My Looks...

[judgeofsin]

A girl I like rated me. She gave me an A+ for my personality... and a C+ for my looks. I know that a C+ plus is above average. As with almost every human being on this planet, we want to date someone who is a pleasure to look at AND has a great personality. She already loves my personality. It's just the looks the i'm a bit worried about. I want to make myself a bit more attractive to her and other people, but mostly to her. Anyway I can do that without her suspecting anything?

[Daniel_]

Well I don't know about you, but when I'm taking a test in school and I get it back with a C+, I'm not an unhappy person.

Think about it like that.

[judgeofsin]

Well I don't know about you, but when I'm taking a test in school and I get it back with a C+, I'm not an unhappy person.

Think about it like that.

It's not that i'm not happy. I just want to get ranked higher that's all.

[Daniel_]

It's not that i'm not happy. I just want to get ranked higher that's all.

You are who you are, and nothing will change that.

[UnknownError]

Maybe use like anti-spot wipes each day and stuff? Idk what you look like so. :P

[judgeofsin]

You are who you are, and nothing will change that.

I know. I just want to have the best possible chance with her.

[ktmay96]

Ok first, don't worry. If she really loves your personality, she won't care about your looks. Well she shouldn't... But your right this world does like people who are fun to look at and be around. But don't worry. Unless she's a brat, she wont NOT date you just because your not #1 hottie of the year. The guy I liked for the longest time (whose also like my best friend and I only stopped liking him cuz 1. He didn't like me and 2. I didn't want to ruin our friendship) doesn't have the best looks, but I love him to death because of his personality. So, even though your a C+, you have a pretty good chance.

And two, ya, guys are kinda screwed over in the area of looks. Girls, if they have C+ looks can move up with the help of our handy dandy make up (used correctly of course not freaking caked on your face). Guys... well all they can really do is clear up any acne they have and get a good haircut, but otherwise, your looks are the way they are. But like I said, try not to worry so much.

[Mzor203]

Well I don't know about you, but when I'm taking a test in school and I get it back with a C+, I'm not an unhappy person.

Think about it like that.

On the other hand, when I get a test back in school and it has a C+, I'm pretty pissed off at myself.

It's never happened but I'd assume, anyway.

The point being that things are important for different people. And whether or not we'd like to admit it, looks are a factor in the whole dating game, so being happy with a C+ isn't a good thing to aim for.

In school, you're rarely just doomed to a C+. Your grade is a function of how much effort you put into your work, and generally speaking the same can be said of yourself as a person. Improving yourself in he eye of one person is tough, certainly, so just try to improve your overall looks.

Keep yourself clean, get haircuts regularly (unless you really think your hair looks good long), get some sort of acne facewash and use it regularly, you know. If you're overweight a bit (not saying you are, I don't know what you look like so I'm just covering everything), find a workout routine and eat healthy. There's no easy way to just make yourself look good. But work towards a better you, and you should do that even if you aren't trying to impress a girl.

[Chris_Likes_Drums]

Enbelism is right, also to add to his list: If your're happy with yourself and with life then you'll be happier, and someone who smiles is more attractive than someone who doesnt (proven fact) So when you're around her, smile more :)
You've got to love yourself before people can love you.
Hope this helps a bit.

[judgeofsin]

Ok first, don't worry. If she really loves your personality, she won't care about your looks. Well she shouldn't... But your right this world does like people who are fun to look at and be around. But don't worry. Unless she's a brat, she wont NOT date you just because your not #1 hottie of the year. The guy I liked for the longest time (whose also like my best friend and I only stopped liking him cuz 1. He didn't like me and 2. I didn't want to ruin our friendship) doesn't have the best looks, but I love him to death because of his personality. So, even though your a C+, you have a pretty good chance.

And two, ya, guys are kinda screwed over in the area of looks. Girls, if they have C+ looks can move up with the help of our handy dandy make up (used correctly of course not freaking caked on your face). Guys... well all they can really do is clear up any acne they have and get a good haircut, but otherwise, your looks are the way they are. But like I said, try not to worry so much.

thanks. don't worry i'm not going to get all obsessed over this whole "looks" thing. But I do want to appeal to her more. A ton of guys at school look better than me in her eyes. (she just falls "in love" over their looks.) I don't want her to fall in love with me because of my looks alone. I just want to be a pleasure to look at. I don't want her to be like she is with all the other "good looking" guys. fawning over them all the time. she loves my smile to death (she says it's my best feature) and she thinks that i'm cute. those things alone are a good start in the looks department. i just need to get rid of the black heads i have so my skin can FINALLY be baby soft again. (it honestly was that smooth before) After that i need to fix my hair (problem being that when my scalp gets dry, it... um. breaks off. and it looks like dandruff and i hate it.) so once that's out of the way the only thing left to do is maybe get a bit more muscle than i have. so can you give me ways to fix these problems? (i already have the muscle part down.)

[judgeofsin]

Enbelism is right, also to add to his list: If your're happy with yourself and with life then you'll be happier, and someone who smiles is more attractive than someone who doesnt (proven fact) So when you're around her, smile more :)
You've got to love yourself before people can love you.
Hope this helps a bit.

I love my life and who i am as a person. I always have a smile on my face around her. Even she's smiling, I smile instantaneously. Her smile is enough to put a smile on my face.

[judgeofsin]

On the other hand, when I get a test back in school and it has a C+, I'm pretty pissed off at myself.

It's never happened but I'd assume, anyway.

The point being that things are important for different people. And whether or not we'd like to admit it, looks are a factor in the whole dating game, so being happy with a C+ isn't a good thing to aim for.

In school, you're rarely just doomed to a C+. Your grade is a function of how much effort you put into your work, and generally speaking the same can be said of yourself as a person. Improving yourself in he eye of one person is tough, certainly, so just try to improve your overall looks.

Keep yourself clean, get haircuts regularly (unless you really think your hair looks good long), get some sort of acne facewash and use it regularly, you know. If you're overweight a bit (not saying you are, I don't know what you look like so I'm just covering everything), find a workout routine and eat healthy. There's no easy way to just make yourself look good. But work towards a better you, and you should do that even if you aren't trying to impress a girl.

Thanks. I'm trying to do that for myself and for her.

[ktmay96]

thanks. don't worry i'm not going to get all obsessed over this whole "looks" thing. But I do want to appeal to her more. A ton of guys at school look better than me in her eyes. (she just falls "in love" over their looks.) I don't want her to fall in love with me because of my looks alone. I just want to be a pleasure to look at. I don't want her to be like she is with all the other "good looking" guys. fawning over them all the time. she loves my smile to death (she says it's my best feature) and she thinks that i'm cute. those things alone are a good start in the looks department. i just need to get rid of the black heads i have so my skin can FINALLY be baby soft again. (it honestly was that smooth before) After that i need to fix my hair (problem being that when my scalp gets dry, it... um. breaks off. and it looks like dandruff and i hate it.) so once that's out of the way the only thing left to do is maybe get a bit more muscle than i have. so can you give me ways to fix these problems? (i already have the muscle part down.)

Well thats good. its kinda weird when a guy takes hours to get ready... haha. Ya it makes that you want to appeal to her more. Well her liking your smile is good, if you have a nice smile thats an excellent start, and the fact that she thinks your cute is good. It could just be the acne and hair then, that dropped her rating of your looks. So just find some skin stuff that gets rid of your acne. I have no idea what works, I really don't have problems with acne. But for the hair, just try different shampoos and see if anything works. Like try shampoos that help your scalp. But sounds like your off to a good start.

[judgeofsin]

Well thats good. its kinda weird when a guy takes hours to get ready... haha. Ya it makes that you want to appeal to her more. Well her liking your smile is good, if you have a nice smile thats an excellent start, and the fact that she thinks your cute is good. It could just be the acne and hair then, that dropped her rating of your looks. So just find some skin stuff that gets rid of your acne. I have no idea what works, I really don't have problems with acne. But for the hair, just try different shampoos and see if anything works. Like try shampoos that help your scalp. But sounds like your off to a good start.

Good news. I found a shampoo and a conditioner that work perfectly. I also found a foaming wash for my acne. This is coming along nicely :3

[closed]

well, the thing that can be the most realistic is keeping good hygiene. shwoe every day, brush your teeth, use some mouth wash, comb you hair... idk, jsut look clean. there is not much else you can do.

[judgeofsin]

well, the thing that can be the most realistic is keeping good hygiene. shwoe every day, brush your teeth, use some mouth wash, comb you hair... idk, jsut look clean. there is not much else you can do.

Well, i'll work myself and see if I can draw her in through her eyes. That will boost my chances up by a good amount.

[judgeofsin]

jacdean - uniqueness and randomness is the key to anything. Be loose and be funny.

Find out what her interests are relate to the things that you both like. Talk to her and show genuine interest.

You can also try updating your wardrobe if it's a bit outdated - that will help you out as well.

We've been best friends for 2 years, so i've got the first 2 parts down and set already. As for my wardrobe she hasn't seen much of it, (because we have uniforms at school) but from what she's seen already, she likes what I wear. So I just need to work on my physical appearance now. Clearing up my black heads, building up some muscle, and fixing the problem with my hair.

[aussiecasper]

honestley if you cant charm her with your apperentley A+ personality and you best look when you ask her out.....assuming you do it person. then she sounds a bit shallow. but if you desten to look better then hit the gym, clean up a little and dress nicer. if you cant get her then she is looking for justin bieber idk or whatever shes into. but remember self confidence is everything, dont let some rating get to you

[judgeofsin]

1. Do you think you are ugly?

2. Do you think she only likes a guy for his looks?

If no to both, then forget the other stuff and go for it!

My answer to #1: not at all.

My answer to #2: looks are pretty much the first thing you will ever see about a person. she often gets drawn in by guys' looks, and gets hurt in the end. if she actually gets to know a guy, she won't rely on looks alone. she then takes who they are as a person into account. so i'd say she's in the middle.

[judgeofsin]

honestley if you cant charm her with your apperentley A+ personality and you best look when you ask her out.....assuming you do it person. then she sounds a bit shallow. but if you desten to look better then hit the gym, clean up a little and dress nicer. if you cant get her then she is looking for justin bieber idk or whatever shes into. but remember self confidence is everything, dont let some rating get to you

actually, she admitted that she had a crush on me at one point. so it's not that my A+ personality (in her eyes) isn't enough to charm her. i did it once before! to her, looks on a guy are a bonus. i work the same way. and this rating she gave me isn't a true problem. i'm not wrecking myself over it. i just want to show her the best me i have to offer. to do that, i just need to PHYSICALLY better myself as much as i can. and that's what i'm determined to do. i want to have the best possible chance with her. simple as that.

[Dan_UK]

On the other hand, when I get a test back in school and it has a C+, I'm pretty pissed off at myself.

It's never happened but I'd assume, anyway.

The point being that things are important for different people. And whether or not we'd like to admit it, looks are a factor in the whole dating game, so being happy with a C+ isn't a good thing to aim for.

In school, you're rarely just doomed to a C+. Your grade is a function of how much effort you put into your work, and generally speaking the same can be said of yourself as a person. Improving yourself in he eye of one person is tough, certainly, so just try to improve your overall looks.

Keep yourself clean, get haircuts regularly (unless you really think your hair looks good long), get some sort of acne facewash and use it regularly, you know. If you're overweight a bit (not saying you are, I don't know what you look like so I'm just covering everything), find a workout routine and eat healthy. There's no easy way to just make yourself look good. But work towards a better you, and you should do that even if you aren't trying to impress a girl.


This basically, have a good rep too actually, and yeah I'll add an emphasis to the whole staying fit thing, again I have no idea about your weight but going out on your bike/getting down to the gym is always beneficial to your health, and for skin make sure you drink loads of water and get fresh air

[judgeofsin]

This basically, have a good rep too actually, and yeah I'll add an emphasis to the whole staying fit thing, again I have no idea about your weight but going out on your bike/getting down to the gym is always beneficial to your health, and for skin make sure you drink loads of water and get fresh air

Don't worry, i'm slowly but steadly working on all of this. i always get fresh air though so that's covered :)

[judgeofsin]

Any more ideas?

[judgeofsin]

Any more ideas?

ok, last night i got rated again. i got a C this time. not a C+, a C. well, i still won't give up! i'm going to continue doing what i'm doing. anybody else have more ideas?

[sCa45]

To be honest, one way to may oneself more attractive is just to have confidence.

[judgeofsin]

To be honest, one way to may oneself more attractive is just to have confidence.

that's the only way? not changing how i look?

[ShaneK]

Maybe your just not her type of look. She might like guys with a different eye color or a different shaped nose for example

Peoples ideas of what is attractive do vary

[Dan_UK]

that's the only way? not changing how i look?


Confidence = around about 65% of what a girl is attracted to

NOTE: for a teenage girl anyway, personality as a whole becomes more prominent once they've actually grown up a bit

[judgeofsin]

Confidence = around about 65% of what a girl is attracted to

NOTE: for a teenage girl anyway, personality as a whole becomes more prominent once they've actually grown up a bit

well, how much does personality matter later on?

[Dan_UK]

well, how much does personality matter later on?


well I'm talking about once they've reached 20odd and stopped acting like childish teenagers, but yeah it matters a lot then, but that doesn't mean confidence stops being important, a woman won't want a man who seems constantly terrified of losing them

[Love.Hate]

Change your hairstyle or try different aftershave or something..
Girls like guys that smell good :)

And you shouldnt change who you are for people, They should love you the way you are xx

[judgeofsin]

well I'm talking about once they've reached 20odd and stopped acting like childish teenagers, but yeah it matters a lot then, but that doesn't mean confidence stops being important, a woman won't want a man who seems constantly terrified of losing them

true. thanks for telling me. :)

[judgeofsin]

Change your hairstyle or try different aftershave or something..
Girls like guys that smell good :)

And you shouldnt change who you are for people, They should love you the way you are xx

i've already got the good smell down :)
i'm not sure i want to change my hair stlye though. because hair doesn't really matter to her.

[judgeofsin]

any more ideas?

[judgeofsin]

Maybe your just not her type of look. She might like guys with a different eye color or a different shaped nose for example

Peoples ideas of what is attractive do vary

I understand that completely. I just want to look better is all. Not just to her, (but if i ended up looking better to her, i can't say i'd mind :wub:) but to other people too.

[Dan_UK]

Change your hairstyle or try different aftershave or something..
Girls like guys that smell good :)

And you shouldnt change who you are for people, They should love you the way you are xx

Sadly the problem is, although out of all the people on earth there's guaranteed to be some perfect for you, there's no guarantee of ever meeting them, and I always believe bettering yourself is a good idea be it for one specific person or just in general which is why I'm encouraging Jacdean

[judgeofsin]

Sadly the problem is, although out of all the people on earth there's guaranteed to be some perfect for you, there's no guarantee of ever meeting them, and I always believe bettering yourself is a good idea be it for one specific person or just in general which is why I'm encouraging Jacdean

Thanks for encouraging me. It makes me push myself even more to better myself. :D

[Dan_UK]

Thanks for encouraging me. It makes me push myself even more to better myself. :D


Just a quick thing, the girl who I had a huge crush on for months last year who I was just friends with, and even has an age gap from me (she's 20 and i'm 16) came over last friday and stayed over if you know what i mean ;) and although she doesn't want a relationship that's due to her own personality than the friend zone thing, so it can be done


Also before this I was in a 2 month relationship with a girl who I was friends with first (actually saw her as just a friend btw) so another tip is stop thinking about them as the girl you like and start thinking about them as just a close friend as it will increase your chances, sadly for me it didn't work out because the girl turned out to be the biggest liar i've met in my life and we aren't friends anymore, partly due to the horrendous lying but also because she hooked up with my stepbrother a couple of days after we split, so yes there is the risk of that but in her case she's had a crazy past and is a bit messed up so I sincerly doubt the same would happen to you :)