My Boyfriend Worries Me

[brennaluvv]

Hi, I'm Brenna. (: I'm dating a guy from New Jersey and I'm from Michigan. We met over the phone (because of one of our friends) almost two months ago. We started dating around the same time. I'm not clingy or anything but I always feel like he's pushing me away. I think I also might have anxiety which could possibly play a role in my feelings, but he worries me. I always feel like I'm boring and I'm just too shy to ask about it. So what I want to know is, is he losing interest in me or something? Or getting shy? Because the relationship seems to be dwindling but I don't want it to.

[Scarface]

TO be frank, long distance relationships can be hard. Especially since they are not right there to talk to and connect with. So sometimes their feelings cannot be easily read through the phone.

Though you may be right, anxiety may play a role in this worrisome thoughts, because you have different thoughts of what he might be thinking or feeling and you are kind of afraid to ask. That's perfectly okay. Though when on the phone with him next time you could try to find something interesting to talk about. Maybe something funny or even a TV show or movie to watch together (Sounds corny), but when you both find something to watch on TV or a good movie over the phone you can hear each others reactions to it an see if he finds the same parts as good as you.

It doesn't always have to be about conversation. I don't think he could be bored, it's just sometimes with all sorts of thoughts among other things, it can just be complicated. So I wouldn't over think it too much. Though if you feel that it is a little bland, you could talk to him about it. Maybe work it into a long talk. Long talks can solve so much and help you understand if one or the other is on the same page.

Try not to over think this too much hun, just try different approaches and see what works best. I hope everything works out. If you need someone to talk to I'm always here.

[Mr. Awesome]

Hi Brenna, have you ever met the boy in person i dont live in the states (im from ireland) so i dont know a from b over there.

If you have never met him then i would say that he may be losing interest because unfortunatly you can not connect on a personal level (face to face) talking face to face creates a connection that cant be conveyed through IM text and phone calls.

I do hope it works out well for you though, good luck

[Daniel_]

Your from Michigan? Cool, me to=P.

Anyway, I agree with everyone else. Long distance relationships are hard to maintain. If you feel as though you are being pushed away, talk to him when you get a chance, and tell him you need to talk about it. Anxiety may be the cause, however you shouldn't jump to conclusions. Just give him a call and talk about it, you will never know for sure.