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Immortal Love
October 14th, 2010, 10:43 PM
Alright, first off, I want to say that I honestly do love my boyfriend. I'd die if something happened to us, but I have issues with us.

You see, he claims he has MPD, is Skitzo, and that if he gets to stressed, he has what he calls 'Mini Heart-attacks'. Now I honestly believe none of this, at all. I do, however know that he has issues with his kidney, so there is a possibility for the mini heart attacks. But the MPD and others things, I doubt. Why? Well "they" can take over his body and talk for him. Yes they are different, but they seem to... acted out to me. Thats just one of the problems.

The other thing is he is a total control freak. Like, to the maximum. I can't do anything after school, spend time with my friends, or family (which i honestly wouldn't want to do anyways), or barely even nap if I want to. If i suggest these things to him, he gets all huffed up and says how I rather be doing that and "wasting" our time together. He lives in a different state, so the time difference is 3 hours. Like I said, I do love him, but I can't always be with him. I've had to lie and tell him I had a doctors appointment just so I could spend some time with a good friend!

He also get angered very fast, and likes to "break" me when he is mad. By this i mean that since he knows my deepest, darkest pasts and horrid happenings, he uses them against me to depress me to a point that I just snap and turn blank. When that happens, someone could tell me to lay in the street, and I would do it. SO you see how bothersom this can get. He can just drive me to S-H, which he tries to get me to stop, bless him, but it dosn't help when he screams and swears at me the next minute.

So now, I ask for your opinions. I need help before it becomes worse.

Art_dude
October 15th, 2010, 03:08 PM
You need to get out of this now. End of story.

This is one sick fuck. I know you love him, but if you love him enough, you'll know that he has some major issues and it is better for him and for you to not be together.

He is clearly a liar - there is no medical basis for 'mini-heart attacks.' He's probably just having mini anxiety attacks or esophageal spasms and thinks it's a heart attack. Whether his personality disorder is real or not is irrelevant - if it is fake which is probably is, a mentally stable person doesn't pretend or act out that he has one.

The fact that you have lied to him to go about your daily tasks like hanging out with friends and other basic social functions is not a good sign. His influence has really encroached on your mental territory - NEVER let ANYONE emotionally abuse you to the point of suicide. This person is passive aggressive, emotionally abusive, and dangerous. Do what you can to get away from him.

ShatteredWings
October 15th, 2010, 03:21 PM
Out, now.

Regardless of his mental health, he's knowingly abusing you emotionally and you don't need to be in that relationship.

The Red Devil
October 16th, 2010, 01:45 AM
I have to agree with the two posters above. If there is any kind of regular abuse, or most of the stuff you mentioned, you need to get out of that relationship. Better sooner than later too, because the way you described things if you stay with him, things are NOT going to turn out good for you.

justalovestruckteen
October 16th, 2010, 06:13 AM
I know its hard to just let go,(I'm having a hard time too).

Maybe you should let go, or talk to him(might help). If he fails to understand you have to be strong and try to let go.

If I were you, I would try to get him professional help or something.

Also he tried to stop you from SH, which means he could be playing a bad joke.

Or you could just break up, although he might just be confused and that might hurt him and drive him deeper into insanity

OK I concluded, theres a list of things you could do.

Immortal Love
October 16th, 2010, 08:52 PM
Thank you all for your help. I am working on a "safe" way of parting from him. I am just playing everything carefully so I don't push a bad button.

gots.it.fresh
October 17th, 2010, 01:52 AM
no matter how much you like him, you have to end it. trying to work things out that are like that is no use, they might work but not for long and things will go back to the way they were.

and if he constantly blackmales you with your secrets and make you so depress, then thats not love, thats just idk but not love. no one deserves to be in a relationship like that,

and your friends should always come before your guy,