So theres a girl...

[ImCoolBeans]

She's so cute and pretty and all i want to do is talk to her, thats not the problem though... shes two years younger then me... im s sophmore (10th grade) and shes in 8th grade, she goes to my school and all but i dont know, i feel a little weird about it :confused: but i really want to get to know her and see where it goes, any advice?

[MhWrestler152]

It's ok to go out with a girl two years younger than you. My friends cousin which is also in 10th grade is going out with a kid that is a freshman in college. When I was in 9th grade I was going out with a girl in 7th grade. Anyway, I think you should start talking to her. When you see her just start by saying hi to her. It's not all that hard. Then eventually you will start having full conversations with her and by then you could probably start flirting and hopefully she might flirt back.

[ImCoolBeans]

its not talking to her thats the problem, i dont have a problem with that. i just feel a little weird cause shes two years younger. is it creepy at all?

[laurita_21]

I don't think it's creepy at all, Im two years younger than my boyfriend. Though I guess it would be different with a 13 year old. But I think it's perfectly fine! :)

[Fact]

It's not creepy because you acknowledge the gap :)
It'd be creepy if you didn't.
The fact that you have shows that you're probably sensible enough to make the right choices ^^

[Fiction]

Girls on average mature earlier than guys anyway so it's not creepy at all :)

[Daniel_]

2 year rule bro.

2 years up, 2 years down. Go for it.

[foot soldier]

Being a girl quite accustomed to dating boys older than me, I feel very much as if I can offer something at least halfway solid on this question :)

My first impulse says go for it. She may be in 8th grade, but your attraction to her doesn't say so much about you being 'creepy' as it does to her maturity that is probably head and shoulders above that of her peer group. When I was in grade eight, the only boys I liked were in the high school's freshman and sophomore class. Two of those boys who are now 18 and 19 to my 16 I later wound up being romantically involved with, but let's focus on you ;)

It's a good thing that you've realized that you do have quite the age gap between you and even better that you acknowledge that yes, regardless of popular trivia, it does make a difference in how your relationship's dynamics will operate. Age is not just a number; it's a very valid concern. Words cannot describe to you the number of times that my affinity for slightly older boys has gotten me into trouble. You need to be fully aware of the shoes you're stepping into by talking to a much younger girl. You'll be starry to her, I promise you, so walk on eggshells and guard her heart yourself if you don't think she will.

Just be careful with her and remember she is young and you'll be perfectly fine.

[ImCoolBeans]

thanks everyone

[Aves]

As everyone else has said, two years is not a big deal. Age doesn't make a difference in my mind. I'm dating a sophomore and I'm a junior. I don't change my opinion on people because of how old they are.

[Dan_UK]

2 year rule bro.

2 years up, 2 years down. Go for it.

Or you know, stop making silly rules and judge it on the person themself rather than the numbers?

[electricfeel]

It's not creepy at all!! lol I've dated a guys that are 4 years older then me lol..

[Daniel_]

Or you know, stop making silly rules and judge it on the person themself rather than the numbers?

If I'm 17 and the girl is 14, that's not gonna work. Not at all.

Don't agree with my personal age limits, don't bother with them. He asked for advice, and I gave my 2 cents.

[bmxkid313]

its not that big of a deal how many years are between your parents? 2 years ont make a difference

[Dan_UK]

If I'm 17 and the girl is 14, that's not gonna work. Not at all.

Don't agree with my personal age limits, don't bother with them. He asked for advice, and I gave my 2 cents.


1) My advice was within the post, and it wasn't exactly subtle either
2) Is racism ok to you? How about sexism? No? Well neither should ageism, all three are things affecting all humans which cannot be controlled by the human, so to think being prejudiced against one must mean you either think all 3 are ok, or you are a hypocrite