Problems

[rEpReSsIoN.?]

Okay i think im bi and i got a girl friend and i have been kinda having cyber relationships with guys across the internet from gyc- one time included a bit of stripping across the web cam, and i am ashamed of myself because of it because im was going out with my girl friend when i was doing it... i dunno wat 2 do because im not sure if im gay and its making me really depressed because wat im doing 2 my girl friend is mean, should i tell her about it? i just don't want 2 feel these feeling anymore, because i love my girl friend but sometimes these feeling r so much more powerful.

[JohnFused]

Yea i been there.but the striping part.. thats just freaky. ok it's time for me to "help u"

Ok here we go.


I don't really know what to tell you.But You shouldn't be ashamed on Yourself for that. i mean...(oh god i hope this helping) You can't control your feelings.K lets see.. You have a gf so i guess You should just come clean to her Just blurp it out.U know that you can't keep it to yourself much longer.Trust me it'll hurt you form the inside out.


Did it help in anyway possible?

[rEpReSsIoN.?]

yeah but i dunno wat 2 say and i dunno how she will take it because i dunno if i can love her in that way at all, so if i tell her i dunno she might like tell everyone and distroy my life.. yeah it is hurting me inside big time and im scared because at times i just get so suicidal and depressed


lol the stripping wat kinda wierd and i shall never do it again 4 the guy was just in it 4 the possibillity of sex l8ter on and i was a fool (we never had sex it was a short internet relationship)

[Sapphire]

There is no "right" way to tell her. Just sit her down, explain that you are having these feelings. Above all try to end your relationship on a pleasant friendly note. If she comes away thinking "I still have a friend in him" then she will be less likely to tell people about your questioning your sexuality.

I have one question though. How would it "destroy your life" if other people knew about it?

[rEpReSsIoN.?]

I think i might tell her or just end the relationship another way and she knows now im having a hard time a home so i don't think she will start 2 spread rumores about me... i hope. (Im not in the best mood 4 dealing with rumores at the moment)

like the people at my school are totally homophbic and they will just make my life harder, im not sure i can have a crap 'home life' with my mum and a crap 'school life' aswel.

[Hot Fudge]

I know the feeling man, I had a girlfriend once but it ended partly because i wasnt putting in enough effort because i had feelings for a guy. Now i have got 2 guys that i like, the latest i like a lot more (that might be because i see him more). However i dont really have any sexual feelings for the 2nd guy and not many for the 1st guy, i am still attracted to women but i seem to fall for males, i dont get it, i would much rather know what i am and allow myself to fall in love maybe rather then like bits of both sexes.

[rEpReSsIoN.?]

Yeah i c wat u mean but i would give so much to b able to at least think of my gf sexually... omg its so hard i was going 2 tell her 2day but i backed out, i feel trapped and there is no way out... and i can't tell her 2morrow or 4 like a week its her birthday 2morrow and i don't want 2 like hurt her like that, i have another week or so of depression with my friends asking wat wrong, i don't have the courage 2 tell them i might tell one of my friends, it might take the strain off abit but then she will just think im using mallory oh god i h8 these feelings i want them 2 end but love does'nt end

[what the?]

Mate, if you ask me, it doesn't sound like you're quite sure of your sexualilty, so maybe it wouldn't be a good idea to tell your girlfriend yet. If you really want to tell her, wait. Wait until you can be more sure about what you're saying to her. Either that, or separate. Only to ease your conscience, but it might be better for both of you...

I hope that helped, after all, that's what I'm here for :D

[rEpReSsIoN.?]

well i think im deffiently gay or bi because i like guys more than girls but i like girls a tiny bit but thats not enough 4 a relationship yeah i think i will end it... thx u guys really helped