Smoking...

[Fiction]

So I hadn't smoked in a year... since last October. Then last night I fucked it all up. I didn't smoke that much, only 4 or 5 cigarettes but I still totally fucked up. My bf would hate me if he knew... I don't know if I should tell him or not. I feel guilty if I don't but it will only cause an arguement if I do. I slipped up, does he really need to know? And if so how do I tell him? :S

[laurita_21]

It's likely he's going to find out anyway so just tell him. No matter how much it hurts you need to tell him the truth so he could at least help or comfort you.
Just tell him straigh, I don't think there is any other way.
Good luck :)

[Fiction]

He won't help or comfort me. he'll probably just stop talking to me :/

[laurita_21]

He won't help or comfort me. he'll probably just stop talking to me :/

Oh, in that case... he's not being a very good boyfriend.
Let him know that you really regret it and ask him not to get angry.
... Ok that is some seriously crap advice but it's all I can give >_<

[Fact]

...
you already know what i'm going to say.

[Fiction]

yes Symone your gonna hate me too ^^ And yeah i suppose... might tell him on msn so he can get over it before i actually have to see him :/

[Fact]

I just don't understand
1) the attraction to it? it's disgusting.
2) why you would do it again after not doing it for a year?
3) why you'd have that many all in one go if you're not used to it anyway...
4) the fact that you KNEW before you even thought about doing it, that you'd upset people and therefore yourself, if you did.

I just don't get it.

[Patchy]

We all have moments of weakness and end up giving in - I smoking about 8 a day at the moment.

If you do decide to speak to him about it or he confronts you about it, if you make it clear its a one off and you really regret it, I'm sure he will forgive you if you make that clear.

[Fact]

@ Patchy;
but it's not a one off.
she's done it before and will possibly do it again.
also it wasn't 'one' either, even if it all happened in the same incident.

[Fiction]

Symone I haven't done it in a year... i'd call it a one off. Look if your gonna argue with me please don't do it on here.

[Patchy]

@ Patchy;
but it's not a one off.
she's done it before and will possibly do it again.
also it wasn't 'one' either, even if it all happened in the same incident.

She's gonna have to try and make it into a one off. It was one night of weakness in a year, meaning she can say it was a one off mistake. Yeah its gonna be tough not to do it again but shes already managed a year meaning shes just gonna have to try and manage it again.

[Fact]

@ Fiction, I'm not having a go at you.

@ Patchy, I hope she does. She's one of my closest friends and last thing I want for her is to get addicted to cigs :/

[Fiction]

Sorry Symone :/ I'm not gonna smoke again at least not for a while. :)
And thanks Patchy :)

[Kloppn]

Why so negative?

[wtblife]

It really doesn't make sense for people to get angry with you, that helps no one. It sounds like you've been doing a pretty good job imo and you just need to stop slipping up. I personally wouldn't tell someone that doesn't understand.

[DarkHorses]

It's really great that you've made it a year, and I don't think people are realizing how hard it actually is to give up smoking. It's not something you just choose to do, it takes a lot of determination. I think it's totally okay that you slipped up, it's still amazing that you've gone a whole year without smoking, and you should still be proud of that. Personally I think that if your boyfriend would hate you over something so trivial, then he's not that great of a guy. It's your choice whether or not to tell him, but he shouldn't overreact and if he does, he's in the wrong and not you.

[Syvelocin]

Same with me. I'm really happy for you for making it that long. I don't think many people take smoking quite as seriously as other drug addictions, because it's just the same type of addiction. Smoking might be less harmful than most other drugs, but it's still difficult to give up all the same. I wish I could go at least a day without smoking :/

[Fiction]

Wow this is an old post :P It's all pretty much over now, I told him, we had a huge arguement but it's all ok now. Thanks for the replies though :)

[ShatteredWings]

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