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Flippy
October 12th, 2010, 09:50 PM
While it might not sound awkward for you, I've lived in a house in which everything is stereotypical and is related in some way to religion, as my mother is a very fond Christian.

I seriously like anime, I don't have any idea of why, maybe because I find it funny and cute and all of that and my sister and I talked about Dragon Ball Z and Pokemon all the time when I was about 4 years old. These were normal, as they were intended for kids (mostly boys). But the internet comes and I find new ones which are girly, but I find them funny and cute, mostly.

The problem is, my mother is too "stereotypical" and has told me a lot of times, that I should watch other stuff or not even watch them at all, just because they are girly.

I can't confront that, because that would just get me into more trouble, discussing about it would make her thing I'm starting to get attracted to my same sex and as a fond Christian she would make me go to church everytime she could to "guide me through the correct path". It's not that I hate church, I myself am Christian too, I've grown in a Christian family. And no, I am not attracted to my same sex in any way.

The point is I really don't want to stop watching them, and recently I've been starting to learn how to draw it, but I have to lock myself or just do it whenever they're not home, making them think I'm doing something else.

What can I do to deal with this? As I said before, I can't confront them, doing that would make them think my sexual interests are getting different, because they are very stereotypical, especially my mother, my father's all cool and doesn't care what I do as long as it's not illegal, bad for my own self or something negative that would harm me or other people. "Doesn't care" as it doesn't bother him, he won't complain about it, if I like something and it's not bad, it's OK for him too.

But when my mother tells my father he becomes part of her side and protects all her arguments, the odds are against me.

And doing it while locked is driving me insane, I usually have to do something else out of my room so I have to hide the sheet of papers in which I'm drawing, close the tabs, etc, because I know she's going to look at it, I KNOW it.

Help me please .__.

nick
October 13th, 2010, 02:07 AM
It sounds like you have an artistic sort of nature, which is great, but sometimes gets mistaken for being gay. Really if your mum has silly prejudices like that there's not much you can do, but its pretty sad if you have to hide your art. With her sort of religion I would have thought she would prefer to think you were drawing in your room than doing the other things teens do with their door locked! Maybe somehow you need to find away of letting her know that this is important to you.

Flippy
October 13th, 2010, 08:33 PM
That's the problem, I don't know how, direct approach would make her start having mistaken ideas about me and the anime, making her think it's starting to turn me homosexual. If just letting her see what I'm doing indirectly is an option, it isn't for me, that would generate the same thing.

Nicky97
October 14th, 2010, 09:48 AM
Your dad has been dealing with this crap for a lot longer than yu have. Kids are not able to go up against this whole religion and "better-than-you" attitude alone. She is getting fed ideas and support constantly by outsiders who have their own agendas and care nothing for what's best for your family.

You need help also. And your dad, it seems, is the one who has insight into what is and isn't possible. Ignorance is a hard burden to be dealt in life. If anyone has any hope of getting past it and making her see what she is doing to her own daughter, it's him. Convince him of the seriousness of this, to jolt him out of his comfort zone.

Good luck, and welcome...

closed
October 14th, 2010, 01:15 PM
don't give up on who you are just because your parents tell you to!
try to talk to your father while your mother is away. show him what you drew and explain him that you really like it and there is nothing wrong with it.
i think he will help you with it.
-even if he doesn't help you (which i doubt) don't give up! you have the full right to be everything you want, and no one has the right to take it away from you. they will have to accept you sometime. if you don't feel like fighting for it you can hide it, but it's ashame you have to hide your "artistic you".

TheMatrix
October 18th, 2010, 11:57 PM
can't you just lock the screen(log out)?
put a password on your computer and then log out.

Flippy
November 18th, 2010, 08:25 PM
Sorry for the month bump, something happened related to this recently... and instead of making a new thread I thought this would be easier.

She went to my room to give me some clothes, but I wasn't home and I forgot to hide my drawings and she saw them, I know she saw them because when I got home they were scattered all over the place and she was the only one home at that time.

When I got home and fount out that I was shocked, but she didn't mention anything at all, and I said I wanted to buy a tablet, which I did (Draw digitally), I am now wondering what kind of BS is going on her head about this.

I am now officially in trouble, either that or it's better to see she really doesn't care about me doing that.

Must be more careful in the future.

Scooby Dooby Drew
November 18th, 2010, 10:50 PM
:p
I say just confront her about it, there's nothing homosexual about liking shojo anime :p
I'm gay and I generally prefer more action-y anime and manga
Really I think sexuality isn't that big of a factor in something like that

So yeah... Keep drawing! ^__^ I'd like to see your artwork someday