind him of some embarassingly low math grade or something to that
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