Strict Parents?

[LoveMe_HateMe]

I don't get it. My parents don';t want me staying round my mates house tomorrow after the party? Yeah its a lads house BUT as far as I know atm there's gonna be 3 lads... 1 gay, 1 my boyfriend and the other one has got a girlfriend. there'll be at least 3 girls, me included. I don't get what the big problem is. I'm 17. Sometimes I feel like I'm still 12.

Tried talking to parents about anything and they just turn back onto me and how its my fault blah blah blah. Seriously, I never really do anything wrong. When I do stuff its always do this, do that or thats not good enough blah blah. I;m actually really close to walking out. I can;t be bothered with it anymore. Whatever I do there;s always something wrong with it. I know this probably makes me sound like a right brat but it winds me up. People have even said that they're too strict etc. What can I do? I've never done anything to betray their trust. I always behave - generally. I haven't done anything serious. Anything they wouldn't have done. Yes I can understand that they're worried about me and that I'm their only daughter but its just too much. I feel like I'm being crushed. I came in the other day from being round my friends house and the first thing my mum said to me was something about me not having finished the bathroom, and as i was walking out she asked me how my day was. I mean come on. She's given me until tomorrow to finish it. And that was on Monday. I really can;t be bothered. I keep getting stressed out over it. The amount of times I've been around my friends house and nearly started crying cause I didn't want to go home is unbeliveable. How bad is that? Urgh.

Sorry about this massive rant. Someone got any ideas about what I can do? Please? :/ its all getting too much and I get stressed/annoyed/angry then end up SHing.

[Fact]

Hey Sweetie.

First of all, try not to turn to SHing - it won't improve your situation at all, if anything it would worsen it if your parent's found out because they'd have more ammunition against you.

Secondly, you're 17! You need to try really hard to break free of their grasp. Explain to them that you'll be an adult when you're 18 and what then? They can't baby you forever!
I'm my mother's only child and my father's youngest daughter (I have an older half sister that I don't see much and dad doesn't talk to her) so I know how you feel with regards to that - it actually sucks, because it's like all the pressure is on you to perform well in life because you're like their 'heir'.

Also, if you behave well and you've not done anything to upset them, then they sound like they're just being quite out of order. Is there anything else you think would affect their views and behaviour?
With regards to your direct issue of the sleepover, I can't really say much about that because I'm 15, underage and therefore I'm still not allowed to have much to do with guys, so I can't relate to being 17 and not being able to. To be honest, though, I think I'd have had enough of being 'treated like you're 12' as you put it, by now if I was you.

It must be really frustrating and upsetting for you to have to deal with this - but keep strong and continue to try and gain some more freedom for yourself! It's not much to ask from your parents to give you a little trust and responsibility if they have no reason to doubt you - try to communicate this to them (even though you probably already have, but it won't hurt to try again) and don't let them turn their backs on you.
I'm not saying be aggressive, more assertive towards them.

I hope this helps you and that things get better for you!

[Theatheist of doom]

I relate. Although I suppose I might have to much pride. Just, what I think is a good experiment is take a taperecorder, turn it on and talk to your parents about a subject they usually make false promises on and then lie and say they didn't or something like that and then they'll pretty much seem inferior.. as my signature says.. with their unintentional consent.. Just an idea ;D

[Quick_Sylver]

Well, here's a fact. You're a 17 year old girl sleeping over at a boy's place.

Not gonna fly, unless you've got parents who trust you completely, and even then, it'll be a leap of faith for them.

Try what theatheist of doom said. Record yourself talking to them. Keep calm. Dont whine. Just talk and tell them WHY, WHO, WHERE, WHEN, WHAT, and HOW. That'll show you've thought it through.