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Syvelocin
October 14th, 2010, 11:40 AM
I was at the dermatologist today since I got an allergic reaction to something. Anyway, it was on my leg, so I had to take my pants off.

I hate that anxiety. You can tell yourself all you want that they're not looking at your scars, but they definitely are. I think that's the one aspect that I can never change. My social anxiety is one story, because it isn't usually true when you're scared people are whispering about you. When you have to take off your pants and you have those pink, fresh scars contrasting with your pale skin... they're looking at them. I know they do.

I was there for my hives, not my scars. But being a DOCTOR, a bloody medical doctor versus a psychiatric doctor, they always say something. You could have been scratched by a cat for all they know, but when they look at all conspicuous, they're asking about something you're not paying them to take a look at. "What are these scars. Is this an accident or cutting?" Seriously? It's already enough that a self-conscious girl like me has to show her legs off, even if it's just a doctor and a nurse, but you have to ask how I got such obviously self-inflicted scars? I have to explain this to you?

And then their attitude automatically changes toward you! Before they're all kind and sweet, once they see your scars and they know that you purposefully did them, if they're not prejudice against you, they get all solemn and serious.

She even touched on my psychiatric meds. They had already asked if I was taking anything, which I said no to, then she goes on about whether I'm taking anti-depressants or not, which was completely unrelated in context to my breakout.

And that's just the dermatologist. Emergency room doctors are much more cruel.
God, I hate doctors.

Fiction
October 14th, 2010, 12:20 PM
I know what you mean about the paranoia... I have to go to hospital alot for other things and everytime i get scared that for some reason they are going to need me to take off my jacket and show my arms.
As for your doctor, she was probabaly only trying to help even if she has no knowledge of this kind of thing.

Syvelocin
October 14th, 2010, 01:09 PM
Well, she touched on it just briefly and moved on, and there was also an evident change in her attitude from when she first walked in and when I showed her my legs. I could be stretching it, but since I've had doctors who haven't given me the respect that others get once they find out I SI, it's what I automatically assume when the same thing happens.

MoveAlong
October 14th, 2010, 07:24 PM
Of course she's going to treat you differently, because she's concerned. Ooo, so she's not a psychiatric doctor - so she has to stop caring?

Sorry, but this is what regular people do. They think everything is okay and then they see something bone chilling like self harm. Yes, their attitude is going to change. Sorry.

I understand your paranoia. I'm sorry you got put into a situation like that. But you really shouldn't be mad at her unless she started disrespecting you - and asking where the scars are from, and if you're on psychiatric meds is not disrespect. It's concern for your well-being.

Sunshine Girl
October 14th, 2010, 07:33 PM
That kind of anxiety used to consume me.
It was a lot more before I started wearing short sleeves. When I wore long sleevevs for two years everything made me nervous. The airport -will they make me take of my jacket?- When I practially broke my foot - I just cant go to the doctor!- and especially the starting two new schools. -I dont know anyone who will understand .__. -

But it has eased.
It only really affects me now when I am confronted face to face about it.

I think I am growing up about it too. I'm getting older and caring less and less what people think about my obvious scars.

Syvelocin
October 14th, 2010, 07:35 PM
Of course she's going to treat you differently, because she's concerned. Ooo, so she's not a psychiatric doctor - so she has to stop caring?

Sorry, but this is what regular people do. They think everything is okay and then they see something bone chilling like self harm. Yes, their attitude is going to change. Sorry.

I understand your paranoia. I'm sorry you got put into a situation like that. But you really shouldn't be mad at her unless she started disrespecting you - and asking where the scars are from, and if you're on psychiatric meds is not disrespect. It's concern for your well-being.

This is paranoia. But to tell you the truth, I've been to the emergency room a huge number of times, and have received a lot of abuse for it. I've faced even a few instances where doctors have refused to give me anaesthesia when sewing up cuts. It's hard not to get defensive when any doctor asks me about them, psychiatric or not. Truth is, not all doctors are nice, and it happens to be that it isn't a rarity for them not to be kind. I've had psych doctors treat me like crap, and medical doctors treating me like crap. I don't take it. Living with self-harm for five years, I know the difference between concern and distaste.

I also didn't explain the full situation. As you were not there to see the look on her face, I don't expect such judgment.