Seriously?

[Pudd]

Well, I am (or maybe was) is a long distance relationship with someone. A few months ago I received a couple of messages. *Names edited out*

tell <My BF> to stay the FUCK away from Person A....

i dont have anything against you, but me and Person A have had enough of his bullshit. and i figure since your his supposed Boyfriend that youd knock some fucking sense into him before i have to when i go chill with my friend who lives right down the road from him....

So, I thought "Fine, people have their differences, people argue it's normal"
I turned a blind eye.

Then today I got another message from a different person saying:
i know this might sound completely strange but i wanted to know how long you have been dating jericho aka your Boyfriend im not asking because of something strange im asking because we were going out up until a few days ago maybe five or six days (in real life) im over him now i just wanted to know if he was two timing me. ps. please dont tell him i asked you, i just needed to know

EDIT: I just got another message after I asked how long they were together.
we started going out in august and ended last week give or take a few days


I really don't know what to think, or do.
Advice please.

[Sage]

Advice please.
Pursue a relationship outside the internet.

[Ender]

Pursue a relationship outside the internet.

This. I know it seems hard to find the right one sometimes, but people online are liars and jackasses who live to screw other people over. I know, i've been through it enough times.

[Pudd]

Pursue a relationship outside the internet.

No one around here is gay. Or they hide it very well. I know I could always look for girls, but they have a history around here of being unfaithful.
I guess I have to wait until I move back down to England then...

[Kaius]

This. I know it seems hard to find the right one sometimes, but people online are liars and jackasses who live to screw other people over. I know, i've been through it enough times.

^ Don't tar everyone with the same brush, not all people dating over the net are like that. My girlfriend and I are nothing like that and are quite happy with a mixture of meeting real life (Only just recently and we've been dating for nearly a year) and dating over the net and neither of us are liars.


Honestly you need to ask him straight out, because for all you know these people could be causing trouble to make up for the supposed "trouble" he caused them.

[Ender]

^ Don't tar everyone with the same brush, not all people dating over the net are like that. My girlfriend and I are nothing like that and are quite happy with a mixture of meeting real life (Only just recently and we've been dating for nearly a year) and dating over the net and neither of us are liars.

Sorry, didnt mean to stereotype, ive had maybe two good relationships online out of, well im not going to put a number on how many i've had, but you get what im saying.
Grats to you and Bhan on the year btw :)

[Fact]

^ Don't tar everyone with the same brush, not all people dating over the net are like that. My girlfriend and I are nothing like that and are quite happy with a mixture of meeting real life (Only just recently and we've been dating for nearly a year) and dating over the net and neither of us are liars.


Honestly you need to ask him straight out, because for all you know these people could be causing trouble to make up for the supposed "trouble" he caused them.

^ Totally agree with Kaius here, on both points he made.
I have a very happy 'internet relationship', although I can see why people would think/believe what you said Ender.
By the sounds of things, imo, it's quite legitimate :/ but of course, people do lie and do things purely to cause trouble.
You need to find out for yourself, by - as Kaius said, just asking them straight.

[Pudd]

^ Totally agree with Kaius here, on both points he made.
I have a very happy 'internet relationship', although I can see why people would think/believe what you said Ender.
By the sounds of things, imo, it's quite legitimate :/ but of course, people do lie and do things purely to cause trouble.
You need to find out for yourself, by - as Kaius said, just asking them straight.


The problem with that, is he tends to lie. And exaggerate things a lot.
His other ex's are also consistent in their experiences with him, who all say that he's a compulsive liar.

[Fact]

Wow.. that must really suck for you because you're kinda stuck then :/
I hope you get to the bottom of this, I can't really think of what else to suggest except for asking external people, but they aren't going to necessarily know anything or tell you the truth either.
Good Luck with this situation :]

[Pudd]

Wow.. that must really suck for you because you're kinda stuck then :/
I hope you get to the bottom of this, I can't really think of what else to suggest except for asking external people, but they aren't going to necessarily know anything or tell you the truth either.
Good Luck with this situation :]


Thanks. To be honest, I'm probably just going to leave him. I've been wanting to for a while any way...

[Sage]

^ Don't tar everyone with the same brush, not all people dating over the net are like that. My girlfriend and I are nothing like that and are quite happy with a mixture of meeting real life (Only just recently and we've been dating for nearly a year) and dating over the net and neither of us are liars.

And that's swell for you, though stereotypes tend to hold some truth.

[ShatteredWings]

Most stereotypes hold some truth, yes.

If you're going to do long-distance, you need to trust them.
If you don't trust them, or are constantly having arguments, it's not worth your time.