Winning a War...

[Azunite]

So, the girl I love has a boyfriend. I looked im on facebook, he is an average boy in appereance.
Have you ever won a girlfriend / boyfriend who already had a lover, how could you ?

[Dan_UK]

If she's the kind of girl to dump a guy as soon as she finds someone she thinks is a little better then she'd dump you the second she found someone better than you, and trust me, it would definitely happen

In other words, if she's taken give it up until she's single again and go looking elsewhere

[Kaius]

Tbh im not a person that goes for a girl that already has a boyfriend, i don't find it fair. I wouldn't like it to happen to me therefore i won't do it to someone else. I agree with Dan though, if she is the type of girl to just drop her boyfriend for the first guy that comes along then how can you trust she isn't going to do it to you?

[Azunite]

Tbh im not a person that goes for a girl that already has a boyfriend, i don't find it fair. I wouldn't like it to happen to me therefore i won't do it to someone else. I agree with Dan though, if she is the type of girl to just drop her boyfriend for the first guy that comes along then how can you trust she isn't going to do it to you?

Yeah I don't also find it fair, it would kinda backstab her boyfriend, but I just love her :)

[Kaius]

Mmm, but you've also got to consider their feelings also, just because you feel one way doesn't mean she feels the same way.

[Dan_UK]

Mmm, but you've also got to consider their feelings also, just because you feel one way doesn't mean she feels the same way.


Or that the boyfriend might feel the same as you do

[Kaius]

^ Exactly true.

[laurita_21]

I would never do that, ruin someone elses' relationship for me to get what I want is selfish. I really hope you don't do this :/ If she has a boyfriend just wait until she's single.

[Azunite]

I would never do that, ruin someone elses' relationship for me to get what I want is selfish. I really hope you don't do this :/ If she has a boyfriend just wait until she's single.

I don't even know the boy, even if I did, I wouldn't try that. I am not a selfish b*tard :)

But I was just curious about what would you do if you were in the same situation...

[The Dark Lord]

I don't even know the boy, even if I did, I wouldn't try that. I am not a selfish b*tard :)

But I was just curious about what would you do if you were in the same situation...

you accept that she has a boyfriend and you have to move on. Otherwise you end up looking creepy

[Sage]

you accept that she has a boyfriend and you have to move on. Otherwise you end up looking creepy

That's a rather defeatist mentality on things. Everything in life is a competition, and if the girl is worth it, it's worth a try. You just need to try to get close to her exactly as you would if she were single, and avoid getting friend-zoned. Though I suppose there's a bit more to it than that but I'm not going to bother typing up an elaborate guide on how to steal a lover.

[The Dark Lord]

That's a rather defeatist mentality on things. Everything in life is a competition, and if the girl is worth it, it's worth a try.

Speaking purely from obversations trying to get the girl thats already got a boyfriend, resulting you in looking desparate and really creepy. You call it defeatist, I'll call it realism

[aussiecasper]

just get close to her, become friends, and just be there for her when she wants to be with you, and if the boyfriend ever skrews up be there for her and when she is open take the shot, dont try and make the opening for yourself because honestly thats a dick move unless you are the smootest guy in the would! haha

[Sage]

Speaking purely from obversations

And speaking purely from experience, it's not as difficult to pull off as many people like to believe it is, nor will you look very creepy.

[ShatteredWings]

And speaking purely from experience, it's not as difficult to pull off as many people like to believe it is, nor will you look very creepy.

Even if it isn't, usually people who try to "steal" someones bf/gf turn out to be assholes. Let people be happy with who their with.

Taken = off limits as far as i'm conserned.

My morals, take as you please.

[Aves]

I don't find a problem with liking a girl who is in a relationship, but I don't recommend you go and try and wreck the relationship in anyway. Just, like Sage said, become her friend, but don't get friend-zoned. I've had that happen to me plenty of times.

[Syvelocin]

Well, stealing a bf/gf from someone else is one story. Just liking someone and wanting to get close to them I see a bit differently. Stealing them seems incredibly unfair, but I don't really see how you can "steal" someone... they have to willingly go with you. If you try to kidnap someone and they willingly go with you, it's not really kidnapping is it? I used that example because if you steal something, it obviously doesn't have legs and a brain to decide to go with you so... ah, I'll stop rambling.

If you like someone, a lot, and they happen to be in a relationship, you can still get close to them and see if they like you at all, or be there for when they leave the relationship. I'm not talking from dating terms, I'm talking from love terms. If your goal is just to have a girlfriend, then don't even think about it. If you're like me who dates for the big reason, love and companionship, not a high school romance that will end when you go to college, then it's definitely worth the try.

How to go about it? Well, in my experiences, I never did anything different. I acted purely like myself, because the goal is to see if they like you for you, not for the display you can put on to win them over. And if they like you for you, that's great. If they show no interest, oh well.

It could be considered selfish to "steal" someone else's partner, but only, like I said, if the whole thing is dating to be dating. You can't help it if you meet "the one" while they're with someone. Heck, I met my guy when he was engaged, soon-to-be wed, to a different girl. He dropped her for me (which doesn't always mean they'll do the same thing. They just might sincerely love one person more than the other). It doesn't mean you drop them and say "Oh well, too bad, they're with someone." But, what are the odds that we're dealing with this at our age? :rolleyes: